Do you think it's possible to be bi?

  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 3:31 PM GMT
    Do you think "it's possible" to be bi?

    23 y/o. Have hooked up with 2 guys several times. Both were hot. Online, gay porn looked so damn fun suckin a guy off....in real life, after many tries, it had the same effect on me each time. Boring, not anything like what my fantasies were, and I would end up stopping mid-way.

    Because of this, I've stopped hooking up with dudes. I still check them out though. Some of their bodies are insane! It was fun making out with a guy and letting him suck me off. But when it came time to return the favor I was like icon_question.gif?icon_question.gif?icon_question.gif?icon_question.gif?icon_confused.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif Usually just went our own ways afterwards. No feelings involved. I preferred it that way.

    Is it possible that real life scenarios are much different than what fantasy or porn is? Cause on a video it looks so hot. But in real life no interest anymore to pursue a dick to suck. Pussy isn't gross like that to me. Plunging my tongue deep into a wet tight female is one of the most beautiful things one can do. I doubt that'll ever change for me.

    I read that bi guys are just closeted gay guys blah blah blah. But I legit feel like I am attracted to both. Anyone have any advice here?
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    Aug 14, 2014 3:55 PM GMT
    It definitely possible to be bi , i am ..
    I enjoy sucking a guy to completion , but i hate putting my mouth anywhere near a vagina .
    I love having intercourse with a women , but i absolutely not fancy having it with a man ..
    I love to cuddle and make out equally with both sexes.
    BTW i am not closeted except at work for obvious reasons .
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    Aug 14, 2014 3:56 PM GMT
    possibly the stupidest thread ever created on this forum full of countless idiotic threads....
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    Aug 14, 2014 3:58 PM GMT
    I believe sexuality is very fluid, but society may see things differently. Women are more accepted for bisexuality, men are more seen as either gay or straight lol
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    Aug 14, 2014 4:07 PM GMT
    Sexuality is far more complex than many give it credit. People that make sweeping generalizations like "all bis are closeted gay guys" are just as closed-minded as the people who insist that all non-heteros are psychologically diseased and need help (or demon-possessed, if you go the religious route).

    My advice is to stop giving a fuck about what anyone wants to label you. Labels are only there so that people with similar labels can find each other. The problem with labels is that they also confine you to a particular box that no one tends to be able to see you outside of. For that reason, I don't call myself gay or bisexual (and I'm obviously not heterosexual either). I just say that I am attracted to people of many persuasions, and it's been men a vast majority of the time. Despite that mostly one-sided sexual attraction, I also don't find myself desiring anal sex, and I'll suck a guy off to make him feel good, but it doesn't come naturally to me either. I am relationally attracted to both sexes (that is, I could see myself spending a lifetime with a member of either sex) and would be considered 100% bisexual minus any sexual act. How do you put a label on that? You can't, really.

    My hat is off to you for being open enough to explore. And yes, I think it's quite possible for you to be attracted to both sexes, and yet not have it be a strictly sexual attraction. There is a sort of magnetism between people that happens sometimes - the closest way guys might be able to relate to this is in what people popularly call a "bromance" now. Not a sexual relationship, but clearly a magnetism/attraction between two guys that makes for a special friendship.

    Just be you, man. People on all ends of the spectrum (heterosexual, non-heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, pansexual, etc) may misunderstand you or try to pigeonhole you, but understand that our modern understanding of sexuality is only in its infancy. This next generation will need to develop terminology beyond "non-heterosexual", "gay", "lesbian", etc, because it gets much more complicated than that quickly.
  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    Thanks for the good replies! I appreciate it. I figured why not experiment? It seemed to be such a turn on that I figured if I am indeed gay then just go with it. But as I said, after the hookups, they kind of deterred me from thinking I'm gay. So for now I'm just fluid I guess.

    I'm cool with being single and not being with either. I'd be doing a disservice to another guy to get him involved with me. I wouldn't be able to give him what he wanted. But yeah I know a lot of people repress this stuff till they're older and I wanted to try it while I was young and see how it was.
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    Aug 14, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    james_1099 saidThanks for the good replies! I appreciate it. I figured why not experiment? It seemed to be such a turn on that I figured if I am indeed gay then just go with it. But as I said, after the hookups, they kind of deterred me from thinking I'm gay. So for now I'm just fluid I guess.

    I'm cool with being single and not being with either. I'd be doing a disservice to another guy to get him involved with me. I wouldn't be able to give him what he wanted. But yeah I know a lot of people repress this stuff till they're older and I wanted to try it while I was young and see how it was.


    Gay men like different things!

    I'm not a bottom. Some men love it. Some men like to suck cock, some only like getting sucked. It doesn't make more or less Gay either way.

    If you like a guy sucking your cock....that's pretty damned GAY!
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    Aug 14, 2014 7:31 PM GMT
    Another faceless unverified profile asking dumb questions. Yawn icon_rolleyes.gif



    This is a good site for bisexuals btw

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  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 8:36 PM GMT
    [quote]

    Gay men like different things!

    I'm not a bottom. Some men love it. Some men like to suck cock, some only like getting sucked. It doesn't make more or less Gay either way.

    If you like a guy sucking your cock....that's pretty damned GAY! [/quote]

    Sure thing. Hence why I asked IS IT POSSIBLE TO BE BISEXUAL ... lol.

