second date? money mouth?

  • being_human

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    Jul 15, 2014 5:05 AM GMT
    I met up with this rich guy. our first date clearly showed he was richer than I previously thought, for which I was a lil intimidated. throughout, he talked about big things from luxury to extensive travel, occasionally advertising his phone or car or house.
    next day he called, he was sweet. completely different from the date. there s no chemistry yet.
    if u were in my shoes, would you second date d guy? got me thinkin.. maybe he was just bein his normal "rich" self .. or Not.. i dont know.
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    Jul 15, 2014 11:51 AM GMT
    Idk, here are my random thoughts: whenever someone goes on the date, as I see it, everyone wants to put his best foot forward. If he made all of his money working really hard and sees it as his best side, then that's why he showed he is rich.Maybe he thought it'd increase his chances with you. That means he likes you, maybe even more than you like him.
    So yes, I probably would go on the second date.
  • being_human

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    Jul 15, 2014 1:41 PM GMT
    Okajuurou saidIdk, here are my random thoughts: whenever someone goes on the date, as I see it, everyone wants to put his best foot forward. If he made all of his money working really hard and sees it as his best side, then that's why he showed he is rich.Maybe he thought it'd increase his chances with you. That means he likes you, maybe even more than you like him.
    So yes, I probably would go on the second date.

    yeah.. Or, .. really trying hard to get naked with me.
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    Jul 15, 2014 3:50 PM GMT
    Is it so difficult to find a sugar baby then, if he is so rich? I honestly thought there are tons of available people who are hot and are ready to be with rich guys. Arvie Madison was one example lol
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 15, 2014 4:38 PM GMT
    I'd say give the guy a second chance. He may have been nervous and just stumbling around trying to get you to like him. Seriously, expensive things are nice, and he may have just been sharing with you thoughts about things he is proud to have been able to get through hard work. Or he may be a jerk trying to sway you with his materialism. Don't hate him because he's rich. See if there is anything behind the facade. Rich guys get nervous, too.
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    Jul 15, 2014 5:12 PM GMT
    yeah give him a second chance, you never know it could work out.icon_biggrin.gif
  • mybud

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    Jul 15, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    He's probably just a blow hard and you swallowed every bit of it..The problem with a lot of gays is that they want the gold, but don't wanna do the mining.
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    Jul 16, 2014 4:46 PM GMT
    mybud saidHe's probably just a blow hard and you swallowed every bit of it..The problem with a lot of gays is that they want the gold, but don't wanna do the mining.


    If for sure fancied your answer !
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    Jul 16, 2014 4:56 PM GMT
    I think he was trying to impress you with his wealth?
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    Jul 16, 2014 7:32 PM GMT
    20 years ago I'd feel intimidated to be around someone who makes as much as I make now.

    Never discount the possibility of being in his shoes financially. He may seem rich now, but in a few years you might make more than him.
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    Jul 17, 2014 12:53 AM GMT
    Nothing is more off-putting than somebody trying to show off their money.
    But as some have pointed out, he could have just been suffering from first-date jitters. He might not be very creative about small talk. Showing off his toys was all he had to fall back on.
    On the other hand, do you want to get involved with somebody who has lots more money than you and has already shown he's keenly aware of that fact? There are many pitfalls ahead on that road.
  • being_human

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    Jul 18, 2014 4:11 AM GMT
    paulflexes said20 years ago I'd feel intimidated to be around someone who makes as much as I make now.

    Never discount the possibility of being in his shoes financially. He may seem rich now, but in a few years you might make more than him.


    I think it was natural to be a lil intimidated by the other person's wealth. most of us all want to dominate in a relationship, being men n all. but there Are people who are on good payroll n stil manage to be decent about it. n this wasnt. but yeah. second date seems relevant.
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    Jul 18, 2014 4:24 AM GMT
    I've dated some well off guys, and I have to say flaunting materialistic stuff is now such a turn off. It just tells me that he doesn't care about getting to know me, and just uses his wealth to get what he wants. But this is your call.
  • being_human

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    Jul 18, 2014 3:26 PM GMT
    Varus saidI've dated some well off guys, and I have to say flaunting materialistic stuff is now such a turn off. It just tells me that he doesn't care about getting to know me, and just uses his wealth to get what he wants. But this is your call.

    really well put there.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 18, 2014 3:52 PM GMT
    Interesting... Some answers suggest you focus on the other guy and try to understand him, and some, including the OP, say his fault is not focussing on you. Me me me....
  • being_human

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    Jul 18, 2014 4:35 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidInteresting... Some answers suggest you focus on the other guy and try to understand him, and some, including the OP, say his fault is not focussing on you. Me me me....

    some comments just seem to sound right.
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    Jul 18, 2014 11:38 PM GMT
    Lol Sound to me like *you're not that into him**. I dated a couple of *rich* guys in the past, I was kinda not interested in any of them. Lol, I ended up chasing after this one cute younger college guy and this Rich guy was like MAD at me for a while. Lol, go with your instincts.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jul 26, 2014 11:53 AM GMT
    Be honest with yourself.

    There is no chemistry yet?

    Do you see any chance of some chemistry showing up on the second date? If so, there is no harm in trying. If not, why waste everybody's time?

    Frankly, how much does it matter to you that he is seemingly (or self-allegedly) rich? If this appears to be somewhat important to you, admit this to yourself, and grant yourself an experience. If not, why bother?

    SC