Convince me that being a top is great

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    Aug 03, 2014 4:06 AM GMT
    I'm not able to bottom because of some intestinal surgeries I had when I was 16 to cure my Ulcerative Colitis. It's made me really upset and depressed that I'll never be able to experience that. icon_sad.gif

    For all of you tops out there, or even versatile guys who have topped/enjoy topping. Convince me that being a top isn't so bad. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 03, 2014 6:23 AM GMT
    You had the surgery at 16. Shouldn't things be healed by now?
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    Aug 03, 2014 6:24 AM GMT
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  • Webster666

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    Aug 03, 2014 7:19 AM GMT
    My opinion is that either you are a top or you're not, and not being physically able to get fucked isn't going to change that. So, about all you can do is find other ways of having sex, like sucking dick, for instance...
  • buddycat

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    Aug 03, 2014 8:31 AM GMT
    Yes, remember that there is a segment of the gay population that doesn't engage in anything anal at all. Even those that are a bottom, top, or versatile won't do anything anal all the time.
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    Aug 03, 2014 9:44 AM GMT
    xrichx saidYou had the surgery at 16. Shouldn't things be healed by now?


    It's healed, but I have what's called a j-pouch which means that I no longer have a normal colon and instead my small intestine was used to create an internal "pouch" that acts as my large intestine/colon. So basically, it's super tight down there and I could rupture something from anal sex, which would be really bad. Plus there's staples which would make it unpleasant for my partner to say the least.
  • buddycat

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    Aug 03, 2014 9:58 AM GMT
    Then it doesn't matter something you can't do. There are more bottoms or vers guys that prefer to bottom than tops so that is a plus. You seem like more of a top anyhow.
  • Apparition

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    Aug 03, 2014 2:25 PM GMT
    90% of guys are tops OUTSIDE the gay world, i am sure like them, you will survive.
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    Aug 03, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    Apparition said90% of guys are tops OUTSIDE the gay world, i am sure like them, you will survive.


    Right, but I'm not OUTSIDE the gay world, I'm IN it.
  • takashi

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    Aug 03, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    Do you NOT enjoy begin a top?

    I hope you enjoy what you do, us bottoms need tops to enjoy themselves!
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    Aug 03, 2014 8:21 PM GMT
    takashi saidDo you NOT enjoy begin a top?

    I hope you enjoy what you do, us bottoms need tops to enjoy themselves!


    I've never done anal.
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    Aug 04, 2014 5:00 AM GMT
    signseller said
    takashi said



    I've never done anal.

    You've just said in another thread that you have never had sex, and that you don't know if you're gay. Have you ever kissed another guy? If you don't know if you're gay or not, why are you worried about topping?

    Bullwinkle, I think we be in troll territory.
    So if you were a sock, who would you be?
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    Aug 04, 2014 12:47 PM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    signseller said
    takashi said



    I've never done anal.

    You've just said in another thread that you have never had sex, and that you don't know if you're gay. Have you ever kissed another guy? If you don't know if you're gay or not, why are you worried about topping?

    Bullwinkle, I think we be in troll territory.
    So if you were a sock, who would you be?


    I definitely am attracted to guys, I never said that I wasn't. I knew this from a young age. I was just saying that as I'm getting older, I'm finding that I'm attracted to women a little more as well.

    And the reason I'm asking is because I usually always pictured myself as the bottom whenever I think about sex with guys.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 04, 2014 1:17 PM GMT
    I suggest you stop worrying about it and give it a go. Find a decent guy who knows your story and is willing to laugh and enjoy the exploration with you. I started out as a bottom and was surprised when I found out I loved both roles. Though with any given guy it is one or the other. I don't flip. Sex is a funny thing. It will surprise you. The longer you wait, the more nervous you'll get and then that will be its own issue.