My Son Wears Dresses, and That's OK With Me

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    Jul 15, 2014 2:44 AM GMT
    My Son Wears Dresses, and That's OK With Me


    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-menachem/my-son-wears-dresses-and-thats-ok-with-me_b_5578709.html
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    Jul 15, 2014 1:51 PM GMT
    "The saddest thing about the exchange was learning how my friend felt about being gay. As if it were a curse -- and not the awesome, endless dude party it really is. Then again, he's married now. He probably forgot."

    Heh. Grass is always greener, bro.

    In all seriousness I have friends, a couple younger than me, whose younger son has periodically preferred stereotypically female clothes, usually for a costume of some sort. They are completely not freaked out about it but encounter the same kind of "correction" from other adults.

    My sister-in-law reports that our nephew, age 2.5, did not like any of the "boy" bedspreads, so they just LOOKED around the corner at the "girl" bedspreads, only to have a store employee swoop down and point out their "error".

    This stuff is deeply engrained in our culture, but still artificial and I think it is funny how little kids - unaware of what is "normal" for boys or girls - are likely to wander over those lines.
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    Jul 15, 2014 2:10 PM GMT
    I particularly loved the part where he dons his wife's dress and walks the dog with the kids. It's the kind of moment that stays with you as a child, and grows in importance as you grow older.
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    Jul 15, 2014 2:44 PM GMT
    ShiftyJK08 said
    This stuff is deeply engrained in our culture, but still artificial and I think it is funny how little kids - unaware of what is "normal" for boys or girls - are likely to wander over those lines.


    My younger brother's best friend when he was a small kid was the girl (same age) that lived across the street. She and he would play for hours with her dolls, much to our dad's consternation. My dad's constant berating and punishments (he once made him sit on the front porch in our sister's dress so his friends could make fun of him) were of no avail. In spite of our father's ire my brother never gave up his friend.
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    Jul 15, 2014 2:56 PM GMT
    What a wonderful man, husband, and father! He's the type of man I hope to have as a partner one day.

    And shame on the gay friend for being ashamed of being gay.
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    Jul 15, 2014 8:31 PM GMT
    Is there a reason to read the article? He said his son wears dresses, and that's OK with him. Got it. Thanks.
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    Jul 16, 2014 1:59 AM GMT
    What I dont understand about society. And I never will.. But it seems that girls and women have a much bigger choice of clothing then boys and men. Women can wear booty shorts and short shorts and it dont matter what body type they have, they can wear pants of any style, they can wear skirts of any style and length. plus tops and shoes as well..

    Where Us guys only have a choice of shorts at or below knees and long pants.....

    Anything else worn is mocked by society as being "gay" and "weird"etc.

    As far a swimwear goes.. Women again have more choices. Every suit made for them whether its one peice or 2 peice, has the "brief" style bottom that dosent cover any of the leg, yes some have the skirt as well. and women of ny body type and size can wear them.

    Us guys, were only accepted by society to wear long boardshorts and shorts to the knees.

    Anything else worn such as speedos, squarecuts, or short shorts is mocked by society as "gay"..

    WTF happened to guys not showing there upper thighs? i was in my 20s during the 1980s and back then guys wore short shorts and speedos. Now it seems that the male thigh is like a private part and needs to stay covered.. NOT ME.. I can care less about what society thinks. An example, I saw a pic of young guys running a track meet. They had on short running shorts, but had on long jammers underneith to the knees which looked totally stupid.... Just because they dont want to expose bare skin above the knees. WTF is wearing the short running shorts if your going to have longer shorts on under them? Just dont wear them at all....

    I know this may be off topic of boys wearing dresses, But I used to wear my sisters dresses when i was in my early teens when i was home alone.

    4 yrs ago I started wearing non traditional kilts on a daily basis and to this day i still wear them and have about 10 or more of them already.

    I find this society pressure total BULLSHIT!!....
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    Jul 16, 2014 2:49 AM GMT
    davidingeorgia saidWhat I dont understand about society. And I never will.. But it seems that girls and women have a much bigger choice of clothing then boys and men. Women can wear booty shorts and short shorts and it dont matter what body type they have, they can wear pants of any style, they can wear skirts of any style and length. plus tops and shoes as well..

