Flowering debate

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    Jan 12, 2009 4:40 AM GMT
    I recently met a cute guy who could possibly become more than just a friend to me. Anyways, I visited his place recently and noticed all his high-tech gadgets( Apple computers, Wii, I-phone, etc...) , semi-decent decor, contemporary furniture, but something was lacking... until it hit me. He could use some sort of plant(a touch of nature). I have been thinking about giving him flowers or a plant... (I feel a little odd sharing this, but I have only giving flowers(Roses) to women ) but was wondering what kind of flowers/plant does a guy give another guy, if any? Have you ever received flowers? Any suggestions?

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    Jan 12, 2009 4:51 AM GMT
    Well, a live plant requires maintenance. When you give one, you're sort of implicitly demanding an open-ended commitment on his part, to keep it alive. This isn't always easy, if he travels a lot, for instance. Some people might resent that, mildly. Bringing cut flowers ought to be OK, especially if you're going for dinner or something. You might have to throw in a vase, though.
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    Jan 12, 2009 4:52 AM GMT
    any sort of flowers besides roses
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    Jan 12, 2009 5:06 AM GMT
    May I suggest buying him some type of bamboo plant, or maybe a large fern type plant. Add a little feng shui to his household.


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    Jan 12, 2009 5:13 AM GMT
    To alter someone's decor implies a criticism of their decor. It's a touchy thing to do. Maybe he likes a stark, techno look, devoid of living things.

    Perhaps give him cut flowers initially, to see how he reacts, how he displays them. If he's really delighted with them, and tries to preserve them for as long as possible, he might appreciate a living plant next. If he sets them aside and lets them quickly wilt, I'd abandon the plant idea.
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    Jan 12, 2009 6:21 AM GMT
    Give him a contemporary arrangement or a simple vase with a single flower.

    (2 years of floral design experience)

    One - contemporary arrangements are generally more cost effective

    Two - it will better compliment his decor than a traditional (and more feminine bud vase

    Three - red, orange, green, yellow, blue (be careful - don't get lavender), and tropicals are considered more masculine

    Four - tropicals last much longer than most other types.

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    Jan 12, 2009 6:29 AM GMT
    Oh, jeez, ask him. Start with a single bouquet of carnations and work plants into the ensuing conversation.

    Personally I'd give eye rolls to anyone who thought their presence wasn't enough to add life to my house.
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    Jan 12, 2009 6:30 AM GMT
    carnations = ghetto roses
  • Hunter9

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    Jan 12, 2009 6:32 AM GMT
    i dont think you should assume that he wants one
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    Jan 12, 2009 6:37 AM GMT
    JrdnS saidcarnations = ghetto roses
    roses=ghetto child support (no offense to single parents or ghettos)
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 12, 2009 12:27 PM GMT
    Flower for a guys , kinda a not suitable for a tough, manly man unless he is leaning to a softies type. Sort like giving a doll to a boy. You probably mean well, but I say probably other gesture will be more appropriate. Like a movie ticket, take him out for dinner or get him some CD.
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    Jan 12, 2009 12:43 PM GMT
    I'd get him a little arrangement in its own vase. I think most people like getting flowers, but there may be allergy issues or some other reason why he doesn't have plants in the house, so I'd say buy them, but don't be offended if he doesn't like them. Most people still appreciate the gesture
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jan 12, 2009 12:53 PM GMT
    carnations are for the dead. I punch a guy in the face if he gave me flowers. Get him a plant. Get him something he can't kill easy. Like a devils ivy or cactus/succulant plant. Just needs sun and not alot of water.
  • sarmorgh

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    Jan 12, 2009 1:04 PM GMT
    getting someone a cactus is so lesbian. And yes carnations are not a great choice; I would go for tulips. House plants are too commitmenty for a new relationship if that's where it's going and you don't want to scare him away.
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    Jan 12, 2009 1:13 PM GMT
    Well, like most men I love to recieve and give flowers. Just doen't happen very often. The flower giving is a true romantic expression of how you feel for him. You seem to care for him, but do not do roses just yet.

