Why are most gay men bottoms?

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    Aug 04, 2014 11:50 PM GMT
    Purely out of curiosity why do you guys think this is?

    I just notice more guys saying they're bottoms than guys who say they're tops.

    Is it biological, social, or psychological etc...?


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    Aug 04, 2014 11:54 PM GMT
    I already asked this question

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3875804


  • mybud

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    Aug 04, 2014 11:59 PM GMT
    I think it has to do with expectations..If you fall for a guy but know he's a top, you adapt outta, lust, love, or attraction, or other reasons. You want to fit their mold, so you turn into clay....I'm a top though.
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    Aug 05, 2014 12:06 AM GMT
    Since the other one's full of stuff already I'll post here......
    for me even though I do like to top some times I really like it when I bottom.
    I just love how it feels when a guy is doing me doggie, the feel of a hard cock slam home drives me wild , all during the time I'm begging for more and harder.
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    Aug 05, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    I think it could be that not everyone is that into sex and so sometimes it may be easier to just bottom. It can be painful but at least the guy on bottom can just lie back until it's over.

    I based this observation on what my friends have told me about women who think just because they have a virgina they don't need to do anything. It's not a scientific explanation by any stretch just something that came to my mind.
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    Aug 05, 2014 3:35 AM GMT
    kevex saidI already asked this question

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3875804




    didn't see that one
    but more the merrier right?
  • buddycat

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    Aug 05, 2014 4:20 AM GMT
    It is been said that gay men like to be emasculated. It could also be the whole prostate thing. Maybe a combination. Some gay men don't like that at all.
  • Sunny_x9

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    Aug 05, 2014 7:09 AM GMT
    whaaat ....
    most gay men are bottoms .
    where
    where
    where
    oh dear anyway I m guy from India . and a top
    its really hard to find a bottom here
    I prefer young and smooth bottms though
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    Aug 05, 2014 7:38 AM GMT
    Why ask why? Try butt dry.
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    Aug 05, 2014 2:03 PM GMT
    dannyboyUK saidI think it could be that not everyone is that into sex and so sometimes it may be easier to just bottom. It can be painful but at least the guy on bottom can just lie back until it's over.

    I based this observation on what my friends have told me about women who think just because they have a virgina they don't need to do anything. It's not a scientific explanation by any stretch just something that came to my mind.


    That does make sense in some ways. Like how straight guys biottom in gay porns.
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    Aug 06, 2014 3:34 PM GMT
    buddycat saidIt is been said that gay men like to be emasculated. It could also be the whole prostate thing. Maybe a combination. Some gay men don't like that at all.


    I personally just don't like the thought of being inside a butt

    That's why I mostly bottom lol.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 06, 2014 3:42 PM GMT
    My guess is that it is because most guys first full penetrative experience is as a bottom, that someone else was the initiator and they received. It was great so they kept on doing it. Nothing wrong with that. But I bet a lot of guys would also enjoy being the top if they gave it a go, even if they still fantasized about the bottom role.

    (To the OP's statement above^^^, try thinking about it as being inside a guy you deeply care for, not just a butt.)
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    Aug 06, 2014 8:11 PM GMT
    i dunno,

    am not that big of a bottom anymore, but am not that big of a top either. i cant seem to edge enough to cum. but then i dont cum much either haha.

    i think am in the grey area..
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    Aug 06, 2014 9:32 PM GMT
    kevex saidI already asked this question

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3875804




    I read it.
    You act as moderator and berate bottoms and say dumb shit like; "That's a myth. There are no G-spots in a guy's ass." "It's still interacting with the prostate. Nothing happens. Women don't have prostates and they like it. Proof that the prostate is not the G-spot."

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    Aug 07, 2014 2:07 AM GMT
    I doubt that most gay men are "bottoms". And there aren't if you don't limit your sample to those that practice anal sex - a lot of gay men never do. If you include versatile among bottoms, then yes, there are more in the group of strictly- only-bottom plus versatile than in the group of strictly-only top. that's because there are a lot of "versatile" guys out there - who can vary from 90% bottom to 90% top.
  • frogman89

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    Aug 07, 2014 9:58 AM GMT
    I can't confirm that most gay guys are bottom. Here in Berlin you rather have a hard time as a top because there are not as many bottoms. The competition is hard. No pun intended.
    Well, I have to rephrase that. Most guys in Berlin are versatile but tend to prefer top.

