Dating (Reality TV Style)

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    Jan 10, 2009 12:30 AM GMT
    Is it alright to date more than one person if you are honest about it and truly have the intentions of not having sex until you have narrowed it down to that one person?

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    Tell me what you think, why, and under what conditions (if any) would that be acceptable if you say no.

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    Yes. Many people "date" more than one person at a time anyway. It may be overly honest to tell the others that you are seeing other people, but it's better to hear it from that person than someone else. But then, how do you tell how many is too many to date and how do you let the other know you increased or decreased the count or should you...
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    Jan 10, 2009 1:03 AM GMT
    When you're dating, you reveal stuff about yourself a little at a time. Depending on how far into the dating you are, exclusivity may (or may not) be appropriate to discuss and until it is, it's really none of his business. After all, you should be saving yourself for "the one". I'm kidding about that. On your way to fulfilling the dream of the white picket fence, the constant parade of irrisistable puppies, home made apple pie and a red checkerboard apron, have yourself some fun, and make sure it's fun by protecting yourself each and everytime, cuz you don't want an unwanted pregnancy or herpes or cooties or anything along those lines, unless you're a cooties-chaser, but that's another discussion altogether. Whatever you do, be sure to wear clean underwear and floss and any combination thereof.
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    Jan 10, 2009 1:46 PM GMT
    Young man if you are not having sex with any of men it's fine. If These are all first dates why would you reveal that information. I'm sure that you are not the only person that they are dating so you run the risk of being dropped frm the line as well.

    As far the numbers please use common sense.icon_rolleyes.gif

    Good Lord man!!!!! Bless you heart!

    Dating Reality TV style are you kidding! If that's the dating pool that you use....STOP DATING or choose a better class men.
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    Jan 10, 2009 4:49 PM GMT
    Unless you swear an oath of monogamy to the person you are under no obligation to refrain from dating other people or sleeping with other people. At some point, you may be feeling like you want to make things more serious and can stop seeing other guys as a personal commitment to the budding relationship. Then at a later point you guys can have the monogamy chat and see where that goes.

    But to assume that he is being monogamous when you haven't talked about it is a good way to get your feelings hurt.
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    Jan 10, 2009 7:19 PM GMT
    You will, still, at some point have to ask youself, when is it no longer dating and me just hanging out with a friend? And who's paying the price (both monetarily and emotionally) if I just see you as fun, cool to hang with... a friend?

    "Dating", for me has never really worked unless we both just decided "let's be friends", then ultimately you're haning out, enjoying wach others company but by definition just friends - no emotional "connection", no sex, no expectations.
    Otherwise in "dating", sooner or later one ends up wanting more.

    Granted sometimes it takes a number of dates before you "connect" and find this could be the one, so dating others at the same time is fair... And if you are doing that, then your approach to it, I would say is the right avenue.

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    Jan 14, 2009 1:46 AM GMT
    I appreciate all the responses that everyone has provided so far and those that will be posted after this. There is one thing that it sounds like I may need to clarify. This is a hypothetical question and not something I am currently doing. However, I did ask this same question to my close friends and parents.