owl_bundy said1. i think the article written by the college student is bullshit and she played herself. she basically went ahead and embraced the negative stereotypes that society continues to push onto black women and had the nerve to say that it's "black culture". that's sad that she wrote that shit as a college student.
2. think that it's crazy how you have some white gay guys especially in the response box acting like they know what it's like to experience shit like sexism and racism because they experience homophobia when all three are different struggles that can't be compared and should be respectfully separated from each other.
basically, telling women and nonwhites that they should "get over it" when they don't know what either one is like or could be empathetic towards both. in one of the comments, one person said that the author, as a black woman, had more rights than they did as a white gay guy. to me, it showed how severely disconnected to reality some of the guys responding were. last time i remember, a black woman had to deal with facing racism and sexism. she can't hide who she is. unless he's effeminate as all hell, walking around with rainbow flags, with a "i'm gay" t-shirt, nobody knows if that man is gay. nobody can tell someone is gay just by looking at them so no.... it's not the same. you can hide being gay but you can't hide being black female or a white male. let's cut the bullshit here. another thing that i don't get, there's a lot of gay white guys use being white to their benefit in the gay community and life period. some of them even try to create an atmosphere that is like jim crow or the 60s towards nonwhites where they're doing segregating and shit BUT then they're trying to act like victims because of the homophobia shit. makes no sense. that is everyday shit. it makes you wonder if these guys are even aware of their environment or reality for that matter.
3. don't like how she singled out and generalized white gay guys for something that a good number of gay guys from all walks of life do. i've seen more gay black men do it than white guys period. why isn't she saying anything about them?
I have come to the conclusion that - while they are different - these three groups are related because those doing the oppressing are generally the same and motivated for the same reason: Straight, white, cisgender males of privilege who are afraid that any deviation from the status quo will diminish that privilege.
You don't think there is any sexism at the root of the way fem gay men are treated? They are choosing the "inferior" role which an alpha male can't get his head around, so he responds with anger or derision. Likewise, a butch lesbian or any woman who asserts herself in business or sports is perceived as a threat because she is seen as trying to claim territory that has long been a male domain.
I'm convinced that half the hostility towards Obama and Hillary Clinton is this: a subset of the population can't stand the idea that a black man or a woman could not only be in control, but be successful at it. I think the only reason Sarah Palin got as far as she did is because she was a figure of fun, and these people probably saw her candidacy as "cute" but not to be taken seriously. Plus she reinforced norms by highlighting her status as a mom, which such men would find comforting. Scary stuff when you're electing the person who is one heartbeat away from the launch codes.
One more thought about the gay vs. black dynamic. You pointed out that a gay person could at least attempt to remain anonymous, while a person of color has no choice but to be identified as such. However, people of color don't have to explain or hide their ethnicity to their families, either. While it's true that there are some distinct differences, there are also some strong parallels and I feel like - by respectfully honoring both - we can accomplish more by working together.