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    Aug 07, 2014 12:58 AM GMT
    So I actually just enlisted in the navy a and waiting to go to through RTC (basic training) and after watching a navy "faces of RTC" video, I have a million questions that I just don't think I am comfortable asking my Petty Officer. Honestly i am kinda scared because i haven't came out to anyone yet and at my high school I had a lot of people give me grief because they thought i was gay and sadly say, wouldn't be accepted. I hope the navy is not the same way. Because By the way I am Bi and it might not be different to others but it is to me.I just really hope I wont have to tell people why I am that or if I like boys or girls so they feel secure. Anyone, care to share experiences or have answers icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 07, 2014 1:13 AM GMT
    If anyone has any answers or experiences to share feel free to send me a message
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    Aug 07, 2014 1:47 AM GMT
    Places you might start your search with:

    http://usnaout.org/ - An organization of Annapolis grads and students - contact them, - they undoubtedly have info on gay organizations for enlisted personnel.

    http://www.navy.mil/submit/display.asp?story_id=65449
    a story on GLASS, a support organization for gay sailors.

    http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-05-07/news/ct-met-gay-navy-support-20120507_1_gay-soldiers-support-group-navy-base
    another article on gay support groups for sailors.


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    Aug 07, 2014 1:51 AM GMT
    Never
    Again
    Volunteer
    Yourself

    Don't worry. You'll learn the meaning of this soon enough.

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    Aug 07, 2014 2:18 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidNever
    Again
    Volunteer
    Yourself

    Don't worry. You'll learn the meaning of this soon enough.

    <- Ex-Navy icon_wink.gifWhy? I thought the Marines were worse.
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    Aug 07, 2014 2:54 AM GMT
    olaff saidSo I actually just enlisted in the navy a and waiting to go to through RTC (basic training) and after watching a navy "faces of RTC" video, I have a million questions that I just don't think I am comfortable asking my Petty Officer. Honestly i am kinda scared because i haven't came out to anyone yet and at my high school I had a lot of people give me grief because they thought i was gay and sadly say, wouldn't be accepted. I hope the navy is not the same way. Because By the way I am Bi and it might not be different to others but it is to me.I just really hope I wont have to tell people why I am that or if I like boys or girls so they feel secure. Anyone, care to share experiences or have answers icon_confused.gif

    Half the Navy is gay. No need to worry. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 07, 2014 3:13 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidNever
    Again
    Volunteer
    Yourself

    Don't worry. You'll learn the meaning of this soon enough.

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    This
    All of this

    I have been out longer than you've been alive--DADT was a hundred times better than Leavenworth.
    Me now would get out, OUT in front of it, but I can't even imagine it back then.
    You may want to hit up one of these guys

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1250526?forumpage=0

    to get a current perspective, as a lot of guys don't read/participate in the forums sense Ren & Stimpy took over.

    What will be your designation?

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    Aug 07, 2014 3:34 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    paulflexes saidNever
    Again
    Volunteer
    Yourself

    Don't worry. You'll learn the meaning of this soon enough.

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    This
    All of this

    I have been out longer than you've been alive--DADT was a hundred times better than Leavenworth.
    Me now would get out, OUT in front of it, but I can't even imagine it back then.
    You may want to hit up one of these guys

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1250526?forumpage=0

    to get a current perspective, as a lot of guys don't read/participate in the forums sense Ren & Stimpy took over.

    What will be your designation?

    I was in (and out) before DADT. When I was in, it was perfectly ok to be gay, as long as you didn't flaunt it (err, 'act' like it) or have an obvious boyfriend.
  • araa

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    Aug 07, 2014 11:48 AM GMT
    Enjoy it!
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    Aug 07, 2014 1:15 PM GMT
    I did 12 yrs on 3 different ships. I was in during the 1980s and 90s. Bootcamp they had open gang showers. No need to worry, by time you take shower you will be so tired and sex on the brain will be the last thing on your mind. Everyone thought they put "soft peter" in the food.. They don't. its your mind on other things.

    As far as ships go. You will be sleeping next to 5 other guys at a time in there underwear in a space the size of a closet in bunks stacked 3 high. they do have privacy curtains for each bunk in The living qtrs. you could have well over 100 guys in a small area. Showers are separate stalls. So is the toilets. That is the personal aspect of your living conditions.
  • fitartistsf

