Let's just face facts

  • Matthew56

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    Jul 31, 2014 6:36 AM GMT
    The reality is that in the gay world/scene at least in the western countries white men/men who have Caucasiod features and looks are gonna always be regarded as the most desired and be put on a pedastdal. So even an average looking white man and a black man who is handsome and attractive will be overlooked just because he was not blessed to be white

    That is the truth I have seen it and experienced sexual racism the only thing I can do as a black man is to work hard on my looks and appearance so at least people can try and look pass me being the wrong colour and just acknowledge my looks. As someone made a thread where someone complimented him and said he is a hot for a black man

    Whilst the compliment is a bit offensive it shows that sexual racism can be beaten by just being hot and attractive or working on if if you are non white man.

  • frogman89

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    Jul 31, 2014 9:10 AM GMT
    No sexual racism here! Come here, pretty boy! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 31, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
    Stop typing and go out.
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    Jul 31, 2014 3:20 PM GMT
    Man, you should totally move to Toronto! and change your mindset, okay?
  • Nayro

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    Jul 31, 2014 3:49 PM GMT
    You have to stop making these threads, you're starting to become a broken record
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    Jul 31, 2014 4:03 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidLet's just face the fact...

    The reality is that...even an average looking white man and a black man who is handsome and attractive will be overlooked just because he was not blessed to be white

    Why so quick to blame race...again? The likely fact to face is that it's not about RACE but ATTRACTIVENESS (don't conflate the two) because no "handsome and attractive" black RJ members of any shade, built and otherwise, have yet to create - or post their agreement with the OPs of - "Why won't White Guys date me?" complaint threads. Find me one. I dare you. They're average at best. As are most guys that post "Why won't ANY guy date me?" threads.

    At least you more plausibly suggested that non-whites have to be HOTTER and/or more attractive than the white counterparts they're competing with to garner white interest, similar to blacks and Jews having to work HARDER and/or be smarter to advance. It's unfair, but attitudes aren't going to change overnight - look how long it took for Ford and IBM to even hire Jews. A lot longer than it takes for fugly guys to 'roid up.

    And finally, non-white guys with white preferences, stop obsessing on and objectifying white guys! We're not all that.
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    Aug 01, 2014 5:54 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidwhite men/men who have Caucasiod features and looks are gonna always be regarded as the most desired and be put on a pedestal.

    Perhaps what's unattractive is not what's on the outside but what's on the inside, between the ears.
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    Aug 01, 2014 5:57 AM GMT
    so why black men cannot date other black men then? or average white men other average white men?
    Is this about ouh that one attractive white guy did not date me and I want to make them date me?
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    Aug 01, 2014 6:23 AM GMT
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    Aug 01, 2014 8:09 AM GMT
    Nayro saidYou have to stop making these threads, you're starting to become a broken record

    This. OP, I believe you may have officially hit double digits for number of threads where you reveal your self-loathing in some form.

    Check yourself in to a counsellor, pronto. Your complaining here is doing nothing to help you.
  • Apparition

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    Aug 01, 2014 2:25 PM GMT
    Hot white guys already know, so what of it?
    Rich guys get treated well too
    Hung guys

    Everyone else knows those too. Sux to be us.
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    Aug 02, 2014 1:17 AM GMT
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    Why so quick to blame race...again? The likely fact to face is that it's not about RACE but ATTRACTIVENESS (don't conflate the two)[/quote]

    I agree with this guy. If you were referring to my thread in your 3rd paragraph, it wasn't about "not being hot enough" bro. It was about guys giving poorly executed COMPLIMENTS. I think your lack of self confidence is more of a personal issue like the guy I quoted said. To be honest, I'm willing to date any race but white me approach me more often than other races. I've been with my current boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now. And before you even go there, no he did not go for me because he's not attractive enough to get someone of his own race. He is very attractive and chose to approach me (in a majority white club)

    Tried posting a pic on of us on this forum but the link isn't working so I loaded pics of us on my profile...

    Honestly I find it quite embarrassing when members of and race, but especially mine put themselves down because they don't feel like they can measure up do to their ethnicity. There are attractive people in all races so don't put an entire race down due to your own personal experiences. Sorry if this comes off as cold but I kinda felt like I had defend my race.... Which I usually don't do unless it's being attacked by a member of its own community.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 02, 2014 3:14 AM GMT
    Some time ago, I saw a cartoon that depicted a classroom of adult students where there was a bubble caption above each student's head, depicting what each one was thinking.

    One caption said, "They all hate me because I'm a woman." Another said, "They all hate me because I'm gay." Another said, they all hate me because I'm black."

    And, on and on...
  • jaroslav123

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    Aug 02, 2014 4:18 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidThe reality is that in the gay world/scene at least in the western countries white men/men who have Caucasiod features and looks are gonna always be regarded as the most desired and be put on a pedastdal. So even an average looking white man and a black man who is handsome and attractive will be overlooked just because he was not blessed to be white

    That is the truth I have seen it and experienced sexual racism the only thing I can do as a black man is to work hard on my looks and appearance so at least people can try and look pass me being the wrong colour and just acknowledge my looks. As someone made a thread where someone complimented him and said he is a hot for a black man

    Whilst the compliment is a bit offensive it shows that sexual racism can be beaten by just being hot and attractive or working on if if you are non white man.



