How to get a boyfriend?

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    Jul 28, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
    How oh how do you get one? I just want someone to be with, but it is so hard for me. I want someone to snuggle,hug,kiss and make love with. Please give me some tips as to how I'm supposed to get one. I am a virgin and never had a bf before so I am totally inexperienced.
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    Jul 28, 2014 1:45 PM GMT
    Get out of the house and the rest will follow.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jul 28, 2014 3:49 PM GMT
    The first thing you want to do is to understand that a huge number of people out there derive inexplicable pleasures from denying other people whatever that is that the other guys want.

    If you march out into the world openly looking for a BF, the chances are that the people around you will try to see how far will you go to achieve your goal. So, openly looking for a BF will probably be an uphill struggle.

    BFs are rarely found. They are mostly made over some period of time.

    Declaring that you want a BF now will send a few guys running for the hills because they simply fear the idea of a ball and a chain.

    So, lean back. Start meeting guys, go through dating, weed out the unsuitable guys, and focus on the guys who are a good, attractive BF material. Show them how their life, too, can be better if they boyfreind you.

    Lots of work. A few disappointments, too. But usually, a very good end resulticon_lol.gif

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    Jul 28, 2014 4:32 PM GMT
    MrDiva saidHow oh how do you get one? I just want someone to be with, but it is so hard for me. Please give me some tips as to how I'm supposed to get one.


    I'd like to help you out, and maybe - since I'm probably one of the oldest guys here - my experience will give you some tools to help you meet guys. I've had a whole lot of boyfriends, and one-nighters too, and I've had my fun with the male population!

    My first thought is your town is so small. I looked it up and it looks like you live in a place with less than 1,000 people. Is it possible for you to move?

    How about college? You'll meet a whole lot of quality guys there - even in a junior college. Here are some of the other places where I've met guys:

    * Through other buddies
    * Playing team sports
    * My alumni association parties and brunches
    * At my office (other departments, not my own)
    * At my gym or out running at lunch time
    * At the beach (I know you're not near a beach though)
    * Clubs I've belonged to (like Rotary)
    * Starbucks (sitting outside with my dog - - people will approach you and chat you up, especially if you have a friendly looking dog.....the dog is your ice breaker)

    Good luck. It's a numbers game. But you've got to place yourself in a city or town with more people.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 28, 2014 4:51 PM GMT
    I'd suggest you start by revising your profile. Between the eye makeup, naked body shots, absence of any written profile, and lack of any photo making you look like anything but a hooker, an empty vessel, you seem like a character, not a person with whom someone could have a relationship. Stop being a stereotype if you want a relationship with a real person. That is the first step to finding a boyfriend. And don't be a Diva. No one likes a diva.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 28, 2014 11:46 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidI'd suggest you start by revising your profile. Between the eye makeup, naked body shots, absence of any written profile, and lack of any photo making you look like anything but a hooker, an empty vessel, you seem like a character, not a person with whom someone could have a relationship. Stop being a stereotype if you want a relationship with a real person. That is the first step to finding a boyfriend. And don't be a Diva. No one likes a diva.


    How do you know if he's trying to be a "character". Some guys do like makeup and there are some guys who don't mind it.

    To OP: generally, Jockbod48 and SilverRRCloud gave some great advice to start you out. You just have to be patient and never give up. And don't base your life solely on looking for a boyfriend. Try to fit in other things to like hobbies and whatnot as it'll make the journey much more fun. And while I do think that Destinharbor was being a little rude, he is right that you don't have to be a stereotype to attract a guy and in fact, for some, it can be very off-putting if you're putting on an act. Just remember to be true to yourself.

    But if you honestly like wearing eye makeup, you go ahead and keep doing it. It may turn off a few guys from dating you but you have to remember not everyone shares the same ideals/wants.

    Best of luck on your journey.
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    Jul 29, 2014 1:23 AM GMT
    thanks bloodflame. I do enjoy femininity when it comes to myself and like putting on a little makeup when going out into public as well as cross-dressing and sporting longish hair. However everything else speaks for itself(it is all hyper-masculine)and is harder to change than say what brand of makeup I wear(I wish it were that easy). I wish I was a more fem guy and skinnier. I like skinny bodies when it comes to just aesthetic appeal and self-satisfaction. I dream of being thin and fem all day long, it is just a life-long obsession I have and I hope to get to be that way for a long time before I die. I don't believe in any god so I really think it is all up to me whether I can succeed or not.
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    Jul 29, 2014 3:06 AM GMT
    Oh your new here.....give it time you'll find a fresh catch in a week!!!
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    Jul 29, 2014 3:25 AM GMT
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    Jul 29, 2014 3:47 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidalg_ducttape.jpg


    ah yes, the good old duct tape. Maybe I will wrap it around his snake for good measure.
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    Jul 29, 2014 4:01 AM GMT
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  • Apparition

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    Jul 31, 2014 3:13 AM GMT
    ask. gay men are pussies, all waiting to be asked. take your pick.
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    Jul 31, 2014 3:13 PM GMT
    ^
    He is one of those who wait till being asked/approached. mentality of bottoms. which is not bad at all.
  • Apparition

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    Aug 05, 2014 4:03 AM GMT
    ^inefficient failure method, NOT working for him, so yes it is bad.
  • KittenpasteCo...

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    Aug 05, 2014 10:48 AM GMT
    Waiting to be asked simply doesn't work, unless you live in an area with a high gay population. If it did work, I'd have been asked out at least once in my life.
  • BloodFlame

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    Aug 06, 2014 9:29 PM GMT
    KittenpasteCompany saidWaiting to be asked simply doesn't work, unless you live in an area with a high gay population. If it did work, I'd have been asked out at least once in my life.

    I agree that location does play a part. If you live in an area that's not heavily populated with gay people, it may be harder and you'd be better off asking.
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    Aug 06, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidalg_ducttape.jpg
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