talking with a guy i'm really into. he tells me he has hpv, anal. am i guaranteed to get it if i'm with him?

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    Aug 03, 2014 6:46 AM GMT
    he's a bottom i'm a top
  • Webster666

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    Aug 03, 2014 7:14 AM GMT
    I Googled it:
    More than half of men who are sexually active in the U.S. will have HPV at some time in their life. Often, a man will clear the virus on his own, with no health problems.

    Risks of HPV Infection in Men

    Some of the 30 or so types of HPV associated with genital cancers can lead to cancer of the anus or penis in men. Both of these cancer types are rare, especially in men with a healthy immune system. The American Cancer Society estimates about 1,570 men in the U.S. will be diagnosed with cancer of the penis in 2012. About 2,250 men are estimated to have receive a diagnosis of anal cancer in 2012 as well.

    The risk of anal cancer is about 17 times higher in sexually active gay and bisexual men than in men who have sex only with women. Men who have HIV (human immunodeficiency virus) are also at higher risk of getting this cancer.

    Other types of HPV virus rarely cause cancer in men, but they do cause genital warts. At a given point in time, about 1% of sexually active men in the U.S. will have genital warts.
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    Aug 03, 2014 7:56 AM GMT
    I've done google searching too, it seems pretty contagious honestly!! But I dont' want to let that detract from relationship. anal sex isnt' everything. it also looks like a condom doesn't help either...
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    Aug 03, 2014 3:50 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    greekphysique saidI've done google searching too, it seems pretty contagious honestly!! But I dont' want to let that detract from relationship. anal sex isnt' everything. it also looks like a condom doesn't help either...


    You're right. Condoms don't protect from HPV.

    If you don't have it then maybe consider the vaccination for it. Consult with a physician and see what s/he says.

    If your health is good and you're HIV-, your chances of getting it are low. Or rather your chances of getting anal cancer are slim. Especially if you're the top.







    How does it spread if I'm the top? Will it spread to my cock?
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    Aug 03, 2014 6:23 PM GMT
    avoid bro science; talk to a doctor. Pick a physician that is skilled in this area.

    my two cents:
    -there is no functional test for it. the disease has multiple or unknown infection sights in the body?
    -spread by contact
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    Aug 04, 2014 1:50 AM GMT
    pellaz saidavoid bro science; talk to a doctor. Pick a physician that is skilled in this area.

    my two cents:
    -there is no functional test for it. the disease has multiple or unknown infection sights in the body?
    -spread by contact


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    Aug 04, 2014 7:04 AM GMT
    ^do you know about the gardasil vaccine? does it have any significant adverse health affects?

    i've learned a lot in the last 24 hours about this to the degree that i think with the gardasil vaccine, treatment of his warts and some patience, i think i could actually manage to have sex with him without contracting the warts. but i have not made up my mind just yet.

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    pellaz saidavoid bro science; talk to a doctor. Pick a physician that is skilled in this area.

    my two cents:
    -there is no functional test for it. the disease has multiple or unknown infection sights in the body?
    -spread by contact


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    Aug 04, 2014 12:57 PM GMT
    I am no expert but had a partner with HPV. You are young so it is not too late to get immunized, which only spares you from HPV if you haven't been exposed. You should limit your sexual partners and always use protection for many reasons! Condoms and dental dams aren't surefire HPV blockers because you get the virus from skin-to-skin contact. For example, rubbing your cock against his ass could expose you to the virus even without penetration. Most active gay men are exposed to HPV already so it's hard to avoid totally. You could already have it anyway. If you like this guy go forward but be careful about skin to ski contact "around there"
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    Aug 04, 2014 1:18 PM GMT
    helloandgoodbi said
    ...you get the virus from skin-to-skin contact. For example, rubbing your cock against his ass could expose you to the virus even without penetration.

    Correct. As you and pellaz note the virus can be spread by direct skin contact, not solely by bodily fluids. That makes it more difficult to block than HIV and some other STIs.

    The OP should see his doctor, and ideally an infectious disease specialist. He'll be advised of what safe sex protocols he can follow, and be told what his risk of infection is. Also learn what vaccines are available today and appropriate in his situation, and how effective. Also what his friend can do to treat his HPV, to make it less infectious, if not totally cure it.

    BTW, my respect for the guy who made this voluntary admission. This is one of the ways we limit the spread of STIs. Along with our following a fundamental tenet of Safe Sex: the assumption that EVERY new guy we meet can have SOME kind of STI. Regardless of his healthy appearance and what he thinks he knows about himself, and our therefore behaving accordingly.
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    Aug 04, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    So I've found out SOOO much information, the ONLY question I have left is this:

    Gardasil -- what do y'all know about it? I don't want to read a curated wikipedia article -- I want to hear real people's opinions of it. Does it matter if you already have HPV? I've basically realized I likely have fought-off a non-wart, non-cancerous HPV infection at some point in my life, and so have all of y'all, but I'm 24 so I'm still under the 25 age-recommendation for Gardasil. Will it still immunize me if I've hypothetically had a strain of HPV, because I've read it immunizes against 4 strains (2 which cause warts) -- so why would having one strain prevent the other from being immunized against?

    Additionally, do you guys have any general insight you can give me into the vaccination process? I've read it takes a total of 6 months, but I'm more curious about side effects. I'm in SUCH incredible shape, mentally, physically and emotionally. I'm not scared of vaccines, but I am definitely weary of an unnecessary vaccine or one who's negatives outweigh its positives.