    It's a misnomer to call someone's sexual attractions 'racist'. The word doesn't imply or suggest, but means hatred. I know white people who are attracted to whites, Asians, blacks. I know black people who aren't attracted to people of their own skin colour, but just white people. Does this mean that such people are racists and hate other races or ethnic groups? No, don't be ridiculous. If they were racist, I don't think sexual-attraction would come into the discussion, but instead just ideological vulgarities which consider certain races to be subhuman (and thus sex isn't just out of the equation but not even assumed or thought about).

    Skin colour is a trivial thing - in the same way that hair-colour is, but remember, people have preferences for hair colour, some people like brunettes, some like blondes, some like gingers - some like all of these. Skin colour is another thing. I accept the fact that some people find whites sexually-attractive and some people don't.

    To call a sexual attraction racist is just an insult to the whole concept of racism, and thus a mere trivial distraction. If you want to fight racism, don't start critiquing what people get boners at - people honestly cannot help it, it's utterly subconscious.

    On a sidenote, you're fit, so shut up.icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 02, 2014 4:26 AM GMT
    Get your head out of your ass OP and take responsibility for yourself! Quit playing the chicken shit person and blaming everyone else for poor pitiful YOU! Only YOU can decide who you are or what you make of yourself. You want to blame us white boys, then fuck you. You're just unwilling to try and make something of yourself then. It's always someone else fault that you can accomplish what you want? You're a lazy no good disgrace to every Black man out there that works their ass off to become something, proving to be much more of a man than you are!
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    Aug 02, 2014 4:34 AM GMT
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  • Matthew56

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    Aug 04, 2014 9:01 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]jaroslav123 said[/cite]
    Matthew56 saidThe reality is that in the gay world/scene at least in the western countries white men/men who have Caucasiod features and looks are gonna always be regarded as the most desired and be put on a pedastdal. So even an average looking white man and a black man who is handsome and attractive will be overlooked just because he was not blessed to be white

    That is the truth I have seen it and experienced sexual racism the only thing I can do as a black man is to work hard on my looks and appearance so at least people can try and look pass me being the wrong colour and just acknowledge my looks. As someone made a thread where someone complimented him and said he is a hot for a black man

    Whilst the compliment is a bit offensive it shows that sexual racism can be beaten by just being hot and attractive or working on if if you are non white man.



    It's a misnomer to call someone's sexual attractions 'racist'. The word doesn't imply or suggest, but means hatred. I know white people who are attracted to whites, Asians, blacks. I know black people who aren't attracted to people of their own skin colour, but just white people. Does this mean that such people are racists and hate other races or ethnic groups? No, don't be ridiculous. If they were racist, I don't think sexual-attraction would come into the discussion, but instead just ideological vulgarities which consider certain races to be subhuman (and thus sex isn't just out of the equation but not even assumed or thought about).

    Skin colour is a trivial thing - in the same way that hair-colour is, but remember, people have preferences for hair colour, some people like brunettes, some like blondes, some like gingers - some like all of these. Skin colour is another thing. I accept the fact that some people find whites sexually-attractive and some people don't.

    To call a sexual attraction racist is just an insult to the whole concept of racism, and thus a mere trivial distraction. If you want to fight racism, don't start critiquing what people get boners at - people honestly cannot help it, it's utterly subconscious.

    On a sidenote, you're fit, so shut up.icon_twisted.gif[/quote

    I don't think that skin colour is regarded as trivial as hair colour seeing as you can change your hair colour easily. However your skin colour
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    Aug 05, 2014 1:00 AM GMT
    This just in - "Average" gay black male voted Man of the Day on caucasian-heavy gay website: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3883828/

    Beauty IS more than skin deep.

    *edit*

    And AGAIN on 8/14, a black MOTD (talk about voting your consciene): http://www.realjock.com/yourconscience
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    Aug 25, 2014 6:31 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidGet your head out of your ass OP and take responsibility for yourself! Quit playing the chicken shit person and blaming everyone else for poor pitiful YOU! Only YOU can decide who you are or what you make of yourself. You want to blame us white boys, then fuck you. You're just unwilling to try and make something of yourself then. It's always someone else fault that you can accomplish what you want? You're a lazy no good disgrace to every Black man out there that works their ass off to become something, proving to be much more of a man than you are!




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    Aug 26, 2014 5:04 AM GMT
    I don't subscribe to this thought process...... good looking is Good looking and all subjective, and the color of ones skin or ethnic background has nothing to do with this( at least for me). Ive seen/ met plenty of good looking White, black , brown, tan individuals. Sure I have " preferences" in some aspects of looks etc but you can meet all of the looks aspect and if your personality sucks or its like talking to a wall, your " hotness" goes down in my mind.