Relocating to SoCal from NorCal.

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    Aug 05, 2014 1:49 AM GMT
    I'm a born and raised Northern Californian, moving to LA (Santa Monica, Venice Beach) for a job in the digital media/ marketing career.

    I have some good friends down there already which will help.

    It's awesome that, for the first time in a very long time, I can start over in a big city without really knowing anybody- not having any reputation or previous boyfriends/ hang ups.

    I really want to meet some guys who like to go swimming, surfing, or do triathlons.

    So what's the gay social life like in LA?
    Any NorCal ex-pats that can chime in?

    I'm not a fan of Hollywood at all. I have gone to The Abbey though and had fun, but seems like more of a place to be seen than to find eligible men.

    I'm over the cold fog of SF, the hellish summers of Sac, and ready for the "plastic" lifestyle of LA with your gorgeous men and perfect weather.
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    Aug 05, 2014 2:12 AM GMT
    I dunno. You gotta put some serious effort here in LA. Life revolves around traffic. So it can be a little inconvenient trying to meet up with friends or dates, unless they live/work close by.

    Plenty of eye candy. But yeah, sometimes the lights are on, but no one is home. icon_lol.gif

    Fitness/health is pretty big around here. It's not just for vanity reasons. I'm sure you'll be able to find others with similar interests.

    WeHo isn't the only gay spot around here. There are other cities and neighborhoods with a good size gay population. North Hollywood, Burbank, Silverlake, Long Beach.. to name a few.

    I really like the Santa Monica and Venice area. But sometimes, it's a bit much. Too touristy on the weekends, and sometimes a little sketchy at night. And the traffic is always bad on the west side. icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 05, 2014 2:58 AM GMT
    LA used to be a desert before water was brought in so it is hot most of the time if you don't mind that. I think L.A. like a lot of other big cities is "every man for himself." You just have to be independent here and find your recreation. Santa Monica area is very crowded but for the art and entertainment industry right now it is the center. There are benefits but many problems living in the area. I personally wouldn't fit there. I need more space from the rat race.
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    Aug 05, 2014 3:58 AM GMT
    Traffic is a big drawback for me. Bay Area has the 2nd worst in the country, LA is 1st worst. Being in California my whole life it was just part of the culture. But it is really starting to get to me. So where else in the country is there that is decently affordable and doesn't have traffic, with jobs in the media industry? SF, LA, and NY are the three big ones.

    Nothing's finalized yet- I don't have to accept any job offer. The traffic thing is already stressing me out though and I haven't even moved yet. I could see myself in New York. Visited once and I like the straight forwardness of it (vs. the passive aggressiveness that is stereotypical of California). However, if it means having to live in dorm room cramped quarters again at age 30, forget it. Santa Monica is much more affordable.

    LA seems to have plenty of opportunity for me. I'm more of a city boy than country boy anyway.
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    Aug 05, 2014 4:28 AM GMT
    The trick to surviving LA is to work close to home. It's even better if you live and work at the beach, where 80 degrees is a very hot day and 50 is a very cold one, and the onshore breeze blows all the smog inland. Thankfully, LA is one of the very few places on earth where you can live at a great beach and have a "real", high paying job nearby. I'm sure I could make more money if I searched around and decided to commute farther from home - but it'd have to be a LOT of money.

    Santa Monica and Venice aren't for me - too urban (meaning too many homeless people, drug addicts, and assorted scumbags) - but then again, there are virtually no single gay guys here in the South Bay. So, like everything else, it's a tradeoff.
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    Aug 05, 2014 4:46 AM GMT
    If you find a place to live in Santa Monica, then traffic and weather won't be a problem for you. The weather by the beach will be mild all year round (much better than in the valleys and inland). Your commute will be short too. Santa Monica is quite nice with plenty of hi-tech companies and also outdoor stuff to do.
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    Aug 05, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
    If you work/live/play in the same area, then traffic isn't a big deal. We also have a rail system that will take you to some of the major attractions.. Hollywood, DTLA, Culver City, South Bay, Long Beach, Pasadena, etc.

    Uber and Lyft are pretty big around here too. So if you'd rather pay someone to drive, then you have that option.
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    Aug 05, 2014 7:20 PM GMT
    I've lived in So Cal all my life (south of LA).

    LA definitely has a lot of problems with traffic. There are a lot of gay scenes, but alot of shallow guys as well. The men are hot just like the summers and the weather is fair year round. Alot of people commute from nearby cities or counties. Coming from Nor Cal, I don't know the comparison, but if you open your mind to other areas, so cal has a lot of possibilities, though a commute is sometimes inevitable.