Threesomes and groups

  • Arabbottomln

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    Aug 01, 2014 7:08 PM GMT
    Just a post to see what the general consensus is on dating someone who has taken part in a threesome or any form of group sex for that matter.

    I keep getting the oppertunity to get involved in pretty hot threesomes but always turn it down because I'm conditioned in a way to think its wrong and dirty (especially with being a bottom).. My question is would you date a guy who has taken part in group sex? (Mainly a question for tops)
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 01, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    I've been in threesomes and foursomes. As a top. The guys I was with were all solid guys and I enjoyed being with them. I think you're confusing quantity with quality. And also suggesting that there is something negative about a guy preferring the bottom role.
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    Aug 02, 2014 12:12 AM GMT
    I don't see why people look bad to a bottom that participates in a 3some, but doesn't think anything of the top...

    It seems the bottom is always treated differently.. That's what makes me hate being a bottom even though I enjoy it a lot.... icon_sad.gif

    I would not mind the person having had 3somes or group sex in the past.
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    Aug 02, 2014 8:03 AM GMT
    Arabbottomln saidJust a post to see what the general consensus is on dating someone who has taken part in a threesome or any form of group sex for that matter.

    I keep getting the oppertunity to get involved in pretty hot threesomes but always turn it down because I'm conditioned in a way to think its wrong and dirty (especially with being a bottom).. My question is would you date a guy who has taken part in group sex? (Mainly a question for tops)

    My question is why would you not? Most gay men have had 3-ways or thought about having them. If you would be happy, stop thinking things you might want to do are wrong or dirty. You don't have to do them, you might keep them as fantasies, but at least enjoy the thoughts.
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    Aug 02, 2014 8:39 AM GMT
    I've been in a threesome , it was good , every one got what they wanted.icon_biggrin.gif

    But as others have said , don't think bad of what others have done in the past, it's what they chose to do, and really until you try it , it'll be a fantasy.icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 02, 2014 7:29 PM GMT
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    Destinharbor saidI've been in threesomes and foursomes. As a top. The guys I was with were all solid guys and I enjoyed being with them.

    I think you're confusing quantity with quality. And also suggesting that there is something negative about a guy preferring the bottom role.

    Did anyone else think he was being negative about bottoming? I thought he was alluding to his concerns as a bottom himself but please correct me if I'm wrong
  • takashi

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    Aug 04, 2014 10:48 AM GMT
    Arabbottomln said
    I keep getting the oppertunity to get involved in pretty hot threesomes but always turn it down because I'm conditioned in a way to think its wrong and dirty (especially with being a bottom)..


    Why is it 'wrong and dirty' to have sex with more than one man, as opposed to having sex with just one man? Gay sex is probably looked down upon as wrong and dirty, to begin with. As long as you play safe and clean, then everything else should be FUN and enjoyable.
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    Aug 04, 2014 3:07 PM GMT
    I really enjoy threesomes (and moresomes) myself. It isn't something I do all the time, but when the opportunities have presented themselves and I liked the other people involved, why not? I don't see it as being 'wrong' or 'dirty' in any way and certainly no more so than your average one on one encounter. *shrug*
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    Aug 04, 2014 10:39 PM GMT
    Society has conditioned us to think that anything sexual outside of a single person relationship is dirty and wrong. Unfortunately many miss opportunities to have great sexual pleasure.

    Getting involved with someone that finds this activity acceptable is a matter of preference on the openness of your relationship and should definitely be discussed in detail prior to developing the relationship. I don't believe it's a matter of being right or wrong as much as if it's suitable for both parties for either or both to participate in threesomes or other orgies.

    Safety is paramount and should take precedence in the conversations along with boundaries you both can agree on otherwise it won't work. It's not for everyone but definitely a fantasy 'outside the box' for many.
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    Aug 05, 2014 12:09 AM GMT
    It wouldn't make a difference to me whether a potential boyfriend had been involved in group sex experiences.
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    Aug 17, 2014 2:37 AM GMT
    done it and i love it icon_smile.gif both threesomes and more!
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 17, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
    Consider parting with the notion that being a bottom is in any way "worse" or "better" than being a top, regardless of the cultural traits you have been raised with. You live in an environment which probably jokes a bit more about the guys taking it up their tails, and all, but no one seriously thinks that bottoms are in any way inferior to the tops or that the tops really have the license to do be promiscuous whereas the bottoms have to be chasteicon_biggrin.gif

    The notion that the guys you meet, and may develop relationships with have had no sexual history before meeting you is somewhat unrealistic unless you are at the age of 12, and are exploring with your peers. Attaching any value to someone's chastity among gay men is mostly counterproductive. You are either a sexually negative person which usually sends the guys running for hills, or you have some issues that are usually described as personal baggage and are equally undesirable.

    A dude who has had a fair amount of experience is usually a good playmate, and this is most people's default.

    Go and have fun.

    SC
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    Aug 17, 2014 10:42 PM GMT
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    Would I date a dude who "has been" in a 3some? yes, it's part of his past. I wouldn't be concerned with knowing anything or anyone about his past sex life. I don't want to hear it. If I'm in a relationship, absolutely no three-somes. And I love 3somes, especially tag teaming a hot bottom. But I know I'd get jealous. If I decide to be in a relationship, it's 100% loyalty, at least on my behalf.

    If you're not in a relationship and you want to have a three-some, go ahead, enjoy.

    All sex is "wrong and dirty" if love is not involved, so society dictates.

    If you are being tag teamed by two tops, and let others know about it, I'm sure there would be those who would raise an eyebrow. And so you begin to build a reputation.

    So, if those "pretty hot three-somes" are so alluring to you. Go get yourself some experience, live it up and keep your mouth shut. Not a word to anyone, ever, under no circumstances. You have a right to live your life, acquire experience and to your own intimacy.

    And bro, I'm not in a relationship... icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif



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    Aug 26, 2014 11:50 PM GMT
    I've done a threesome, but there gets to be a conflict, which I don't like. A foursome seems to evolve into partners, which seems to be natural. Of course, partners can change partners, which (in my experience) has turned out wonderful. Partners can switch when they want.

    Tommy
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    Sep 04, 2014 3:32 AM GMT
    Done the threesome thing. Wonderful fucking sex.

    But afterwards, the relationships fell apart because of jealousy and dominance.

    I think two is the majic number