Very very worried...

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    Jan 10, 2009 11:28 AM GMT
    Hi everyone, I did something extremely stupid last night and am now really shitting myself with worry.

    I am in Thailand and had sex last night with a ladyboy. I was extremely drunk and wasn't thinking at all straight. I'm now really worried that I may have caught HIV and I can't stop thinking about it. I can't believe how stupid I was.

    I want to explain quite graphically what happened as hopefully someone will be able to give me an indication of the risk of infection.

    We took turns sucking each others cock without protection, neither of us came but I was too drunk to notice whether he had any pre cum release. I don't have any cuts in my mouth, although did have quite chapped lips a few weeks ago. I also have a lip piercing.

    I had anal sex with him using a condom, I have quite a large cock but I'm sure he takes it all the time and was quite accomodating - I certainly didn't notice any blood. Here's the real stupid part.. I then got him to fuck me, but we only had the one condom which was the one on my cock, so he just pulled it off, put it on his cock and fucked me. His cock was alot smaller than mine so the condom probably wouldn't have been very tight.

    God, just typing this makes me feel sick, I am so stupid.

    After a while of fucking, I think I sucked him off some more. I then found out a bit later on that apparently he came while fucking me. I'm not 100% sure he did and may have just been saying it for the sake of sounding pleasured, he was still quite hard after so may well have been lying about cumming. He would have had the condom on at the time but I very much doubt it was a good fit.

    He also rimmed me for quite a while too.

    After the act, he left and I just feel asleep on the bed, I didn't wash my ass out all night.

    I fingered myself this morning just to see if my ass smelt of cum, but all I could smell was condom lubrication - obviously not the greatest test!

    Clearly this ladyboy gets fucked by different guys on a very regular basis. The fact that he carried a condom and washed twice (once before and once after the act) is a little more positive, but clearly he's still a very high risk.

    I am so fucking stupid, and am now really worried.

    What makes it worse is that I am in a relationship back home and now don't know what to do because I have just read it takes up to 14 weeks to be able to take the test.

    When I get home, my partner is obviously going to want to have sex and I don't know what to do. If I come clean and explain that I would rather wait for 14 weeks and explain the reasons why then 100% certain my relationship will be in tatters.

    I'm so mad at myself icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 10, 2009 12:48 PM GMT
    Why don't you go to one of the big hospitals in Bangkok and ask for PEP? If they have it and think you have been realistically exposed to HIV then they will give you a course of pills to take over a number of weeks. They are antiretrovirals, I'm not sure how they work but they can stop the HIV transmission. However, you need to get to the hospital in the next 72 hours as the treatment is not effective after this period.

    Turn off your computer now and go to the hospital and get some informed advice.
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    Jan 11, 2009 1:39 AM GMT
    This walk in clinic is affiliated with Bangkok Hospital. I would go to see them ASAP, tell them you had unprotected sex and that you want 'morning after' HIV prophylaxis:

    Bangkok International Clinic
    Rambuttri Village Hotel,
    Soi Rambuttri, Chakrapong Rd.,
    Pranakorn, Bangkok 10200
    Tel.: 0-2629-5260, Fax: 0-2269-5261
    Clinic hous: 8.00 a.m.- 8.00 p.m.

    Best of luck.
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    Jan 11, 2009 1:04 PM GMT
    Well I must admit that was not very wise what you did. Chances are you are fine, but I would get tested over the next few weeks to make sure, and get re-tested again. Thank you for posting your story because it has some good lessons for other gay men. One is getting drunk increases your likelihood of doing something risky, and another is make sure you have enough condoms at hand.

    Good luck.
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    Jan 12, 2009 5:25 AM GMT
    I miss that thrill. Lucky lady boy. I hatez 'em.
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 12, 2009 1:12 PM GMT
    That really unfortunate but at the heat of thing , people will do careless things. I been to Thailand. Despite abundance of opportunity I will be very careful to have sex with anyone especially in a sex industry. Get yourself tested and please wear a condom when you get home and have sex with your bf.
  • Latenight30

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    Jan 13, 2009 12:01 PM GMT
    I just hope you are okay. Follow all the instructions above and when you get home go see someone local as well.
    And DON"T DO IT AGAIN!!!
    Best of luck!
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    Jan 13, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    This might be a good time to examine your drinking. Lord knows I love a good cocktail, but you engaged in very risky behavior and from the sound of it this is not behavior you would engage in while sober.