I'm having a quarter-life crisis

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    Aug 14, 2014 10:23 PM GMT
    So I finally recently completed my bachelor's degree and managed to get a 3 month contractor job as a Staffing Technician. The contract is over and I've been unemployed for a month. Since I have so much free time now I have time to think. And I'm just totally unhappy with my life situation.

    At this point in my life I saw myself having a good job, living independently, living on the coast either in Ft. Lauderdale or Miami, in a relationship and getting ready to start a family. I am nowhere near any of those goals and it just frustrates me. I feel stuck with a life I hate and just wish I had that one opportunity come up that would change everything. But feel like every time I try to dig myself out of the hole someone or something or even I dig myself deeper.

    I just needed to vent. icon_neutral.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 14, 2014 10:54 PM GMT
    Could be worse, guy. Another RJer was in basically the same situation a couple of months ago and feeling what you're feeling. Only he was in Buffalo. Good luck, man. You just need to find that great job.
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:04 PM GMT
    Did you see yourself finishing your bachelor's degree ?
    Here you go, you achieved one of the major dreams you had, right. Good job!
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:06 PM GMT
    aaaaand I finished my 3rd year today !!!!
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    Have had this International monetary policy exam this afternoon, did not answer one question, but oh man,thanks god it is all over icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:16 PM GMT
    Welcome to today's job market. And if you're looking for work in FLL or MIA, you better be multi-lingual (not just bilingual) if you want to get hired quickly.
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:33 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidWelcome to today's job market. And if you're looking for work in FLL or MIA, you better be multi-lingual (not just bilingual) if you want to get hired quickly.

    Ugh, I gotta know Creole don't I? I already speak Spanish and a bit of French.
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:36 PM GMT
    At this point take any job. It's always easier to find a better job when you're already working. Good luck!
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:38 PM GMT
    Life veers off the path you've set. In the meantime, hope you can find joy in this season of wait. Take the opportunity to enjoy things you can't do if you were in a serious relationship. Maybe it'll keep your mind off it.

    Then the right time comes, you'll be back on your feet. Hope it's soon. Hang in there.
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    Aug 14, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    I believe in the power of positive thinking..Try this..Make yourself a poster..Affix photos of the things you want to achieve...IE: If you want a loving relationship? Post a photo of your ideal man. If you want a home? Post a photo of a home. Add positive affirmations to that poster. Hang this poster where you'll view it several times a day...Visualize your goals, wants, and desires...Say to yourself, " All these things will be realized". Try it man. Also, You've been posting here for a while and I respect you. If a stranger like myself can see your potential, Why can't you?...All the best.
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    Aug 15, 2014 1:47 AM GMT
    Ravensong said
    paulflexes saidWelcome to today's job market. And if you're looking for work in FLL or MIA, you better be multi-lingual (not just bilingual) if you want to get hired quickly.

    Ugh, I gotta know Creole don't I? I already speak Spanish and a bit of French.
    You should have no problem, then. And yes, learning Creole would increase your eligibility for employment even more.
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:00 AM GMT
    Ravensong saidSo I finally recently completed my bachelor's degree and managed to get a 3 month contractor job as a Staffing Technician. The contract is over and I've been unemployed for a month. Since I have so much free time now I have time to think. And I'm just totally unhappy with my life situation.

    At this point in my life I saw myself having a good job, living independently, living on the coast either in Ft. Lauderdale or Miami, in a relationship and getting ready to start a family. I am nowhere near any of those goals and it just frustrates me. I feel stuck with a life I hate and just wish I had that one opportunity come up that would change everything. But feel like every time I try to dig myself out of the hole someone or something or even I dig myself deeper.

    I just needed to vent. icon_neutral.gif


    You still have so many years ahead of you. Keep your goals in mind and work toward them.

    You can analyze your goals. Yeah yeah, I know it sounds nerdy, but seriously, analyze. Ask yourself questions. Do research. Make a plan.

    Take your career. What is your dream job? I mean a realistic one. What skills does it require? What skills do you have? What do you need to learn to meet the requirements? Where and how can you learn these skills? Reach out to people who know the industry/job. Ask for suggestions. After you know enough about your dream job, make a plan and stick to it. You will get there some day.

    Don't beat yourself up. And be patient.
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:14 AM GMT
    Ravensong said
    paulflexes saidWelcome to today's job market. And if you're looking for work in FLL or MIA, you better be multi-lingual (not just bilingual) if you want to get hired quickly.