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    Aug 07, 2014 2:19 PM GMT
    I spent 10 years in the US Navy.
    This was before Don't Ask Don't Tell, so I had to live in the closet. I didn't dare do anything to taint my future honorable discharge. But now, with the ban on serving openly repealed, you will have no problem being able to serve openly if you wish. All of the problems that the right wing, conservative, veteran and religious groups said would happen about being openly gay in the military, just have not come true. Everyone, gay and straight, are subject to the UCMJ. Just be yourself, do your duty, to the best of your ability. Yes, you will probably still run into people who are uncomfortable serving next to openly gay individuals, but don't let that concern you. You are there to serve your time, and protect the country in your own small way.
    I joined the Navy, when I realized I needed to get my life back together for other reasons, and because I'm a maritime history buff, its history and traditions, and thought it was the natural progression. I didn't want to join the army and become cannon fodder in some future war, my dad had been a Marine and I didn't want to turn out like him, and I've always loved everything about the sea. Except for the class divisions, between enlisted and officers, and the day-to-day bullshit, I enjoyed being in the Navy.
    If you need to talk to somebody about it, by all means just drop me a note.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 07, 2014 2:20 PM GMT
    It is irrelevant in boot camp (or whatever they call the Navy equivalent) so just keep it to yourself for that short period. But in the year 2014, staying closeted for any reason other than job security is cowardly. And even then, wimpy. Get through training and start being an authentic man. Let the world deal with you, not you hiding and scared. The sooner you assume the mantle of manhood, the happier you'll be.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Aug 07, 2014 2:51 PM GMT
    Best of luck you will look lovely in Summer White!
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    Aug 07, 2014 3:27 PM GMT
    I am out everywhere but at work ..
    Because of the field of work i am in , i often share accommodations when away from home , i don't like to mess around with people i work with .. It is a choice you have to make , get a feel of it and see how comfortable you are .
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    Aug 07, 2014 3:59 PM GMT
    ^^ This. Treat it as a job. No affairs/sex with coworkers. Be professional. Tell people on a need-to-know basis.
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    Aug 07, 2014 7:50 PM GMT
    I almost join the Navy in my mid 20s but nah, I passed over them. Anyway, you will be on a ship in the middle of nowhere with a bunch of other cute Sailors!! Lol, chances are they will get horny and mess around with each other. Good job, have fun in the Navy. I had a crush on one of the Navy Recruiter back in my college. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 07, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    You'll be fine. After 7 years in the AF, half under DADT and half not... you just be yourself and be the best military member you can be. That will be the judge of your success. And no one higher ranking will bother you about it, and even if they do... don't take their shit and follow up through the appropriate channels. Your peers are much more accepting than 10 or 20 years ago so that should be fine too. And don't be afraid to say "Yeah, is that a problem for you?" Most assholes will back down real fast if you stand up to them. Good luck and thanks for your service, Sailor.
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    Aug 07, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    Other than having to call Ronald Reagan my boss, I don't regret a single moment of my enlistment in the Navy.

    You'll have a blast.

    I suggest you take advantage of the GI Bill, serve your enlistment term with honor, then go to university.

    Don't over-think anything. There's no longer any reason to hide or be ashamed of your sexual orientation. A decent percentage of men and women serving with you are in the same boat.

    One piece of advice, do NOT engage in sexual relations with your fellow recruits. If you're caught, you'll be discharged. Keep it in your pants until you're out of training, and stationed.
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    Aug 08, 2014 12:27 AM GMT

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    Aug 08, 2014 2:35 AM GMT
    I was in the Navy in the early 70s; 72-78. When I got out I was sick of the Navy and couldn't wait to get out. I was in an aircraft squadron based at Fighter Town, Miramar, San Diego. Our aircraft carrier was based up here at Alameda. When we went on a deployment we (the enlisted guys) would fly up on a Navy 727 or whatever and land at Alameda and have our repair gear with us and load it on the carrier. Then a few days later the ship would leave and we'd get up to air ops speed and our jets would fly up from San Diego and land on the ship. Air ops were always fun to watch.

    During those few days we were waiting to leave in Alameda I'd always go over to SF and partake of the delights of gay establishments. Those were the days.

    I'll always remember one time when I had to go into our sleeping area to wake up a coworker who got to oversleep because he'd had some evening duty. He was some tight bodied Italian guy. He slept nude. He had pushed the sheets off and had a semi hardon; big thick piece of meat. It took a lot of willpower to resist not playing with that thing.

    Then many years later I took a tour of the USS Hornet, an aircraft carrier that is the same class/size as the ones I was on. It uses the exact same pier as ours used at Alameda. I couldn't believe it; I got really melancholy and homesick remembering all the good times I'd had.

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    Aug 09, 2014 12:16 AM GMT
    LAXWill10 saidI almost join the Navy in my mid 20s but nah, I passed over them. Anyway, you will be on a ship in the middle of nowhere with a bunch of other cute Sailors!! Lol, chances are they will get horny and mess around with each other. Good job, have fun in the Navy. I had a crush on one of the Navy Recruiter back in my college. icon_cool.gif


    You are right. Except now they have women on ALL the ships.. unlike when I was in they were only on non cabatant ships. But most of the guys are sitting around living qtrs. in just there underwear. Im sure they still do today except today boxers are more common and to me they are more like shorts as compared to briefs that were worn by most when I was in.
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    Aug 09, 2014 1:12 AM GMT
    olaff said
    So I actually just enlisted in the navy...

    First of all. congratulations! Anyone who puts on the uniform of our country has my greatest respect and admiration.

    It's now 45 years since I enlisted in the Army. And was scared shitless what I might encounter.

    But what got me through was telling myself that all these other guys were just like me. A lot of draftees back then, and still just guys like me.

    And if THEY could do it, then *I* could do it. Which means YOU can do it. Never doubt yourself. You're tougher than you realize.

    We all are, really. And especially gay guys. Whom I've said here before are way tougher than most of us know ourselves.

    And you're gonna be tough, too. Don't worry, you'll be just fine. When I finished my own Basic Training I realized how easy it really was.

    And again, congrats! I salute you! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 09, 2014 3:13 PM GMT
    Well done, its a fantastic opportunity and don't worry about other things, you'll find your way and learn quickly. Most importantly is feeling part of the family that is sailors not just in your own nation abut around the world. The sea is a unique challenge and very rewarding. Embrace it. Welcome.
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    Aug 10, 2014 12:35 PM GMT
    Fuk wat d wrld thnks do ya thang!
    Live once be icon_biggrin.gifyourself till its gone!
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    Aug 10, 2014 12:47 PM GMT
    Congratulations! You're a Pier Queer now! icon_razz.gif