Red-Vespa saidA "violation of trust" is the perfect reason a relationship should end. But, that's just how I would react. Betray me, and you're history; no delays, no excuses, no reprieves, you're out the door.
I personally agree with you, Red.
You sound like you're one of those guys who has your boyfriend under the threat of castration if he goes off too far?
You still didn't explain the timing thing. That confused me a bit.
My partner is under no verbal threat, I've never even discussed this possibility with him. But that's what would happen, and I think he's adult enough to know it, and will never do it. Nor would I cheat on him, for that matter.
As for timing, I meant for the injured party to drop the hammer at the most advantageous time. Play your cards close to your chest, don't telegraph your intentions until everything you need to do to protect yourself is in place first.
No need to give the bastard time to react and take care of his own ass, and maybe hurt yours in the process. He's the cheat, not you, so let him suffer the consequences.
That might mean finding a new place to live, scheduling moving trucks, whatever, all without his knowledge.
"Oh, did I tell you I cancelled the lease? You recall it's in my name. You have to be out of here tomorrow. That's when the movers are taking my own stuff out. Your stuff? Maybe your new BF has room for it."
I am totally ruthless with people who fuck with me.