What's his deal

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    Jul 29, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    So I have this straight? Friend who I've known for 4 years we have become very tight so much that everyone we know thinks we are a real couple! He says he doesn't care and I've also started to notice that we go on double dates with other couples and he seems to really like it. If only known him to be with one girl this whole time and he said they had sex all the time but after they broke up she told me that they never had sex and it was part of the problem she told me she thought he was gay. Anyway one time I even went to his job and his boss had asked me how long have we been together I then start to think and realized I was in love with him. I told him how I felt and he said he didn't feel the same so I left it alone, after I told him he became very sweet to me and it was like he was happy to know I liked him soon after he took me home to meet his mother and after I left the house she freaked out on him and asked him if I was his boyfriend to which he told her it was none of her business and no he was not gay. Now he's pulled away from me and is always talking about girls he likes but then he stares at me and saying things around our friends when we hangout like how I'm his date and sometimes he calls me the wife!? When we are out he pays for me, will pick me up anywhere in his car and even go to my doctors appointments even take me to his job so I can hangout in his office all day! I'm so confused sometimes I think he's confused about his sexuality and sometimes I think he's straight. And btw if I hangout with other men he gets very jealous! He even admits it he what's me to be with him at all times when he's available. I'm mad for him but he says he's not interested, I do find it odd that he's never said the words NO or that He wasn't gay!! He just says he doesn't feel the same but I feel he is running away from he's feelings for me. Am I crazy? I don't know what's going on or what I should do! I need help! I'm starting to get depressed and pulling away as we'll I'm even going far away for 10 days just to collect myself! Any advice?
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    Jul 29, 2014 6:35 PM GMT
    Kiss him.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 29, 2014 6:44 PM GMT
    Are you sure you're 31? You sound 15.
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    Jul 29, 2014 6:48 PM GMT
    You are doing the right thing going away and spending some time apart. Time for you and him to ponder the situation and reflect. If when you meet up with him again and nothing meaningful materializes you may want to give him an ultimatum. Whether he wants a relationship with you or not?

    He has difficulty discussing his true feelings or is conflicted or confused about what he wants to do. Offer to go see a therapist with him to get the process started but this is something he will need to work on for himself.

    If he is not willing to help himself there is really nothing you can do. For your own well being, in time, you may have to consider cutting him out of your life.

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    Jul 29, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidAre you sure you're 31? You sound 15.

    He's 31???? OMG!! No fucking way, unless he's extremely immature for his age.
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    Jul 29, 2014 11:21 PM GMT
    Profile says he's 22. Did that suddenly change?
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 29, 2014 11:23 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidProfile says he's 22. Did that suddenly change?


    He deleted his post about being a PA and having his own house in NYC, too. There's something fishy about this one!
  • carew28

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    Jul 30, 2014 5:29 PM GMT
    That part about him paying when you both go out, and using his own car, sounds pretty good. I wouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth. I should be so lucky.