My husband's birthday today

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    Jul 22, 2014 2:24 PM GMT
    He turned 80! An amazing guy, no one believes he's that old.

    Even our doctor, reading his latest routine lab work with us both there last month, said he's got nothing wrong with him, he's gonna live to be 120. I said: "Doctor, can I have a second opinion?" I got smacked. icon_redface.gif

    I wanted to take him down to Key West for a week, or on a cruise, but he said no, our friends are here. Yet we're not doing anything much today. A little cake and hors d'oeuvres for about 50 friends this afternoon (everything, including the space & decorations, donated & arranged by local merchants who all adore him, I didn't have to do a thing), then a quiet supper out tonight just for us.

    He still hasn't decided which restaurant he wants, but I can make sure there are flowers on the table when he arrives, if it's any of our regular places.

    I'm kinda disappointed today will be so low-key, but that's what he wanted. I told him his birthday's not over yet, though. I consider the entire coming year his birthday, the whole time he's 80, and he's gonna be getting vacations and surprises throughout. It isn't everyday you get to be 80. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 22, 2014 2:27 PM GMT
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    Jul 22, 2014 2:36 PM GMT
    its just a number but every ten years we cross a threshold it seems. Extra sensitivity and understanding is in order. He might be prone to exaggerate other small issues.

    over late morning mimosa's tell him how important he is in your life.
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    Jul 22, 2014 3:00 PM GMT
    Happy birthday!
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    Jul 22, 2014 3:02 PM GMT
    pellaz saidits just a number but every ten years we cross a threshold it seems. Extra sensitivity and understanding is in order. He might be prone to exaggerate other small issues.

    over late morning mimosa's tell him how important he is in your life.

    Thanks. I do try to do that daily. And in my warped way I try to turn it into a silly game, to make him laugh. Laughter is what all his friends, who predate me, tell me has really revitalized him. So I try to keep him laughing.

    One game I play is "Did I tell you today how much I love you?" First I say that, and then he always answers no, to which I reply with some nonsense like:

    "OK, I'll put it on the calendar for later."
    "Well I've been very busy."
    "I can't be expected to remember everything."
    "It was scheduled for 10 this morning, you must have missed it."
    "I guess I forgot, sorry. I'll try again tomorrow."
    "Then I owe you one."
    "I must have exceeded my weekly quota."

    And so on. And he laughs, but also gets the message. Because if I didn't love him, and wanted to remind him of it, I wouldn't say anything.
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    Jul 22, 2014 3:11 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidHe turned 80! An amazing guy, no one believes he's that old.

    Even our doctor, reading his latest routine lab work with us both there last month, said he's got nothing wrong with him, he's gonna live to be 120. I said: "Doctor, can I have a second opinion?" I got smacked. icon_redface.gif

    I wanted to take him down to Key West for a week, or on a cruise, but he said no, our friends are here. Yet we're not doing anything much today. A little cake and hors d'oeuvres for about 50 friends this afternoon (everything, including the space & decorations, donated & arranged by local merchants who all adore him, I didn't have to do a thing), then a quiet supper out tonight just for us.

    He still hasn't decided which restaurant he wants, but I can make sure there are flowers on the table when he arrives, if it's any of our regular places.

    I'm kinda disappointed today will be so low-key, but that's what he wanted. I told him his birthday's not over yet, though. I consider the entire coming year his birthday, the whole time he's 80, and he's gonna be getting vacations and surprises throughout. It isn't everyday you get to be 80. icon_biggrin.gif


    Happy birthday to him and may you have many more years together!
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    Jul 22, 2014 3:49 PM GMT
    Glad he has you. My dad just turned 80 and if it weren't for family it'd been a party of one - all his friends have died. A harder livin' straight generation, I guess. Same situation last year at grandma's 100th.
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    Jul 22, 2014 3:59 PM GMT
    Wow amazing, I wish him the best year ahead!
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 22, 2014 4:09 PM GMT
    Aw, happy birthday to him. And I totally get the small, private dinner. Friends are great but intimacy is better. The love of your life, all dressed up and looking back across a candle-lit table. Good food, good wine. Share a desert. Coffee. Feeling proud to be seen with him. Knowing that he chose me. Doesn't get any better.
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    Jul 22, 2014 4:21 PM GMT
    Wishing him and you all the best.
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    Jul 22, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
    Thats awesome he is in such good health! My Grandpa is his age and I always hope that he lives into his 100's too cuz I don't know what I'd do without him. Hope you guys have a good time.
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    Jul 22, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    Thanks guys! Just got back from an early lunch at one of our favorite places, where the staff totally comped the meal (mine, too!), drinks & all. Which I wasn't expecting, though I had planned this. And they also made up a little ice cream birthday thing, with a very dramatic sparkler device instead of a candle, almost like a small Roman candle.

    In a few minutes we go out for his main birthday cake with friends, which he still doesn't know about, with a caterer providing hors d'oeuvres and warming trays, balloons set up, the whole deal. So it may end up being a total surprise party. That could be fun.

    Then tonight we have our private supper together, if we have any room left in our stomachs. He's sorta having a circuit birthday party. I love a series of things, not just one single big one, where each time he thinks "OK, this is it" and then there's something more.

    I just now phoned over there, and they're ready for us, so off we go to his next stop. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 22, 2014 6:22 PM GMT
    Hope you and your husband enjoy his party, and your supper tonight.

    It does seem as though gay friendships sometimes are more lasting than straight ones. Judging from my own experience, most straight guys seem to make their friends either from co-workers, or from sports teams. Once the matrix that held them together (the job, or the team)is gone, the friendships just seem to fade away. Without that common element, there's not enough to maintain the friendship. It's probably why straight guys seem to depend so much upon their grown children for company after they retire. But grown children have lives and obligations of their own, and a lot of retired straight guys end up quite lonely.

    My gay friends, on the other hand, seem to make friendships based upon genuine affection for each other, and thus always have something in common. They have friends from work, or sports, too.And some of them have grown children. But it seems as though their gay friendship network is always more enduring.

    My friends from work do socialize outside of work, and they celebrate holiday parties and retirements. But once they leave or retire, that seems to be the end of it. My gay friends tend to celebrate things like birthdays (as well as holidays). And while sometimes it might get a little overwhelming, and resemble the "boys in the band", it still provides an ongoing basis for friendship as the years go by. So enjoy your birthday, and may you have many more !
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    Jul 22, 2014 6:37 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI consider the entire coming year his birthday, the whole time he's 80, and he's gonna be getting vacations and surprises throughout.icon_biggrin.gif


    Awww! You are such a sweetheart!
    Happy Birthday to your husband, I'm sure you and everyone else will make his day amazing. :^]
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    Jul 22, 2014 6:53 PM GMT
    Awww, happy Bday to yr hubby. Y'all are so cute. It is inspiring. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 22, 2014 7:24 PM GMT
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY .....