Do You Talk at Length About Your Pet? Here's Why

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    Aug 02, 2014 12:25 AM GMT
    NYT: There is a perception that people who talk at length about their pets are tedious at best, and often pitiful or repulsive. They post photos of their pets online, tell little stories about them, speak to them in disturbing falsettos, dress them in elaborate costumes and carry them around in handbags and BabyBjorns, have professional portraits taken of them and retouched to look like old master oil paintings.

    This is especially true of childless people, like me, who tend to become emotionally overinvested in their animals and to dote on them in a way that gives onlookers the creeps.

    People have a certain reservoir of affection that they need to express, and in the absence of any more appropriate object — a child or a lover, a parent or a friend — they will lavish that same devotion on a pug or a Manx or a cockatiel, even on something neurologically incapable of reciprocating that emotion.

    http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/08/01/a-man-and-his-cat/?_php=true&_type=blogs&ref=opinion&_r=0
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    Aug 02, 2014 11:54 AM GMT
    "Sometimes it would strike me that an animal was living in my house, and it seemed as surreal as if I had a raccoon or a kinkajou running loose in my house."

    LOL I FEEL THE SAME WAY! It's strange when I turn around and there is a 4 legged creature just trotting along behind me.

    This was a such a poignant and beautiful article. People who think animals can't love are the ones in most need of an animal's love.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 02, 2014 12:13 PM GMT
    I certainly have pictures of my beagles (and my prized AQHA Quarter Horse before), but certainly don't on about them at "length". Most of my friends know I have 3 little four legged companions that are loved and there are time requirements. However all three of them have their own personalized Christmas stocking... call it weird if you want. icon_smile.gif
  • Rowing_Ant

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    Aug 02, 2014 12:39 PM GMT
    Hndsmkansan - that's not weird at all.

    My horse is my best friend. :-)

  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 02, 2014 1:13 PM GMT
    Rowing_Ant saidHndsmkansan - that's not weird at all.

    My horse is my best friend. :-)



    They can be pretty special for sure.
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    Aug 02, 2014 1:19 PM GMT
    "A perception"? Perception is reality. People who treat their pets as equals have a screw loose.
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    Aug 02, 2014 1:35 PM GMT
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    Aug 02, 2014 3:02 PM GMT
    IzzyMusc said"Sometimes it would strike me that an animal was living in my house, and it seemed as surreal as if I had a raccoon or a kinkajou running loose in my house."

    LOL I FEEL THE SAME WAY! It's strange when I turn around and there is a 4 legged creature just trotting along behind me.

    This was a such a poignant and beautiful article. People who think animals can't love are the ones in most need of an animal's love.

    Our two cats, Thelma and Louise, used to chase each other joyously around our hardwood floor. IT is hilarious! Like little children playing.
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    Aug 02, 2014 4:20 PM GMT
    Jack_NNJ said"A perception"? Perception is reality. People who treat their pets as equals have a screw loose.


    You don't deserve a pet.
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    Aug 02, 2014 4:42 PM GMT
    One thing I know for sure is guys that are pet lovers are generally not datable and are oblivious to the smell, hair ,dander and oil that permeate their places.
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    Aug 02, 2014 5:34 PM GMT
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    Aug 02, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    woodsmen said...

    This is especially true of childless people, like me, who tend to become emotionally overinvested in their animals and to dote on them in a way that gives onlookers the creeps.

    People have a certain reservoir of affection that they need to express, and in the absence of any more appropriate object — a child or a lover, a parent or a friend — they will lavish that same devotion on a pug or a Manx or a cockatiel, even on something neurologically incapable of reciprocating that emotion.


    A more appropriate object? Why are humans any more appropriate than a pet? Often times our pets are more deserving of our love and affection than the humans in our lives. They don't gossip about you. All your intimate secrets they keep to themselves. They don't try to tear you down. They listen to your problems and don't give unwanted advice. They are always happy to see you. They never ask for money.

    Often times they are the only companion an elderly person or shut in who lives alone may have.
  • ASHDOD

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    Aug 02, 2014 7:53 PM GMT
    there's a huge diffrence betwin having a pet and of course taking care of him and loveing him ,and having a pet and treating him like a childe.
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    Aug 02, 2014 8:30 PM GMT
    There's much psychological analysis in this opinion, but is it based on actual research? (Sorry, I didn't bother cliking on the link provided.)
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    Aug 02, 2014 10:26 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI certainly have pictures of my beagles (and my prized AQHA Quarter Horse before), but certainly don't on about them at "length". Most of my friends know I have 3 little four legged companions that are loved and there are time requirements. However all three of them have their own personalized Christmas stocking... call it weird if you want. icon_smile.gif


    I thought I was the only person who put a stocking up for my dogs..
    Glad to know I'm not alone now ;)
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 02, 2014 11:07 PM GMT
    A touching article, and very familiar, the jealousy, the attention seeking, the demands for food, etc.
    I did talk to my last pet, a rescued cat, but not lengthy discussions! We grew closer in time and could instantly sense each other`s moods, etc. She was unusual for a cat, concentrating her time and attention on me more like a dog.
    When she died I made a little grave in the garden for her. But I don`t dwell on it, and the grave has faded in to flowers and foliage of the garden; like my memory of her, withering but not forgotten.
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    Aug 02, 2014 11:54 PM GMT

    Gay men are horrible with this. Some of my FB people and their news feeds are absolutely annoying when it comes to their pets, especially dog owners. We all know you have dogs, but every other post, pictures or videos about them is soooo too much. And if their dog is ugly (some owners are really in denial) even worse to have to keep looking at their rover who I could give two shits about icon_rolleyes.gif

    blah, blah day to day boring shit about your dog that I don't care about

    1) dog when I get home from work
    2) dog when I go on vacation
    3) dog eating
    4) dog park
    5) dog boo boo
    6) dog sleeping
    7) dog walking
    icon_cool.gif dog chasing ball
    9) dog bath
    10) dog toys
    11) dog barking
    12) dog playing with other dogs


    Growing up without hand held phones, we only had polaroid or film camera that needed developing. We had our pets for 12 to 15 years but yet I don't have a boat load of pictures of each of them. I only have a few each. It just wasn't something we raved about back in the days. You had a pet, it was loyal, you fed it, played but you didn't document the pets entire life's history on film or video.


    BTW, cats are sooo much better as pets. Dogs and Cats are only cute when they are young and is the best time to photograph or video them. It wears off fast




  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Aug 02, 2014 11:59 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidIt's great to have pets in order to have a special bond. But when it comes to people humanizing their pets, that's when it becomes a problem. And I find a lot of gay men do this with their pets.

    It's unhealthy for all parties involved, including the animals.


    I whole heartily agree!
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    Aug 03, 2014 12:56 AM GMT
    Alpha13 saidOne thing I know for sure is guys that are pet lovers are generally not datable and are oblivious to the smell, hair ,dander and oil that permeate their places.


    Probably not oblivious. For the pet lover, the smell is intoxicating--a feature, not a bug. Well, except for the farting.
  • Jango_B

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    Aug 03, 2014 1:44 AM GMT
    Some of these replies are a bit disheartening. I agree with those that feel pets are just as important and deserving of unconditional love to some who don't have or want children. They are not humans but they have many qualities that make them just as lovable, and far more loyal. It is only our society's narrow definitions that tell us that having children is expected and accepted. I would argue that this type of thinking in a more serious way causes people to only accept marriage as between a man and woman, or that all gay people 'have a screw loose'.

    Personally, I 'like' and enjoy every picture my friends post about their dogs or cats, but roll my eyes at the endless ones about their kids. I realize some people feel differently and I don't judge them for their love of kids, just as you shouldn't judge those that love their animals like kids. While I don't go to the length some go to humanize their animals in terms of dressing them up or painting their nails or whatever, I say all the more power to those that want to and enjoy it. As long as the animals are well treated, loved, happy, and kept safe, I think people should do what makes them happy without judgment.

    Everyone has a right to like or not like them, but my personal experience is that more often pet lovers have the biggest, most empathetic hearts. I couldn't date someone who didn't understand the love of animals. I'm lucky that I work with a lot of pet owners who adore their pets. When one of them lost their wonderful dog recently, it was treated as a death of a loved one. She was out several days mourning her loss. Everyone rallied around her in support. When one of my cats went missing, my boss was supportive and let me take the day to find him (I did icon_smile.gif ). I didn't have to ask- it was expected. Pets are far more innocent and unconditionally loving than humans. Those that disqualify the love and affection for a creature based on its intelligence or number of legs seem cold to me.
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    Aug 03, 2014 2:20 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with loving a pet, or children - or sports, I suppose. But I must concur with ScruffLA: Too much is simply too much.

    If one's whole life is about another creature then why would I care to know you? These things should be INTEGRATED in one's life... not take the place of it.

    I loved my childhood cat, Miles, of 18 years... and I've loads of funny stories about him... but obsession-to-exclusion in any form gets tiresome quickly.
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    Aug 03, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
    JangoB saidSome of these replies are a bit disheartening. I agree with those that feel pets are just as important and deserving of unconditional love to some who don't have or want children. They are not humans but they have many qualities that make them just as lovable, and far more loyal. It is only our society's narrow definitions that tell us that having children is expected and accepted. I would argue that this type of thinking in a more serious way causes people to only accept marriage as between a man and woman, or that all gay people 'have a screw loose'.

    Personally, I 'like' and enjoy every picture my friends post about their dogs or cats, but roll my eyes at the endless ones about their kids. I realize some people feel differently and I don't judge them for their love of kids, just as you shouldn't judge those that love their animals like kids. While I don't go to the length some go to humanize their animals in terms of dressing them up or painting their nails or whatever, I say all the more power to those that want to and enjoy it. As long as the animals are well treated, loved, happy, and kept safe, I think people should do what makes them happy without judgment.

    Everyone has a right to like or not like them, but my personal experience is that more often pet lovers have the biggest, most empathetic hearts. I couldn't date someone who didn't understand the love of animals. I'm lucky that I work with a lot of pet owners who adore their pets. When one of them lost their wonderful dog recently, it was treated as a death of a loved one. She was out several days mourning her loss. Everyone rallied around her in support. When one of my cats went missing, my boss was supportive and let me take the day to find him (I did icon_smile.gif ). I didn't have to ask- it was expected. Pets are far more innocent and unconditionally loving than humans. Those that disqualify the love and affection for a creature based on its intelligence or number of legs seem cold to me.



    most annoying way to get money, hit up people with pets, it drives me up a wall when this appears every 1/2 hour, its so bad, that I must change the channel every time I see this, stop with the boo whoo. It the same advertising technic to sell hamburgers, collect money for the church, kids in need in Africa (when we have our own starving)etc...PETA must have billions

    I don't advocate animal abuse in any way, but I don't condone "pulling human heart strings" to extort money so some human bureaucrat can be a billionaire, some people will always be sheeple and gladly give away their money icon_rolleyes.gif




  • wellwell

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    Aug 03, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
    Not exactly; I talk @ length to my pets . . .
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    Aug 03, 2014 3:28 AM GMT
    I speak for my dog :S... But its because is funny, he made jockes, I mean, I made those jokes, but if is him, no one has problems, but when I told those jokes, thats another story :S
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    Aug 03, 2014 1:21 PM GMT
    The link was a good read.