    Ugh, I gotta know Creole don't I? I already speak Spanish and a bit of French.

    Actually not Creole, but Canadian French. German can be good here, too. And they say in the years ahead Chinese will be in very strong demand. In fact, it's growing now.

    But depends on the industry. Here in South Florida, or your Orlando, it's very much hospitality & travel because of tourism. So you look at what that demographic is, and will become, if you remain in this State.

    But you don't tell us your degree area, and what your own interests are. What do you actually WANT to do? Do you have goals?
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:23 AM GMT
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    Ravensong said
    paulflexes saidWelcome to today's job market. And if you're looking for work in FLL or MIA, you better be multi-lingual (not just bilingual) if you want to get hired quickly.

    Ugh, I gotta know Creole don't I? I already speak Spanish and a bit of French.

    Actually not Creole, but Canadian French. German can be good here, too. And they say in the years ahead Chinese will be in very strong demand. In fact, it's growing now.

    But depends on the industry. Here in South Florida, or your Orlando, it's very much hospitality & travel because of tourism. So you look at what that demographic is, and will become, if you remain in this State.

    But you don't tell us your degree area, and what your own interests are. What do you actually WANT to do? Do you have goals?

    My degree is in HR Management. I want to own my own business. I had an idea for a hydroponics farm in a How to Start a Business class. I know this sounds silly but I want to live like those people on the Polo ads. I want to live on the beach, in a house on the canals with a pier and have a sail boat. I wanna go sailing on weekends or hit the beach and surf or SUP. I pretty much like anything that has to do with the ocean.
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:41 AM GMT
    Welcome back! icon_wink.gif

    Anyways, been there and done that. Had lots of ups and downs in my career. I'm still not where I want to be, even though others might think I'm doing quite well.

    I just have to say, take the risk and pursue your true passion. The longer you wait and the older you get, the windows of opportunity come around less and less.
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:43 AM GMT
    You're complaining about being unemployed for a month? I've been unemployed for half a year.
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:49 AM GMT
    kevex saidYou're complaining about being unemployed for a month? I've been unemployed for half a year.

    Longest was 1.5 years for me. icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:52 AM GMT
    kevex saidYou're complaining about being unemployed for a month? I've been unemployed for half a year.

    I was unemployed for a long time before my second to last job. Sometimes by choice cause my mom told me to focus on school. Other times because I filled out applications and never heard anything back. I'm afraid I'm back at that point.
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    Aug 15, 2014 2:56 AM GMT
    Well, I did had a job about a month ago but it was temporary. It was a summer job in a shoe store. I've also done a few freelance work since I'm a graphic designer but it still doesn't help much. icon_confused.gif I wanna move to Oregon lol I've heard there's tons of jobs there. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 15, 2014 3:29 AM GMT
    Keep your head up! Remember that when you're filling out applications, make sure you tweak your resume so that certain keywords and phrases are present. Most HR systems use a search engine when searching for eligible candidates. So, when it says "Must be knowledgeable in ABC software", your resume must say "knowledgeable in ABC software". Not "A.B.C software".

    Also, don't be afraid to follow up. Call them, send them a letter and let them know your still interested and why you'd be the best candidate. And last but not least, take your FB, IG, Twitter and RJ profiles down. Create a good one on LinkedIn, and put all the others in timeout. I love me a good social media detox for several reasons. 1st, it's completely false, all your friends who are "living the good life", even though they really aren't, can be depressing to look at, and 2nd, employers are looking. What you might think is harmless, they are judging your character.

    Make a list of 20 reasons why you're better than the next person and start practice interviewing. Keep a list of what you're applying for, when and how you follow up, and get prepared to be rejected like a gay guy in a club full of other gay guys who think they're too good for you. It's okay, it' happens and all it takes is one "yes". Lastly, (And I promise this is last) searching for jobs, is a job. So if you spend 8-10 hours a day, tweaking resumes, cover letters and applying for positions, don't feel like your wasting time. You are simply on your hustle, and nothing is wrong with that. I had a friend who applied to 200 jobs before she was called for an interview, and only after she called to follow up, did she get it. Had she not be on her grind, she probably would have never gotten the job.

    In regards to planning a family and all that...it will come. We all go through a mid-twenties life crisis and the only way to get out of it is to be your own change. Keep swimming my friend and the tide will change Promise.icon_biggrin.gif