Do's & Don'ts of Summer Staying with Friends

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    Jul 15, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
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    Jul 15, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    And don't invite Grindr tricks over unless a three way with your host is intended.
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    Jul 15, 2014 5:29 PM GMT
    They're all good suggestions, but I disagree with the first one....."Let your host know when you intend to leave........." This is misleading. The host decides the duration of your stay, not you - the guest. For instance, if you're invited to stay in the home of someone, they'll tell you what the time frame is. "Come for the weekend" or "Why don't you come up Friday night, through Sunday? We'd love to have you".

    The important thing is NOT to stay any longer than the invitation is for, and if for some reason you can stay only part of the time, fine - say so........but it is the host who issues the invitation and dictates the duration.
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    Jul 15, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    This one happened to us recently:

    Be aware if your hosts (be they a family, a couple or even an individual) need space. Sometimes unplanned things occur which require processing, and when you have extra humans in your home, there is no polite way to say "could you disappear for a few hours?" Take a cue and offer to go fetch dinner, do some shopping or take the dog for a run so they can sort themselves out and get back on their game.
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    Jul 16, 2014 2:05 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidThey're all good suggestions, but I disagree with the first one....."Let your host know when you intend to leave........." This is misleading. The host decides the duration of your stay, not you - the guest. For instance, if you're invited to stay in the home of someone, they'll tell you what the time frame is. "Come for the weekend" or "Why don't you come up Friday night, through Sunday? We'd love to have you".

    The important thing is NOT to stay any longer than the invitation is for, and if for some reason you can stay only part of the time, fine - say so........but it is the host who issues the invitation and dictates the duration.


    OK, so if I am visiting someone and have round-trip airplane tickets, the date of the departure ticket is irrelevant and the departure date must be determined by the host.
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    Jul 16, 2014 2:18 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidAnd don't invite Grindr tricks over unless a three way with your host is intended.

    so wise..
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    Jul 16, 2014 1:57 PM GMT
    huhwhat said
    UndercoverMan saidAnd don't invite Grindr tricks over unless a three way with your host is intended.

    so wise..

    I always used to have trouble remembering this one! icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 16, 2014 2:00 PM GMT
    FRE0 said
    Jockbod48 saidThey're all good suggestions, but I disagree with the first one....."Let your host know when you intend to leave........." This is misleading. The host decides the duration of your stay, not you - the guest. For instance, if you're invited to stay in the home of someone, they'll tell you what the time frame is. "Come for the weekend" or "Why don't you come up Friday night, through Sunday? We'd love to have you".

    The important thing is NOT to stay any longer than the invitation is for, and if for some reason you can stay only part of the time, fine - say so........but it is the host who issues the invitation and dictates the duration.


    OK, so if I am visiting someone and have round-trip airplane tickets, the date of the departure ticket is irrelevant and the departure date must be determined by the host.

    Kidding aside in my prior post isn't what's in this post just courtesy though? You wouldn't make your plane reservations to go visit someone unless you'd cleared the dates with them first would you? I think this is essential to avoid conflict with the host(s).
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    Jul 16, 2014 2:02 PM GMT
    FRE0 said
    Jockbod48 saidThey're all good suggestions, but I disagree with the first one....."Let your host know when you intend to leave........." This is misleading. The host decides the duration of your stay, not you - the guest. For instance, if you're invited to stay in the home of someone, they'll tell you what the time frame is. "Come for the weekend" or "Why don't you come up Friday night, through Sunday? We'd love to have you".

    The important thing is NOT to stay any longer than the invitation is for, and if for some reason you can stay only part of the time, fine - say so........but it is the host who issues the invitation and dictates the duration.


    OK, so if I am visiting someone and have round-trip airplane tickets, the date of the departure ticket is irrelevant and the departure date must be determined by the host.



    A fair question. A person wouldn't make a round trip departure date without consulting with his host. How can anyone choose arrival and departure dates without knowing exactly what days he is invited for? If your host asks you for the weekend, but you find out you can get a cheaper ticket if you stay a whole week, you could try to get your host to put you up for the whole week. You might be such good friends that he'd love to have you for a longer time than his original invitation. If it would be an imposition for you to stay beyond the days you're invited for, you could stay in a hotel for the remaining days you're in that city. Ask him ahead of time though, not after you get there. You don't want to surprise him and put him on the spot of having to keep you longer than he wanted to. But ultimately, you wouldn't just make your reservations without knowing how many days you were invited for.
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    Jul 16, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    What's all this inviting stuff? If we waited to be invited, we'd never get to visit Dizzy world. We try to be considerate by calling a day ahead and we never stay more than two weekends in a row. Actually the last time we visited relatives we know we were no trouble at all because they weren't home! Must have been on vacation. We did leave them all of our extra hot dogs and some potato salad so they would have a nice surprise dinner waiting when they got back, as well as a great thank you note the kids wrote on the kitchen table with their new finger paints. So cute!
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    Jul 18, 2014 4:28 PM GMT
    LJay saidWhat's all this inviting stuff? If we waited to be invited, we'd never get to visit Dizzy world. We try to be considerate by calling a day ahead and we never stay more than two weekends in a row. Actually the last time we visited relatives we know we were no trouble at all because they weren't home! Must have been on vacation. We did leave them all of our extra hot dogs and some potato salad so they would have a nice surprise dinner waiting when they got back, as well as a great thank you note the kids wrote on the kitchen table with their new finger paints. So cute!

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  • madsexy

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    Jul 18, 2014 4:30 PM GMT
    My fiance and I were recently invited to use some friends' apartment in Hawaii "for as long as we wanted" for our honeymoon. I told Jack - let's make sure our honeymoon lasts FOREVER!!! icon_lol.gif

    But let me say this - most of this is just courtesy and sense whether common or uncommon. Even so I appreciate that it's here to consult and guide because it never hurts to have helpful reminders.