There are two sides in all of us, the animal side and the more complex and develop emotional/spiritual side. Having said that there are several factors to keep in mind! if you are the emotional and sensitive type, an emotional/spiritual connection is extremely important to your own personal growth and overall self satisfaction. If you are the type more in touch with the animal side of your human nature, as in all aspects of the physical that your body responds to, whether it be visual or physical stimuli, then I guess sex plays a huge part of your own human evolution?
I have experienced both side of human nature, quite thoroughly and completely to its full potential. I've been fortunate enough to have the influence of very positive and wise people in my life, and also at being blessed to reciprocate; as gratitude plays a huge part in my everyday life. It helps me respond and find answers to things and situations, I have yet to understand.
Its being my experience, that my "being" is definitely not one dimensional. A diamond to the naked eye have many facets, that which makes it stand out, right!? but too often our primal perception of its radiance, beauty, and worth, is in my opinion short sighted and much distorted. Primal human needs like a faceted Diamond are at best superficial, as it only responds to how we see and how it makes our bodies feel; I sure hope that as human beings we are more then that. A Diamond's radiance, beauty, and value derives from the chemical compounds trapped within its light giving properties, but its light given properties go much much deeper, as it turns out a Mineralogist knows that its radiance is a result of what his naked eye can't see. What hides in its chemical composition is what makes a Diamond shine!! Humans are no different from this analogy. Indeed beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Real attraction is not what your eyes or needs perceives as beautiful or necessary, but how capable you are to see beauty in everything or everyone.
An emotionally/spiritually driven person is much like a mineralogist, one who studies the core chemical composition of minerals, of which semi-precious and precious stones are made of; much like an emotionally/spiritually driven individual is interested and attractive to the deeper core/composition of the self. Unlike a Gemologist, as in a physically and sexually driven individual, whose only concern/interest is the use and appearance of a gemstone's visual effect, as in sex appeal, to sastify his physical and physiological needs.
Finally, I for one can't understand why gay men in particular have so many inadequacies within the many scale measurements of attraction? gosh I have no problem whatsoever responding to the countless physical, emotional, or sexual needs of anyone who is willing to open up to me, and I to them! as long as it is mutual of course.