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    Jul 24, 2014 9:28 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    My name is Chad and I'm new around here. I'm 22 years old, and I live in South Florida. I just graduated from Nova Southeastern University with a bachelor's degree in Communications, Public Relations, and Marketing, and I'm beyond ready to get my life started and start making money. I'm also engaged to the best man alive, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him. I know I'm young, and I know that in male gay culture monogamy is almost frowned upon, but we're taking it slow. We know we have some growing to do. It will be at least 3 or 4 years before we actually tie the knot, so we just look at this as a decision to head in that direction. Its nothing permanent so we're not stressing.

    Which leads me to why I joined this site: I have SERIOUSLY let myself go over the last few years. I could go on and on about my sometimes healthy and sometimes not-so-healthy relationship with diet and fitness, but long story short I was overweight all my life until I was about 16. It was then and until I was 18 that I became severely anorexic and dropped down to a weight of about 150 pounds. I'm 6'1" with really broad shoulders, so I was dangerously thin. Once my hair started falling out due to malnutrition, I hit rock bottom and sort of snapped out of it. It was then that I got a little more serious about actually being HEALTHY and I started eating more and running a lot instead of depriving myself of nourishment. It was then that I got up to a weight of about 185 pounds, started looking a lot more toned and defined, and felt pretty good about myself. I wouldn't say I was in phenomenal shape by any means since I was missing so much muscle from when I had my eating disorder, but I could run 3 miles in 21 minutes and looked pretty good. I was eating right, and taking care of myself more than I had before.

    Then college happened, and a great amount of stress came along with it. My first two years of college in upstate NY (Where I grew up) were terrible and I just wasn't happy, so I ended up moving to South Florida to attend NSU. My life became a little more in check, but since I hadn't done so great in school in NY, I was behind and had to take 18 credits worth of classes every semester in order to catch up. That didn't stop me from supplementing my resume for the post-grad world, so I was also the president of the a student organization and interned at a marketing agency that dealt with the promotion of major motion picture releases for a year and half. I was SO busy and SO stressed out from my 12+ hour work days that I completely let myself go. However, that being said, it was worth it as my resume is pretty damn good and I have a few awesome places interested in hiring me full time now.

    (Can you believe that was the short version of that story? HAHA)

    So I'm done with college now, my life is beginning to stabilize, and I'm ready to start taking care of myself again. I'm ready to get back into shape and treating myself the way I know my body deserves to be treated. I recently saw a picture of myself that my friend took at a party, and I couldn't believe how heavy I've gotten. I currently weigh 230 pounds, and believe me when I tell you that weight isn't from muscle. haha I also am ready to quit smoking, as I was an idiot and discovered that nicotine was a great thing to utilize as a crutch (along with all the nasty, fatty food I was eating) to help curb the stress I was dealing with. I joined this forum to help surround myself with like-minded individuals who enjoy fitness (like I used to) because I'm sure there will be plenty of moments where I need advice since I've been out of the loop for a while.

    I'm looking forward to having some fun around here!
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    Jul 24, 2014 11:55 PM GMT
    Hey welcome.

    Looks like you go through a lot seasons of weight gain/loss. Hope you stay motivated and find someone to help keep you in check.
  • MikeW

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    Jul 25, 2014 3:52 AM GMT
    Welcome, Chad. At the moment I'm struggling to get back where I was after dealing with a very stressful period so I can relate to what you're saying. I'm also smoking again and shouldn't be. Just keep in mind that fat loss is 80% quality of food intake and 20% activity.

    Hope you get your life stabilized so you're not stressing your body more than you need to. Very unhealthy on a lot of levels. Feel free to hang out, kid around, have fun, ask questions in the appropriate forum.
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    Jul 25, 2014 4:00 AM GMT
    ch246emr saidHey guys,

    My name is Chad and I'm new around here. I'm 22 years old, and I live in South Florida. I just graduated from Nova Southeastern University with a bachelor's degree in Communications, Public Relations, and Marketing, and I'm beyond ready to get my life started and start making money. I'm also engaged to the best man alive, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him. I know I'm young, and I know that in male gay culture monogamy is almost frowned upon, but we're taking it slow. We know we have some growing to do. It will be at least 3 or 4 years before we actually tie the knot, so we just look at this as a decision to head in that direction. Its nothing permanent so we're not stressing.

