Schwarzy_91 saidHow can I stay motivated with my diet and not cheat. I am carb cycling. If anyone has heard of the book carb nite, that is what I am trying to work with. How can I prevent myself from giving into my urges? Also in the past I have been telling myself I am going to lose weight to find a boyfriend. I can't do that anymore. I need to lose weight for me. So how can I change that mindset?
Get the help of a mental health professional. It's clear that you have many things going on, and it's not just weight. SEE A PRO.
With regard to diet, it's about metabolic optimization, insulin management, and training the machine to trend the way you want.
I concur with the views above about Paleo.
The poster, without saying too much, reveals by his inactions and low esteem, however, that he needs mental health care, and guidance. His issues, aren't just over weight. Weight is a symptom of his underlying issues that need to be addressed, which they can't properly be here (nor, should they be).