Sydneyrugbyjockdon't try to pretend it's normal please you and those who defend your sexual practices are only kidding themselves but it's your right to enjoy
Society says that gay people in general aren't normal. So, really.. who determines what is "normal" and what isn't? Sexuality is extremely fluid, not to mention a personal thing. 'normal' is relative. It baffles me sometimes how other gay people can be so closed-minded.
If there is one part I agree with Avsigkommen it's that hetro society would view all gay sex as not normal. I hardly think that is a defence to my critique of the rising number (formally a very small base) of gay men, taking on behaviours which are degrading and dangerous. I didn't say that it is always wrong or that I am sleeping with these type of men.
Many of these men have discussed their preference for this behaviour online, bars/clubs, at parties on all types of sites and not limited too pick up sites or the sleazy bars and the parties are run of the mill birthday parties or whatever. When gay men meet socially sexuality related discussion always come up.
To all you guys who talk about self confidence coming from within. That's great for you but not the reality of many gay men who only participate in these kind of behaviours to be with the person they have fallen in love with. Nothing wrong with a little bit of dominance but there are some practices which suggest a pre-disposition to a domestic violence perpetrator. For a minority who complains about the hetro-normative world not giving us a fair go their sure are a lot of touchy people who don't like the idea of what they do in he bedroom being aired in a gay forum
. Sometimes we as a community need to look at what behaviours we normalise as it's not always that something popular is good.
Gay men have the highest rate of health related and mental health problems & addiction related issues & I'm suggesting that this Is part of that same pattern of passing on to the vulnerable what some guys feel is done in real life to them.
I did qualify this response as not applying to those actively seeking these practices, who have developed their own norms of behaviour while engaging thief fettish, instead I am talking about the guys who would not do all of it only picking some of the actions to degrade the guys they are with. Might sound fucked up but it is happening and in many countries