owl_bundy saidtrue love is unconditional. in other words, regardless of what happens whether a good or a bad day, no matter how they look whether they get skinny, fat, start balding, get grey hairs or whatever, whether you guys have a fight or sing-a-long, you hurt each others feelings-you both still love each other regardless. you both know it to the point where you don't even have to remind each other about it. you're comfortable with the fact. you both accept each other for who you are, aren't, the good, the bad and the ugly and etc. you'd die for them. if someone disrespected them or messed with them, you'd take it personal too. you can say the same thing about family except the difference is you're romantically involved with that person.
that sounds a bit cheesy but it's true or at least that's what i think.
Right on Bundy, you rock!!
It takes a lot of courage to accept a person for what they are, and while loving yourself first is a must; in my personal experience it takes more then loving yourself to love someone else. Through my own relationships with gay men, I find that a number of them seem to suffer from a lack of self respect, common sense, and morals...yes gay people can have morals too!! growing up as a gay teen myself from the late seventies through early eighties, there were no positive gay male models to emulate/look up to. Being in a monogamous and loving relationship was not a priority of gay men back then, it was more about having fun and sex. Twenty years have come to pass, and I'm afraid the perception have not changed. AIDS seems to have done very little (among young gay men, as well as the ones from my generation)to educate and change their sexual habits, but more so about the role of love and commitment in a gay relationship.
I agree with everything you've stated above, but I also like to add that even thou Love is a long formula with many different figures, the final answer =commitment; which requires a lot of give and takes, as in some form of sacrifice. Love is not about someone loving you, or you being totally in love with someone! IT MUST BE MUTUAL, AND IN SOME CASES WITH SOME SACRIFICE.
Thank you Sydneyrugbyjock73! great topic of discussion!