    Where Us guys only have a choice of shorts at or below knees and long pants.....

    Anything else worn is mocked by society as being "gay" and "weird"etc.

    As far a swimwear goes.. Women again have more choices. Every suit made for them whether its one peice or 2 peice, has the "brief" style bottom that dosent cover any of the leg, yes some have the skirt as well. and women of ny body type and size can wear them.

    Us guys, were only accepted by society to wear long boardshorts and shorts to the knees.

    Anything else worn such as speedos, squarecuts, or short shorts is mocked by society as "gay"..

    WTF happened to guys not showing there upper thighs? i was in my 20s during the 1980s and back then guys wore short shorts and speedos. Now it seems that the male thigh is like a private part and needs to stay covered.. NOT ME.. I can care less about what society thinks. An example, I saw a pic of young guys running a track meet. They had on short running shorts, but had on long jammers underneith to the knees which looked totally stupid.... Just because they dont want to expose bare skin above the knees. WTF is wearing the short running shorts if your going to have longer shorts on under them? Just dont wear them at all....

    I know this may be off topic of boys wearing dresses, But I used to wear my sisters dresses when i was in my early teens when i was home alone.

    4 yrs ago I started wearing non traditional kilts on a daily basis and to this day i still wear them and have about 10 or more of them already.

    I find this society pressure total BULLSHIT!!....


    Relax, Melinda.

    You claim that you "can [sic] care less about what society thinks."

    So why is this grinding your ballsack so much?
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    Jul 16, 2014 1:01 PM GMT
    just getting the point across hoping others will follow.... which they wont..
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    Jul 16, 2014 1:34 PM GMT
    davidingeorgia saidWhat I dont understand about society. And I never will.. But it seems that girls and women have a much bigger choice of clothing then boys and men. Women can wear booty shorts and short shorts and it dont matter what body type they have, they can wear pants of any style, they can wear skirts of any style and length. plus tops and shoes as well..

    Where Us guys only have a choice of shorts at or below knees and long pants.....

    Anything else worn is mocked by society as being "gay" and "weird"etc.

    As far a swimwear goes.. Women again have more choices. Every suit made for them whether its one peice or 2 peice, has the "brief" style bottom that dosent cover any of the leg, yes some have the skirt as well. and women of ny body type and size can wear them.

    Us guys, were only accepted by society to wear long boardshorts and shorts to the knees.

    Anything else worn such as speedos, squarecuts, or short shorts is mocked by society as "gay"..

    WTF happened to guys not showing there upper thighs? i was in my 20s during the 1980s and back then guys wore short shorts and speedos. Now it seems that the male thigh is like a private part and needs to stay covered.. NOT ME.. I can care less about what society thinks. An example, I saw a pic of young guys running a track meet. They had on short running shorts, but had on long jammers underneith to the knees which looked totally stupid.... Just because they dont want to expose bare skin above the knees. WTF is wearing the short running shorts if your going to have longer shorts on under them? Just dont wear them at all....

    I know this may be off topic of boys wearing dresses, But I used to wear my sisters dresses when i was in my early teens when i was home alone.

    4 yrs ago I started wearing non traditional kilts on a daily basis and to this day i still wear them and have about 10 or more of them already.

    I find this society pressure total BULLSHIT!!....


    I'm not quite as militant about it but I do agree with the principle.

    If you can get critical mass, anything can become fashionable, case in point sagging your pants, which you would think would send a more "gay" message given what it reveals.

    I read recently that half shirts for guys are supposedly making a comeback. That is another example of a fashion trend that would get you labeled as "gay or weird" today unless you're a football player. For the guys who work their ass off on their abs, it seems also kind of unfair that girls "can" do this and guys "can't". Of course they can, it's just not in fashion and thus will get them negative attention.

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    Jul 16, 2014 2:39 PM GMT
    if gays are the 2-3% of the population do you really think the other 97% will wast the time to forum a constructive reaction to a lady construction worker or a man in a kilt?
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    Jul 17, 2014 5:08 PM GMT
    I think that is sick and nuts and anyone who thinks I am cruel I dont care.Save your cross dressing or whatever till you live on your own.Ryan
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    Jul 17, 2014 8:53 PM GMT
    ^ Why does that upset your apple cart so much? Is it hurting you?