Visiting parents

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    Aug 05, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    When u visit your parents, how many days do u stay?
  • Bunjamon

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    Aug 05, 2014 7:22 PM GMT
    I used to live 6,800 miles from my parents, and now I "only" live 2,600. Since I'm self-employed and can work from anywhere, I tend to get my money's worth since the plane ticket is so expensive. Last year I went for about 3 weeks. Since my parents still work, I had the days to myself and saw them in the evenings for meals and then got to do more fun things on the weekends. It made for a relaxing visit since there wasn't a lot of stress packing a lot of stuff into a short amount of time. It also helps that I have a great relationship with my parents. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 05, 2014 7:26 PM GMT
    Instead of how long do I stay I usually think of how long I can STAND being around my folks without going crazy haha! Usually lasts for about three days
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    Aug 05, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    How many days? My folks were fun. I hung out for the entire ride. They died just to get rid of me. Dead people are so rude!
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 05, 2014 7:29 PM GMT
    I used to visit once/year after about age 30. I'd stay about a week but I always got a hotel room. I'd spend most of my time at their house but if I went out with old friends or my siblings that left Mom and Dad to their peaceful routines. As parents age, they need more down time and the old adage applies: Fish and houseguests start to stink after three days. Your folks may love you but they, too, have moved on with their lives. Give them lots of attention for 70% of your trip but be sensitive that their needs as well.
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    Aug 05, 2014 9:20 PM GMT
    House guests are like fish, they go bad after three days. If you stay longer than that get your own digs.
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    Aug 05, 2014 9:29 PM GMT
    I think it depends on your background. Like for me coming from a middle eastern background, I don't visit cz I'd never move out LOL. But even if I do I think I'll just stick to somewhere close to my parents
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    Aug 05, 2014 9:59 PM GMT
    Last time I visited my mom (1400 miles away), I got there at 7pm one evening and left at 5am the next morning. That was in 2007.
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    Aug 05, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    I was raised by my awesome grandparents and I had a great relationship with them. They lived healthy, long lives and unfortunately they're gone now. I visited them all the time and took a lot of trips with them - right up to the end - not long ago. I usually stayed with them from a day or so to a few weeks at a time.

    If you're lucky enough to have terrific parents, or grandparents - - - go see them & spend quality time with them. Take photos, and even tape their voices while they chat about just anything. When they're gone someday - - you'll miss them, believe me.
  • madsexy

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    Aug 06, 2014 12:17 AM GMT
    My parents live home in the Netherlands so when I visit them it is usually for a week. I love being around them and can easily do a week or could do 2 because we get along so well . . . and because I know an ocean will once again separate us SOON. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 06, 2014 12:22 AM GMT
    Up until last month I lived in the same town as my mother. So an afternoon at a time. (=
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    Aug 06, 2014 1:04 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidbut I always got a hotel room.

    If you can afford it this is the only way to do it. Once I started doing this it wasn't so bad.
  • DCEric

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    Aug 06, 2014 1:31 AM GMT
    I live about 18 miles from mine. I stay for a few hours at a time. Drop by once a week or so.
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    Aug 06, 2014 3:20 AM GMT
    I live fairly far from mine now (texas - minnesota). Over christmas I tend to stay 8 days or so but I get very bored haha. Pretty much sitting at home watching Netflix. I think it's time to shorten that trip ;)
  • jo2hotbod

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    Aug 06, 2014 3:24 AM GMT
    pecmansd saidWhen u visit your parents, how many days do u stay?


    Appreciate them while you still have them , you'll crave them when they're gone and wished you had stayed longer
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    Aug 06, 2014 3:31 AM GMT
    My parents live only 20 minutes away. When I visit it is only for a few hours.
  • Kalifornicati...

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    Aug 06, 2014 4:46 AM GMT
    My in-laws I can handle, but my own parents drive me nuts after 48 hrs, although it's getting easier I have to say. It's my other brother and biological father that I cam handle for a day and then I'm on suicide watch!! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 06, 2014 4:50 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod said
    pecmansd saidWhen u visit your parents, how many days do u stay?


    Appreciate them while you still have them , you'll crave them when they're gone and wished you had stayed longer


    I use to think that...and I do about most my family, but honestly a few I could do with out. If I met them on a street and got to know them, I wouldn't. Their just wrong in every way you can think!
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    Aug 06, 2014 11:30 AM GMT
    My parents are several hundred miles away (Connecticut vs. Kentucky). We try to see each other at least once per year, though the last couple of years it's been more. Sometimes we meet in the middle for some kind of vacation trip (we rent a house) and sometimes it's over a holiday at one of our homes. Usually 3-6 days either way.

    Since we see so little of each other we communicate a lot through email and facebook.
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    Aug 06, 2014 11:32 AM GMT
    Three days maximum!
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    Aug 06, 2014 12:29 PM GMT
    My mom lives 5 minutes away, but my aunts who helped raise me when I was young live oversea. Now that I'm older, I make an effort to visit them every year as our time together is less and less. With my limited vacation time, I can only do 2 weeks at a time.
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    Aug 06, 2014 1:01 PM GMT
    Mine are in-state and we get along fine. We meet up for most family birthdays and holidays and have traveled together a number of times (either both parents or just one). I don't know what staying at their house for a prolonged period would be like, because they've never been far enough away for it to be necessary.
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    Aug 06, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
    smiledie saidInstead of how long do I stay I usually think of how long I can STAND being around my folks without going crazy haha! Usually lasts for about three days


    Amen to that!
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    Aug 06, 2014 3:03 PM GMT
    I already mentioned my grandparents raised me and I spent a lot of time with them, but some guys have asked whatever happened to my parents. My parents liked their freedom and had a lot of friends, so my siblings and I spent all of our weekends and vacations with our grandparents. plus great grandparents and assorted help.

    My mom is still alive and very healthy, still looks good, and is busy with her friends. My father died a few years ago. I try to keep a relationship with my mom, and she lives only about 5 miles away. I try to have coffee or lunch with her, or invite her to do things, but she usually cancels at the last hour, when something more interesting comes up with her friends. Nothing new. Same old thing - all my life. I've seen her twice this year. I saw her at a cocktail party last month, and we chatted with each other. So - how much time do I spend with her? Not a whole lot!
  • MarvelBoy23

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    Aug 06, 2014 3:15 PM GMT
    My 3 sisters and I all have our own homes in the same town we grew up in. 2 of my sisters and I live within 3 blocks of each other and 3 blocks of my parents. My other sister is 1 mile away. So we visit often.

    We generally have dinner together 3 or 4 nights a week. We all get along well and the only issues we have are the stupid issues that everyone has with everybody.

    We are 1st generation here, so most of our family is overseas in Italy. So my dad and his siblings are all very close as they came here together in the 50's. We see the "extended" family usually once a month if not more.

    We have lots of parties and drink lots of wine. What could be so bad about that!?



    I am however incredibly sick of Illinois, but feel it isn't the right time to leave as my parents are older now, and I wouldn't feel right taking off. But one day I can't wait to get the hell out of here.