    As for the plant. Perhaps there is a reason for no living plants. perhaps he's not there long enough to care for it, or perhaps he does not have a green thumb and only ends up killing them. Maybe that should be a question to ask him. Nicely in comnversation ask "why no living plants in your place". Simple curious question and a way to learn about his life.
  • coolarmydude

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    Jan 12, 2009 1:20 PM GMT
    Start with fake flowers or a fake plant. If those survive, it's all good.
  • DiverScience

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    Jan 12, 2009 1:41 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidOh, jeez, ask him. Start with a single bouquet of carnations and work plants into the ensuing conversation.

    Personally I'd give eye rolls to anyone who thought their presence wasn't enough to add life to my house.


    Seconded on the first part.

    As to the second... ::shrugs:: My home is full of plants, I always welcome more.
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    Jan 12, 2009 1:47 PM GMT
    You should get him a love fern.......

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    Also, I'd ask him about plants before simply buying one to give to him.
  • Timbales

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    Jan 12, 2009 2:02 PM GMT
    If you are a plant person, I see nothing wrong with giving someone a plant as a gift, as long as you are considerate about it and put some thought into it. I'd get him a small cast-iron plant or parlor palm. They are really hardy, Don't require much maintenance and do well in bright to filtered light.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jan 12, 2009 2:53 PM GMT
    Checkout places like Z Gallery that have cool vases and filler that gives the illusion of a flower arrangement but perhaps made of metals, leather, bamboo or other dry materials that look really cool in a contemporary setting.

    examples:

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    Jan 12, 2009 2:58 PM GMT
    shyguy346 saidMay I suggest buying him some type of bamboo plant, or maybe a large fern type plant. Add a little feng shui to his household.


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    I'm with Shyguy... simple, easy to care for - and already come in a vase/pot/glass thing. Roses are way too cliche, and can be picked up at the 7-11 down the street.
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    Jan 12, 2009 6:56 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidFlower for a guys , kinda a not suitable for a tough, manly man unless he is leaning to a softies type. Sort like giving a doll to a boy. You probably mean well, but I say probably other gesture will be more appropriate. Like a movie ticket, take him out for dinner or get him some CD.


    If you ever get married or die... I'll be sure the ceremony has bouquets of CD's, movie tickets, and food.

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    Jan 13, 2009 5:44 AM GMT
    shyguy346 saidMay I suggest buying him some type of bamboo plant, or maybe a large fern type plant. Add a little feng shui to his household.


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    Thanks for the suggestion... small plant that is easy to take care of...

    *** I just found out he has seasonal allergies, but to what?... there's like 2 feet of snow outside his apartment. He's not a "tough" guy, he's a little femme... that's why I am playing with the flower idea...
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    Jan 13, 2009 6:17 AM GMT
    Do not buy him anything that contains

    Solidago
    Pine
    Daisy
    and sadly tropicals icon_sad.gif

    Ask the florist for arrangements without these


    And plant recommendations...
    Bromeliad - All he has to do is pour water into the center portion and it will pretty much take care of itself
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    Acorus - withstands poor conditions and can withstand being overwatered
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    Monstera - grows in even the most extreme shade and can handle being left alone for weeks at a time
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    This of course is a very large example

    Philodendron - very similar to monstera, but grows slower and comes in a greater variety

    Sansevieria - Mother in law's tongue. Literally impossible to kill. Likes to be dry
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    Jan 13, 2009 7:19 AM GMT
    Plants and pets are a pain in the ass and I'd much rather hug my ipod.

    If you want to give him cut flowers go for it, since it's a sign of who you are and how you treat others, but don't give him something that he'll feel obligated to care for if it isn't something that he would purchase himself.

    I don't care for indoor plants and flowers, I like techy stuff, and if someone got me a plant I would resent it because there is an unspoken expectation that I'll care for it. If it's dead when you drop by you'll be upset and think: I don't care for you because I didn't care for the creature you tried to saddle me with.

    In short: get him something you think he'll like, not something you like.