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    Aug 14, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    Brand new to the dating scene after a 21 year relationship.
    What was a 2AM booty call from Grindr turned into an ALL day text the following day. Back and forth telling each other about ourselves.
    We made plans and he came over the following Monday for some beers and more booty of course.
    in the next week or so he'll drop conversations while we are texting and then I won't here from him.
    If I text him he is very complimentary and we've made plans to get together again this Monday.
    I see him on Grindr but will usually just pop on for a few then disappear again.
    So I'm sorta confused and not really sure if I should keep initiating these texts or just leave it............LOL.
    As it stands I haven't contacted him for 2 days now.
    It's just sorta mixed signals and I don't want to be one of those guys that I get I messages from everyday that I wish would just go away.
    Any input?
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    Aug 14, 2014 7:36 PM GMT
    Playing hard to get maybe...........LOL?
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 14, 2014 7:50 PM GMT
    S60turbo saidPlaying hard to get maybe...........LOL?

    Maybe but I doubt it. Maybe he's busy. Maybe he's not that interested. Try leaving him alone for another day or two then make a specific proposal. Like dinner. Or if all you want from him is sex, just propose that but be specific. See what happens. You can't blame him for being on Grindr at the same time you are.
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    Aug 14, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    Expecting something serious from a Grindr booty call is like expecting to buy a Ferrari with a one dollar bill.
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    Aug 14, 2014 8:37 PM GMT
    Grindr isn't dating. I would just play it cool, don't expect more than what you've had so far. If it progresses, great. If not, you're none the worse off.
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    Aug 15, 2014 12:44 PM GMT
    I used "dating" for lack of a better term.
    I don't blame him for being on Grindr it's not like we're committed or anything.
    We do have another get together coming up on Monday.
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    Aug 15, 2014 4:23 PM GMT
    I'd just ask him about it honestly. Wait and see for the next few days, enjoy your time on Monday and then afterwards just ask about it. "Hey, I'm enjoying chatting with you on (text, Grindr, whatever), but wanted to make sure you're cool with it too so I don't end up coming off as some creepy cyber stalker guy. Ha!" That type of thing.

    My 2 cents... good luck! ;-)
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    Aug 16, 2014 7:34 AM GMT
    There are a few types that exercise this behavior on grindr and they are to be avoided at all costs, even a cost as expensive as an ad view..
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    Aug 16, 2014 10:00 AM GMT
    First of all, I'm sorry to hear that your long term relationship ended after so long. That has to suck, and I feel for you...

    Knowing nothing about you, or him, allI can say is that for me, texting is not a priority message system.

    Between my job keeping me busy, my running to work out, and countless other things in my life, i am not always able to return a text that's been sent to me at the moment it's been sent.

    If you need the immediate feedback in your communications with him, you should call and talk.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 16, 2014 10:10 AM GMT
    JonSpringon saidFirst of all, I'm sorry to hear that your long term relationship ended after so long. That has to suck, and I feel for you...

    Knowing nothing about you, or him, allI can say is that for me, texting is not a priority message system.

    Between my job keeping me busy, my running to work out, and countless other things in my life, i am not always able to return a text that's been sent to me at the moment it's been sent.

    If you need the immediate feedback in your communications with him, you should call and talk.


    I share this view.

    You also want to see where is this thing naturally inclined to go to. FBs? To start with? Possibly deepen the bond or not later on?

    Whatever you do, avoid being too clingy. Live your life, and have fun. Do not depend on anyone in particular.

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    Aug 18, 2014 2:52 PM GMT
    SilverRRCloud said
    JonSpringon saidFirst of all, I'm sorry to hear that your long term relationship ended after so long. That has to suck, and I feel for you...

    Knowing nothing about you, or him, allI can say is that for me, texting is not a priority message system.

    Between my job keeping me busy, my running to work out, and countless other things in my life, i am not always able to return a text that's been sent to me at the moment it's been sent.

    If you need the immediate feedback in your communications with him, you should call and talk.


    I share this view.

    You also want to see where is this thing naturally inclined to go to. FBs? To start with? Possibly deepen the bond or not later on?

    Whatever you do, avoid being too clingy. Live your life, and have fun. Do not depend on anyone in particular.

    SC


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    Aug 18, 2014 5:10 PM GMT
    S60turbo said
    SilverRRCloud said
    JonSpringon saidFirst of all, I'm sorry to hear that your long term relationship ended after so long. That has to suck, and I feel for you...

    Knowing nothing about you, or him, allI can say is that for me, texting is not a priority message system.

    Between my job keeping me busy, my running to work out, and countless other things in my life, i am not always able to return a text that's been sent to me at the moment it's been sent.

    If you need the immediate feedback in your communications with him, you should call and talk.


    I share this view.

    You also want to see where is this thing naturally inclined to go to. FBs? To start with? Possibly deepen the bond or not later on?

    Whatever you do, avoid being too clingy. Live your life, and have fun. Do not depend on anyone in particular.

    SC


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    Some guys like to keep it NSA, till they get serious. Or not serious ever. Keep it Occasional and loosely defined. Maybe twice a week, one a week, once a month. It's the intensity that matters!