Datin, hook ups and orgys.


  • Aug 14, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    What is it with people nowadays. In what world is “hooking up” better than a relationship? It seems people are more intrested in having a “friend with benefits” than an actual boyfriend. I’ve come up with a theory. People are afraid of commitment. Now, i don’t know about you, but to me a relationship is more than just beig able to call someone “yours”. To me, being in a reationship is like being in a long term friendship. You don’t just jump straight inyo it, no, you hang out a few times first. You know, just the two of you to get to know each other. Then you start going on dates. Again, just the two of you. As my friend said to me once: “the first month of a relationship is like the ‘honeymoon month’, you all Happy and filled with love, but after that first month is where you see if the relationship is going to work or not”

    I want my Partner to not only be someone with the label “boyfriend/girlfriend” Noo i want my partner to be my best friend. Someone i can Laugh with, smile and be happy around, but also someone i can cry with. Someone i can call in the middle of the night, just to say: “i miss you”. The one thing that i DESPISE though, is a one sided relationship. When only one person in the relationship make an effort. I’ve seen this happen so many times. A relationship is a two sided journey in life. Think of it as a bicycle. Both the wheels need to work together in order for it to move forward. (I apologise for the appalling example, but couldn’t think of anything else).

    However, in life there will always be those people out there that just aren’t intrested because, like i said before, they are afraid of commitment. But personally, I am happy with being single for now. Why rush? The perfect person will come eventually... i hope.
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
    chriswright22c said Datin, hook ups and orgys.


    People were hooking up since ancient prehistoric times. Then they invented dating. But I wonder about orgys... When did orgy parties started to be a thing??

  • Aug 15, 2014 9:13 AM GMT
    I dont know either but still... like im mot one of those "no sex before marriage" guy, but atleast take me on a date first... haha and the amount of Orgys ive been invited to /: but i dont do that kind of things... so i always say no
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    Aug 15, 2014 9:27 AM GMT
    chriswright22c saidWhat is it with people nowadays. In what world is “hooking up” better than a relationship?
    In a world where you can't sit down for a nice dinner at a restaurant with your partner without getting uncomfortable stares from other people.

    In a world where the only place you're safe is inside a gay bar, because even the parking lot can be a war zone with hate crimes.

    In a world where two guys doing anything more than hunting and fishing together is considered gay.

    In a world where having no girlfriend or wife makes people think you're gay, and subject to hate crimes.

    In a world where being openly gay can be career suicide.

    In a world where being openly gay is considered worse than suicide.

    In a world where even if society accepts you, your family will never fully accept your partner.

    BTW, those are the conditions I grew up in, and still had relationships (although they were never fully accepted by family). And I've been the victim of some pretty violent hate crimes (and the victor a few times, like when I shot a dude's tires out).

    Be careful what you ask. You just might get the truth. icon_wink.gif

  • Aug 15, 2014 12:31 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    chriswright22c saidWhat is it with people nowadays. In what world is “hooking up” better than a relationship?
    In a world where you can't sit down for a nice dinner at a restaurant with your partner without getting uncomfortable stares from other people.

    In a world where the only place you're safe is inside a gay bar, because even the parking lot can be a war zone with hate crimes.

    In a world where two guys doing anything more than hunting and fishing together is considered gay.

    In a world where having no girlfriend or wife makes people think you're gay, and subject to hate crimes.

    In a world where being openly gay can be career suicide.

    In a world where being openly gay is considered worse than suicide.

    In a world where even if society accepts you, your family will never fully accept your partner.

    BTW, those are the conditions I grew up in, and still had relationships (although they were never fully accepted by family). And I've been the victim of some pretty violent hate crimes (and the victor a few times, like when I shot a dude's tires out).

    Be careful what you ask. You just might get the truth. icon_wink.gif



    I get that and understand it, i mean, i home schooled the last few years in school because i was beaten to the point of broken bones.. but i moved awsy, to a more accepting place, yeah its tough but still... and it foesnt have to be dinner or something public. I mean just get go know me first? Do you understand what i mean?
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 16, 2014 6:53 PM GMT
    Not everyone craves the commitment. And there is really no reason to believe that EVERYONE is either willing or even capable of maintaining any degree of commitment required for a LTR to work.

    There are guys out there who are happy being on their own, free and enjoying themselves on their own terms.

    There are guys out there coping with issues and problems that require all of their strength and attention. They usually make lousy BF material.

    But first and foremost, a number of men out there are perfectly happy to get their rocks off without any dating, befriending, developing emotional bonds, getting to know each other. Believe it or not, anonymous sex works for many men.

    Evidence suggests that the evolutionary cost of sexual intercourse for a male is practically negligible. Hence, the wiring seems to be in place for so many men to enjoy simple recreational sex without much ado.

    If you feel like declining the invitations to orgies; if you do not do the hookups, etc., carry on by all means. This is your life. No one will stop you.

    Remember that you are denying yourself a major evolutionary advantage, though.

    SC