    Pussy is sexy as hell, too. Sucking on some nice wet lips (down under) is something that has turned me on since I was probably 14. I don't see that going away anytime soon. Being this way kind of sucks cause it's different from one day to the next.icon_mad.gif

    And wtf what gay guy doesn't like sucking dick? That seems weird. Most straight guys love eating a [clean] chick out. If gay guys don't like dick then what's the point of sex at all? To me, I see zero fun in sex with guys if you don't like his parts. But that's just me. If I'm going to sex someone I had better at least like what I'm playing with.
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    Aug 14, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    Have you tried just masturbating with a hot guy and touching his body?

    BTW most porn is staged, filmed, and edited in a way that makes it look much more enjoyable than it really is. If you're expecting real sex to equal the enjoyment of what porn looks like, you'd have better luck getting struck by lightning on the moon.
  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 8:43 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidHave you tried just masturbating with a hot guy and touching his body?

    BTW most porn is staged, filmed, and edited in a way that makes it look much more enjoyable than it really is. If you're expecting real sex to equal the enjoyment of what porn looks like, you'd have better luck getting struck by lightning on the moon.


    Hey Paul how's it going. Yeah! Sure have. The dude I first hooked up with I got him off a few times with my hand. I stopped seeing him cause I found it kind of gross haha but he sure liked it!

    And as for the porn thing, yeah that's what I'm starting to see. I guess that's why they're so good at making $ icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 14, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    james_1099 said
    paulflexes saidHave you tried just masturbating with a hot guy and touching his body?

    BTW most porn is staged, filmed, and edited in a way that makes it look much more enjoyable than it really is. If you're expecting real sex to equal the enjoyment of what porn looks like, you'd have better luck getting struck by lightning on the moon.


    Hey Paul how's it going. Yeah! Sure have. The dude I first hooked up with I got him off a few times with my hand. I stopped seeing him cause I found it kind of gross haha but he sure liked it!
    Going good, thx. icon_biggrin.gif

    I was referring to jacking your own dicks while touching each other's bodies. That's my favorite thing to do, although I've tried other sexual activities. They just don't "do it" for me.
  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 8:49 PM GMT
    Haven't tried that. Would rather just do it alone, you know? I'm so glad I tried all this stuff I've become a lot more open-minded to everybody and my future because of it. icon_lol.gif
  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 8:52 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidjames_1099: You are not alone on RJ feeling this way. This likely means you are bi, 100% top. Nothing wrong with it. And don't let others on here police what makes you happy going through your life.


    Thanks! That's the other problem. Not really attracted to fucking @$$. I mean maybe if I'm super horny, but yeah.

    Maybe a gay guy can answer this for me.... but is there really no attraction to putting your dick in a hot dripping wet pussy? And not an ugly one.... a nice hot shaven clean one!icon_surprised.gif
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    Aug 14, 2014 8:57 PM GMT
    I think that gay people can also feel things and curiosity for Some girles, just like hetero people like Some people of their same sex, but their dont admit it xd
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    Aug 14, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    No, sorry, There can be only one.

    So pick a side and be quick about it. The war begins at 5 sharp.
  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 9:00 PM GMT
    theantijock saidNo, sorry, There can be only one.

    So pick a side and be quick about it. The war begins at 5 sharp.


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    Aug 14, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    james_1099 said
    theantijock saidNo, sorry, There can be only one.

    So pick a side and be quick about it. The war begins at 5 sharp.


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    The only thing that matters in this battle is your coxmanship.

    And your comfort level.

    Be happy with whomever you find yourself to be.
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    Aug 14, 2014 9:02 PM GMT
    theantijock saidNo, sorry, There can be only one.

    So pick a side and be quick about it. The war begins at 5 sharp.
    And be sure to pick gay, because everyone knows breeders are just nasty!
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    Aug 14, 2014 9:03 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    theantijock saidNo, sorry, There can be only one.

    So pick a side and be quick about it. The war begins at 5 sharp.
    And be sure to pick gay, because everyone knows breeders are just nasty!


    Ewww, seriously. If I could get past that smell I'd even consider trying anal sex. Ewww. He said anal. Ewww.
  • james_1099

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    Aug 14, 2014 9:13 PM GMT
    I hooked up with a girl one time who probably didn't wash her snatch in what seemed like weeks. It was the worst thing I've smelled in my life. Thank god that was the only bad one I've encountered.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Aug 14, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
    Disgusting.
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    Aug 15, 2014 12:07 AM GMT
    james_1099 said

    Thanks! That's the other problem. Not really attracted to fucking @$$. I mean maybe if I'm super horny, but yeah.

    Maybe a gay guy can answer this for me.... but is there really no attraction to putting your dick in a hot dripping wet pussy? And not an ugly one.... a nice hot shaven clean one!icon_surprised.gif


    Well, there you go. You don't like @$$ and other guys don't like sucking dicks. There is such a wide range of preferences.

    No pussy for me. Not even a hot dripping wet one. No thanks.

    Well, maybe I'll try it once, but I can't imagine making out with a girl.
  • jaroslav123

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    Aug 15, 2014 1:47 AM GMT
    I despair.

    Why does anyone ask such questions? Is homosexuality a thing by the way? icon_rolleyes.gif

    It happens. It's a fact. Bisexuality is actually a thing.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 15, 2014 2:04 AM GMT
    I like to believe that the entire world is actually bi sexual.

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