When you've fallen for someone that is already taken..

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    Jul 23, 2014 2:09 PM GMT
    What should you do when you've fallen/have a huge crush on someone that is already taken? Should you let this person know how you feel or just let it go? I find myself in this situation and I'm curious what other people think. What are some of your experiences with this type of situation?
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 23, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    Just think how you would feel if you were the guy's partner and some guy went after him. Show some respect to them and yourself. You can also think of it this way... What if you went after him and he dumped his guy for you? Would you ever be able to trust him to not do that to you, too?
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    Jul 23, 2014 3:53 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidJust think how you would feel if you were the guy's partner and some guy went after him. Show some respect to them and yourself. You can also think of it this way... What if you went after him and he dumped his guy for you? Would you ever be able to trust him to not do that to you, too?

    Good points^^^
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    Jul 23, 2014 5:27 PM GMT
    Hands off, stay away, he belongs to someone else!
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    Jul 23, 2014 6:17 PM GMT
    Great points guys. I will take your advice.
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    Jul 23, 2014 8:53 PM GMT
    Premedmuscjock said
    Destinharbor saidJust think how you would feel if you were the guy's partner and some guy went after him. Show some respect to them and yourself. You can also think of it this way... What if you went after him and he dumped his guy for you? Would you ever be able to trust him to not do that to you, too?

    Good points^^^


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    Jul 23, 2014 9:51 PM GMT
    Yeah most of my ex girlfriend's that I won over from other guys all did the same thing to me with somebody else so it definitely doesn't pay to do that. I convinced my off and on hs gf of four years to dump another guy to be with me. She ended up cheating on me with my best friend and now they are married so I learned karma really does come back to get you haha.
  • ai82

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    Jul 24, 2014 3:25 AM GMT
    I don't know. I think if you feel that person is the person you want to spend a long time with, then there's nothing wrong with expressing how you feel. I don't think you should cheat with them or have some type of fling. You can let them make their decision. But, if you're continually finding yourself attracted to people in relationships, then you should probably leave it alone.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 24, 2014 7:19 AM GMT
    You just have to let them be. I mean, would you like it if some guy was trying to take your boyfriend from you? It's just not a good feeling. Just let your friend be and keep looking for the right guy who is single. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 24, 2014 8:29 AM GMT
    A tricky situation.

    I would try to find out if they are really happy together first.
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    Jul 24, 2014 12:05 PM GMT
    Exactly…. if you know the person isn't happy in their current situation. Let them know. There are a lot of guys that are in poor relationships. Their partner takes advantage of them or people change in time. If they are in a happy relationship….. then please leave them alone. Weigh it out. It would be better if both partners are in love with each other and not partner in love and the other not. Decisions...icon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
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    Jul 24, 2014 1:23 PM GMT
    Lol don't be a homewrecker yo !!icon_lol.gif or pull an Angelina Jolie.
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    Jul 24, 2014 5:32 PM GMT
    S60turbo saidHands off, stay away, he belongs to someone else!


    I belong to no one whether I'm in a relationship or not. I am not chattel. Nor do I consider my guy to be either. I work hard to make the man in my life feel like he is the most important person on the face of the earth so he can't imagine a life without me and he better do the same for me. If he wants to trade that for some unknown with someone else he is free to do so. I may or may not be around when he comes limping back.

    So go right ahead a try to steal him away. If your are successful, he wasn't mine to begin with.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jul 24, 2014 7:41 PM GMT
    I do now own anyone. And am not owned by anyone either.

    I also do not see myself as anyone's moral guardian.

    My rulebook says, "in love and war...", but I stop absolutely short of signalling anything to someone who is in a relationship with any of my close friends. Sort of, "bros b4 hoes"...

    If they split on their own, everyone is a fair game...

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  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Jul 25, 2014 1:52 AM GMT
    Nobody is taken or owned; if you have a crush/feelings, do what you want with them. If you want to tell the person who you're crushing on, do it!
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    Jul 25, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
    Let it go. I can only speak for myself, but if you mess with my guy, I'm beating your ass icon_smile.gif
  • mybud

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    Jul 25, 2014 3:10 AM GMT
    Drop it like it's hot bro....
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    Jul 25, 2014 3:53 AM GMT
    Your ethics should not be situational.
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    Jul 25, 2014 4:40 PM GMT
    I haven't run across a person yet who's ethics weren't situational at sometime or an other in their life. People in general are self-serving and will justify to themselves why what they are doing is ok.

    It's human nature.
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    Jul 25, 2014 4:58 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI haven't run across a person yet who's ethics weren't situational at sometime or an other in their life. People in general are self-serving and will justify to themselves why what they are doing is ok.

    It's human nature.
    Ya, we're just brainless drones, and I thought I was jaded.
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    Jul 25, 2014 7:46 PM GMT
    mybud said
    UndercoverMan saidI haven't run across a person yet who's ethics weren't situational at sometime or an other in their life. People in general are self-serving and will justify to themselves why what they are doing is ok.

    It's human nature.
    Ya, we're just brainless drones, and I thought I was jaded.


    Not jaded just been around the block enough times to know how most people operate. No illusions here.
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    Jul 25, 2014 9:58 PM GMT
    Could just be a case of Forbidden Fruit...if he were available, I
    bet the attraction wouldn't be nearly as strong. Also, as others have
    said, if he'll cheat on his boyfriend with you, He'll also cheat on you
    one day.
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    Jul 26, 2014 4:16 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidJust think how you would feel if you were the guy's partner and some guy went after him. Show some respect to them and yourself. You can also think of it this way... What if you went after him and he dumped his guy for you? Would you ever be able to trust him to not do that to you, too?

    +1
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    Jul 26, 2014 7:00 PM GMT
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  • stratavos

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    Jul 28, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    klobasnik saidA tricky situation.

    I would try to find out if they are really happy together first.


    ^this is my plan as well... when these things happen.