BillyBrown saidA friend asked me that question yesterday and I was unable to answer.
I always thought it was the right thing to do, everyone else seems to be after one as well.
I always considered having a life partner as one of the boxes I had to check to have had a great life by society standards.
Good topic, your friend is wise. This is a phenomenon many guys face though it isn't just specific to gay men, we r more likely to face it.
A large percentage of gay men are not exclusive and there isn't a huge contingent (regardless of attitudes to monogamy) staying together for very long periods, so why do guys appear to what a relationship??
My take on it is this
1. Things are changing but Gay men are more likely to not be involve with community activities, meaning more time to think as an option even if they haven't met someone suitable or even worked out what they want from a BF
2. Casual sex is monotonous when there is no intimacy over a long period and for those who are patient and have less sexual partners, we long for something more
3. It seem non-monogamy is the main stream of gay culture for relationships, from that infer that many men who otherwise may have hesitated have dove str8 in with the knowledge they have an easy out and potentially fun with others while having Mr reliable to cuddle up to later
Yer I know I,cynical in the eyes of some but realistic to others and everyone had their own circumstances, this is just overview