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    Jan 10, 2009 1:52 AM GMT
    Okay, as a virgin I am trying to prepare for the thingd I am most worried about ahead of time. One of these worries: small dicks


    Yes, I have a small cock.

    *Pause for reader to finish laughing* lol

    I was not gifted when it came to cock size.hah. And I can take jokes in real life and over the internet. I mean I can't even put on a condom! lol.

    However, if I take home a guy... and he pulls my clothes off... how do I prepare myself for rejection or being laughed at.

    I'm not ashamed... I had not control over it... but I have other assets guys may like: I shoot a lot and far. and I have a ass that is twice as tight as normal (long sotry as to how I know... but a doctor meausred my ass muscle strength.

    I'm not ready for sex quite yet... I still have things to change first. But I can't change the size of my penis (3.5in long x 3in around)

    How the hell to I prepare for being the laughed at and rejected as not everyone will be understanding?

    *Finish laughing if needed *lol
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    Jan 10, 2009 2:10 AM GMT
    There are people who have a small cock fetish. You could take someone home, pull it out, and watch that guy be overcome with lust.

    But, for the non-fetishists, just don't make a big deal out of it. By making a production out of dick size you call attention to it and it makes you seem less confident. And nothing is more of a boner-killer than a lack of confidence. You have the dick nature gave you, own it. If someone wants to snicker at it, grab their ankles and fuck them until they cry. If they want to behave like gentlemen and have enjoyable sex (which is unrelated to dick size) then have a wild good time.
  • metalxracr

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    Jan 10, 2009 2:13 AM GMT
    If he is shallow enough to laugh at that, then it makes it easier for you to weed him out as one of the bad ones. I have had sex with huge guys and small guys.
    The first time I had sex with a small guy I did not care about his size, as I thought he was a great guy and was extremely hot. So far... my sex experiences with him have been some of my best experiences!

    So don't worry, you'll be fine! If a guy really wants you, he'll take you however you are!
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jan 10, 2009 3:03 AM GMT
    I applaud you for being able to say this in a public forum!

    I reality, only those with a big dick fetish will reject you for that, the rest of us will look for other, more important qualities such as: you have cute face with a nice smile, are ambitious and follow through in pursuing your dreams.
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    Jan 10, 2009 6:14 AM GMT
    Don't worry about that, there is more to sex than dick size.

    I prefer a small dick guy over an oversized one icon_smile.gif

    Just be natural and enjoy the situation. So many things can ruin sex when you take guy's cloths off (bad breath, sweat odor, skin condition and so on), so who cares what size it is...
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    Jan 10, 2009 2:07 PM GMT
    i think if you've picked a sensible and mature guy to be with, he wouldn't laugh. i've come across (no pun intended) many smaller sized guys, in comparison to my own, and it doesn't matter as long as you're both enjoying yourself. like eranoosh says, there's more to worry about than just your penis. bad breath and hygiene is a deal breaker no questions asked!

    ps. the first guy i was with was small but he gave the best head i've ever had and to this day i've never had anyone better so if you're still concerned maybe brush up on some other areas of sex and foreplay and make him (and you) care less about things that probably aren't such a concern. the other guy's probably thinking he's bagged a hottie!
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    Jan 10, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
    First of all, I think your being able to post frankly about your concern shows that, while you are concerned about your modest endowment, you aren't completely freaked out by it. That will serve you well.

    Personally, I don't think you need to mention it all to potential partners. My hunch is that you will find yourself attracted to guys who are way past being shallow enough to be hung up on the size of a guy's dick. And if they are, drop them and move on. It's their issue, not yours.

    I've had a very small number of sex partners, but they've run the range from about 3.5in to well over 9. In my experience there was no difference at all in overall enjoyment or turn on. Different stuff was better with different guys - in some cases because of size (e.g. oral with a huge cock is kind of hard work). My own view is that a big cock has a certain mantle piece value, but beyond that not much. Overall what matters is the sense of connection I have with the guy and our drive to make the most of our two man pleasure conspiracies.

    You seem like a great guy, so get out there and go for it.

  • Koaa2

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    Jan 10, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    We all have things we don't like about ourselves. The trick is to learn to accept it, and go on with life. In the long scheme of things, the size of ones cock really doesn't matter at all. There are far more important things that make an individual and/or a relationship.

    Like some have said, a lot of guys enjoy smaller cocks. I like to be able to take a whole cock in my mouth and massage it easily, without getting that mouth stretched tired feeling to my jaw and taking a good load with the whole thing in.
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    Jan 10, 2009 11:34 PM GMT
    Are most small cocked guys bottoms? I mean there is know way I could properly top a guy... my dick wouldn't even reach the prostate probably lol not to mention the condom would fall off.

    Am I just destined to be a bottom?
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    Jan 10, 2009 11:36 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the encouragement too guys. Now all I need to do is find a guy who like me for me and has a small cock fetish... but isn't sketchy either. lol
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    Jan 11, 2009 12:32 AM GMT
    cjcscuba1984 saidAre most small cocked guys bottoms? I mean there is know way I could properly top a guy... my dick wouldn't even reach the prostate probably lol not to mention the condom would fall off.

    Am I just destined to be a bottom?
    well you could always revert to strap on play if the other guy wants to be penetrated. Or they have htese things that you like, put on your dick and it's basically just a sleeve that's real thick and dick shaped.

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    Jan 11, 2009 4:43 AM GMT
    cjcscuba1984 saidAre most small cocked guys bottoms? I mean there is know way I could properly top a guy... my dick wouldn't even reach the prostate probably lol not to mention the condom would fall off.

    Am I just destined to be a bottom?