    Which leads me to why I joined this site: I have SERIOUSLY let myself go over the last few years. I could go on and on about my sometimes healthy and sometimes not-so-healthy relationship with diet and fitness, but long story short I was overweight all my life until I was about 16. It was then and until I was 18 that I became severely anorexic and dropped down to a weight of about 150 pounds. I'm 6'1" with really broad shoulders, so I was dangerously thin. Once my hair started falling out due to malnutrition, I hit rock bottom and sort of snapped out of it. It was then that I got a little more serious about actually being HEALTHY and I started eating more and running a lot instead of depriving myself of nourishment. It was then that I got up to a weight of about 185 pounds, started looking a lot more toned and defined, and felt pretty good about myself. I wouldn't say I was in phenomenal shape by any means since I was missing so much muscle from when I had my eating disorder, but I could run 3 miles in 21 minutes and looked pretty good. I was eating right, and taking care of myself more than I had before.

    Then college happened, and a great amount of stress came along with it. My first two years of college in upstate NY (Where I grew up) were terrible and I just wasn't happy, so I ended up moving to South Florida to attend NSU. My life became a little more in check, but since I hadn't done so great in school in NY, I was behind and had to take 18 credits worth of classes every semester in order to catch up. That didn't stop me from supplementing my resume for the post-grad world, so I was also the president of the a student organization and interned at a marketing agency that dealt with the promotion of major motion picture releases for a year and half. I was SO busy and SO stressed out from my 12+ hour work days that I completely let myself go. However, that being said, it was worth it as my resume is pretty damn good and I have a few awesome places interested in hiring me full time now.

    (Can you believe that was the short version of that story? HAHA)

    So I'm done with college now, my life is beginning to stabilize, and I'm ready to start taking care of myself again. I'm ready to get back into shape and treating myself the way I know my body deserves to be treated. I recently saw a picture of myself that my friend took at a party, and I couldn't believe how heavy I've gotten. I currently weigh 230 pounds, and believe me when I tell you that weight isn't from muscle. haha I also am ready to quit smoking, as I was an idiot and discovered that nicotine was a great thing to utilize as a crutch (along with all the nasty, fatty food I was eating) to help curb the stress I was dealing with. I joined this forum to help surround myself with like-minded individuals who enjoy fitness (like I used to) because I'm sure there will be plenty of moments where I need advice since I've been out of the loop for a while.

    I'm looking forward to having some fun around here!


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    Jul 25, 2014 4:10 AM GMT
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    Jul 25, 2014 5:37 AM GMT
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    Jul 25, 2014 6:57 AM GMT
    Welcome Chad. Wishing you all the best in your work to maintain a healthy balance in your lifestyle, and congratulations on meeting a partner with whom you think you might be able to build a life together.

    (BTW -- Monogamy is not ~almost frowned upon" -- you two should simply do what you think is right for you.)

    My sister (and other family members) live in South Florida. My sister had anorexia issues when she was a teenager into her early 20's but she overcame them and has gone on to become a phenomenal (and phenomenally healthy) athlete -- regularly competing in triathalons and working as a personal trainer for others. Good luck in dealing with your own issues regarding relationship with food -- and I hope you can get yourself off of tobacco asap.

    As others have said, have fun with the RJ forums and community and know that there are plenty of nice guys here --- even including many of the ones that might seem sarcastic and bitchy on the surface.
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    Jul 25, 2014 4:44 PM GMT
    Welcome to the R.J family , Chad ..
    You are quite mature for your age , and also quite dedicated . You have recognised and dealt with your weaknesses , you should have no problem getting where you want to be .
    Best of luck in your new adventure !
    Cheers mate ,
    Affen
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    Jul 25, 2014 5:47 PM GMT
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    i'm sure you can pull that weight off. a lot of people here have (me included). i would tell you to start entering your food into myfitnesspal.com (phone app available too). you have to get a handle on your intake. start lifting with dumbbells. buy some even if you can't afford a gym. and look into HIIT.
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    Jul 25, 2014 6:30 PM GMT
    welcome to the site. There isn't any "magic" here, but there is some good information and lots of good guys to use as motivation.
    Good luck...icon_lol.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 25, 2014 6:50 PM GMT
    Welcome and good luck! A lot of good guys here and a lot of inspiration. Don't let the occasional unpleasant ones scare you off. Use the "Ignor" button frequently.
  • WrestlerBoy

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    Jul 25, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    Welcome, Chad. Sounds like you're really getting yourself on the right track. And there IS plenty of "magic" here; why, I can even pull a rabbit out of a... beret.

    As has been mentioned, don't let the occasional loon throw you; variety, after all, really is the spice of life.