    It may be a regional thing.
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    Aug 07, 2014 10:49 AM GMT
    I'm not sure that they are...

    Back when I was "on the prowl" as it were, I found that as a versatile but predominant top, I was meeting nothing but other tops for a long time.

    THEN I ran into a phase of nothing but bottoms...

    Maybe it's cyclical? like astrology? Is there a gay constellation that depending on it's ascension or declination that gays tend to go one way or the other?

    ...or maybe I just need my morning coffee, cuz that's one of the strangest things I think I've ever typed...

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    Sep 06, 2014 3:41 AM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI'm not sure that they are...

    Back when I was "on the prowl" as it were, I found that as a versatile but predominant top, I was meeting nothing but other tops for a long time.

    THEN I ran into a phase of nothing but bottoms...

    Maybe it's cyclical? like astrology? Is there a gay constellation that depending on it's ascension or declination that gays tend to go one way or the other?

    ...or maybe I just need my morning coffee, cuz that's one of the strangest things I think I've ever typed...

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    Probably astrological haha
  • Svnw688

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    Sep 09, 2014 6:03 AM GMT
    Because having your hole fucked into a juicy pleasure tube is the best sensation on this planet. So humans, being seekers of pleasure, prefer bottoming.

    Kind of how most, but not all, guys prefer anal over oral sex because anal (topping or bottoming) feels better than a b/j. Similarly, most, but not all, guys prefer (in a perfect world) bare to condom because raw sex physically feels better than bagged sex (I am not advocating unsafe sex, I am simply making a factual statement based on biology).

    Often with two choices, one is clearly superior:
    Chocolate - Vanilla = Chocolate
    iPhone - Anroid = iPhone
    Wild Turkey Whiskey - Woodford Reserve = Woodford
    oral sex - anal sex = anal sex
    bottoming - topping = bottoming

    We're not choosing to be bottoms because our dick doesn't work, or because we have unresolved psychological issues. The vast majority of bottoms are bottoms because, quite simply, it feels better.
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:41 AM GMT
    I keep hearing this, mostly from guys in USA.
    I have lived around Europe, and I have to say it isn't true here. It was worst in Madrid, where almost everyone is a Top or they pretend to be.
    I think somehow it's also culture related. Generally, all these Middle-eastern or South European countries have over inflated sense of their masculinity, and they feel bottoming isn't very masculine.
  • Svnw688

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    Sep 09, 2014 6:28 PM GMT
    morphic saidI keep hearing this, mostly from guys in USA.
    I have lived around Europe, and I have to say it isn't true here. It was worst in Madrid, where almost everyone is a Top or they pretend to be.
    I think somehow it's also culture related. Generally, all these Middle-eastern or South European countries have over inflated sense of their masculinity, and they feel bottoming isn't very masculine.


    Books flight for a circuit of Middle Eastern and South European countries.
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:39 PM GMT
    Svnw688 said
    morphic saidI keep hearing this, mostly from guys in USA.
    I have lived around Europe, and I have to say it isn't true here. It was worst in Madrid, where almost everyone is a Top or they pretend to be.
    I think somehow it's also culture related. Generally, all these Middle-eastern or South European countries have over inflated sense of their masculinity, and they feel bottoming isn't very masculine.


    Books flight for a circuit of Middle Eastern and South European countries.

    Madrid or Barcelona could be the place for you then.
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    Sep 10, 2014 2:35 AM GMT
    morphic saidI keep hearing this, mostly from guys in USA.
    I have lived around Europe, and I have to say it isn't true here. It was worst in Madrid, where almost everyone is a Top or they pretend to be.
    I think somehow it's also culture related. Generally, all these Middle-eastern or South European countries have over inflated sense of their masculinity, and they feel bottoming isn't very masculine.



    Hmmm it might be a USA thing.
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    Sep 10, 2014 3:00 AM GMT
    Versatile here, I like cute white guys bottoms.icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 10, 2014 3:05 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidThe vast majority of bottoms are bottoms because, quite simply, it feels better.
    That implies to me that guys who are only bottoms are therefore being selfish. Pair a versatile and a bottom and the versatile loses. Pair two bottoms and they both lose because neither wants to or can top.