    You can reach the prostate with a finger and they make condoms for smaller guys, so if you get the urge to top go for it! Don't let a perceived disadvantage hinder your exploration. I mean, you haven't even had sex yet and you are already putting yourself in a very specific niche.

    I dated two guys who had your dimensions. Both loved to top and they both did it like champs. Sex isn't about the equipment, it is about the passion you put into it. What you need to do, most of all I think, is start sharing your sexuality with other people and expand your horizons. Who know, a year from now you could be a dom top with a live in slave for all we know ^_^

    go get 'em!
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    Jan 11, 2009 9:16 PM GMT
    I actually prefer a guy with a smaller than average dick because I have a strong gag response but I really like to 69. My present partner has a small one and it has not bothered us at all during passion. I can put his whole package in my mouth and really get him excited. Love it. I am sure there are a lot of guys like me out there for you.
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    Jan 16, 2009 1:18 AM GMT
    Dude you have a great attitude. Dont even sweat it. I use to hook up with a guy with a small penis. It may have been around 3.5 to 4 inches. He never let it get him down. We never even talked about his size. It made it very easy for me to go down on him too.
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    Jan 19, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    Honestly, the more you worry about it, the more of a problem it will be. Your concerns are understandable, but self confidence is a heck of a lot more important sexually than penis size. If you make an issue of it with your partner before or during sex it will only be a major turn off. If you feel a true NEED to talk about it, do so after sex.

    Some guys may very well reject you over it, most won't though, especially if you get to know them first. If you really want to avoid rejection, understandable if you feel that way, then you should avoid hook ups. A guy who has genuine feelings for you will want your cock, not becuase of its size, but because it is YOUR cock.

    Topping is certainly not out of the question. Many guys can get off well from just a finger or two. if you want to give it a shot, but again I'd suggest you try it with a guy you have an actual relationship with. A man who cares for you will more likely have patience and desire to make it work. Personally, when bottoming I get off more from the feeling of another strong, self-confident, powerful man dominating me, rather than the actual feelings of penetration.
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    Jan 19, 2009 4:26 AM GMT
    Do you have a small cock....



    Or do you just think you do because you've watched too much porn featuring well endowed specimens and actually believe everyone who claims to be 9 inches and beer can thick on the internet
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    Jan 19, 2009 4:54 AM GMT
    big whoop, you gots a small one... life goes on, learn to give good head!

    Just hope your not judging it off photos and porn videos.. they aren't choosen for the brains!!
  • rnch

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    Jan 19, 2009 1:25 PM GMT
    in my "research" on gay men, sex and penis size i have come to this conclusion about a big penis: a big one is like an italian sports car in that it is nice to look at and that's about all.

    judging by the dimensions posted by animan my bf and i are both barely average; but he makes me happier in bed than guys much larger than him.

    remember, the BIGGEST sex organ is the one between your ears, not behind your zipper! icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 19, 2009 3:51 PM GMT


    "remember, the BIGGEST sex organ is the one between your ears, not behind your zipper!"

    Gold Standard statement of the day, mch!!!

    You just listen to that, cjcscuba1984; he's 100% right.

    -Doug
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    Jan 19, 2009 6:17 PM GMT
    Dude, I applaud you for your openness.

    To me, big dicks are an erotic fantasy - but in the real world, size doesn't matter to me. I'm a little above average, and for some reason the majority of guys that I've had sex with were really big, I mean BIG - nobody ever made me feel inadequate.

    Guys know that there's nothing you can do about it, that's just the way you are, and any sane and decent person would never make fun of you for it. As many of these guys have posted, a good number of guys actually like them smaller. So don't worry about it. Sex to me is 90% personality anyway.

    Some guys are super insecure about how their dicks look too. Some say "the head's too small" or "I don't like it's color" or "it curves to the right". Everybody has something to be insecure about when it comes to this socially volatile part of ourselves.

    I also think another reason there is this tendency to be insecure is that we never really get to see a ton of dicks on a daily basis from real, regular people. All we see are porn stars - and that's not really a good basis for reality.
  • Latenight30

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    Jan 19, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    To quote the females...
    It's not the size it's how it's used. And Be confident about who you are and what you got. Yeah our society is totally wrapped up in personal image.. thats why we are going to the gym.. hince this site, But for me confidence is bigger than any cock out there and is hotter.
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    Jan 19, 2009 6:52 PM GMT
    Latenight30 saidTo quote the females...
    It's not the size it's how it's used. And Be confident about who you are and what you got. Yeah our society is totally wrapped up in personal image.. thats why we are going to the gym.. hince this site, But for me confidence is bigger than any cock out there and is hotter.


    AGREED!
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    Jan 19, 2009 9:25 PM GMT
    Can you work with a small cock?
    I know many that can.
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    Jan 23, 2009 10:03 AM GMT
    LutherGooch saidCan you work with a small cock?
    I know many that can.


    Well I can jack off...though sometimes i have to use a few fingers... unless i get fully hard.


    I can piss... but I have to get really close to the urinals in public places... if someone looked at my crotch area they'd probable need a magnifing glass to see it lol either that or they'd think I was transgendered or got my dick sliced off!
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    Jan 23, 2009 10:08 AM GMT
    AMT87 saidDo you have a small cock....



    Or do you just think you do because you've watched too much porn featuring well endowed specimens and actually believe everyone who claims to be 9 inches and beer can thick on the internet


    Well of course I compare myself to the porn stars... but I do know they are not always "natural" and guys like that have to be balenced off by guys like me in order to make the average size 5.5 to 6.0.

    As some of you may know... probably because i'm worried... or conceeded lol.... I am a virgin. I'm glad though that bottoming turns me on. otherwise I'd probably be asexual. I just don't see how my pencil could stimulate a guy properly. But I have NO experience, so I'll listen to you guys.