Newly Out how many coffee dates until we unzip?

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    Aug 15, 2014 5:25 PM GMT
    Need advice on meeting for coffee and does hot sex ever happen afterwards? I'm new to all this. To me coffee means I'm interested lets see where it goes?
    I asked a few guys out on coffee dates because I want to know something about their habits before we go to bed but it seems to be a waste of time. It turns out that we become acquaintances and no sex happens. Any advice on how many coffee dates does it take to get laid? or how to get to know someone and their habits and still have sex? or is it all a waste of time and I am better off just go for what attracts me without chatting and talk later? Is that the way it's done? Thanks
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:29 PM GMT
    People actually have coffee first?
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:30 PM GMT
    Somebody post the song Black coffee in bed, by Squeeze...
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:39 PM GMT
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    mybud saidSomebody post the song Black coffee in bed, by Squeeze...
    How does this help?
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    At least 24 coffee dates are needed, sometimes 32. It seems to be a multiple of 8 for some reason so you may need 40.
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:47 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidAt least 24 coffee dates are needed, sometimes 32. It seems to be a multiple of 8 for some reason so you may need 40.

    Lol seriously was asking if having coffee is a waste of time?
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    N2Now said
    mybud saidSomebody post the song Black coffee in bed, by Squeeze...
    How does this help?
    babe...sure don't hurt...
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    N2Now said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidAt least 24 coffee dates are needed, sometimes 32. It seems to be a multiple of 8 for some reason so you may need 40.

    Lol seriously was asking if having coffee is a waste of time?
    Of course the coffee is a waste of time. What if the sex is horrible and you just want a few drinks and a good night's sleep? You're just shit outta luck cause now the coffee will keep you awake.
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
    It completely depends on what you're looking for.
    If "unzipping" is all you're thinking about then you don't need to have coffee first, just look for a guy who is DTF.

    If you're looking for a relationship then yeah, dating is necessary, but having sex with that person shouldn't be a date you mark on your calendar.
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    I have to admit that I have been on a few "coffee" or "beer" dates, the sole purpose of which was to meet in public and determine whether the other guy even remotely resembled his on-line persona.
    A couple of times the coffee just got left on the table and we went up to his room. icon_wink.gif It has been a while though, so things may be different now.
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    Aug 15, 2014 5:55 PM GMT
    One cup can be too much and a thousand not enough...

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    Aug 15, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    ACRO_Slim saidIt completely depends on what you're looking for.
    If "unzipping" is all you're thinking about then you don't need to have coffee first, just look for a guy who is DTF.

    If you're looking for a relationship then yeah, dating is necessary, but having sex with that person shouldn't be a date you mark on your calendar.


    I don't have a deadline but when someone askes me out for coffee to me it means I'm interested. The same thing if someone gives you his number? Is this not true?
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:00 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidI have to admit that I have been on a few "coffee" or "beer" dates, the sole purpose of which was to meet in public and determine whether the other guy even remotely resembled his on-line persona.
    A couple of times the coffee just got left on the table and we went up to his room. icon_wink.gif It has been a while though, so things may be different now.
    This is kinda what I thought if you chatted awhile and you both like each other you go and both get off and if not it's not happening. thanks for your opinion
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:04 PM GMT
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    ACRO_Slim saidIt completely depends on what you're looking for.
    If "unzipping" is all you're thinking about then you don't need to have coffee first, just look for a guy who is DTF.

    If you're looking for a relationship then yeah, dating is necessary, but having sex with that person shouldn't be a date you mark on your calendar.


    I don't have a deadline but when someone askes me out for coffee to me it means I'm interested. The same thing if someone gives you his number? Is this not true?


    Yes, but still, there isn't a magic number for how many dates you need to get laid.
    If you want to get laid, there's plenty of guys looking to hookup on apps.
    If you're really interested in a guy, just date him. Sex will happen when it happens.
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    pazzy saidyou never heard of grindr, breh? coffee dates? folks been off that.
    well like I said i'm new to all this? So if they invite you for coffee that is all it is coffee?
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:06 PM GMT
    By coffee date do you mean does he make you breakfast the next morning?
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:09 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidBy coffee date do you mean does he make you breakfast the next morning?
    Is that what you do?icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:11 PM GMT
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    ACRO_Slim saidIt completely depends on what you're looking for.
    If "unzipping" is all you're thinking about then you don't need to have coffee first, just look for a guy who is DTF.

    If you're looking for a relationship then yeah, dating is necessary, but having sex with that person shouldn't be a date you mark on your calendar.


    I don't have a deadline but when someone askes me out for coffee to me it means I'm interested. The same thing if someone gives you his number? Is this not true?


    Yes, but still, there isn't a magic number for how many dates you need to get laid.
    If you want to get laid, there's plenty of guys looking to hookup on apps.
    If you're really interested in a guy, just date him. Sex will happen when it happens.
    And if they are inviting you to coffee it doesn't mean sexual interest it means getting to know each other and not to assume it could be for sex?
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:13 PM GMT
    N2Now said
    and if they are inviting you to coffee it doesn't mean sexual interest it means getting to know each and not to plan on sex?


    Yeah, they want to get to know you or make sure you look like you do in your pics.
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    ACRO_Slim said
    N2Now said
    and if they are inviting you to coffee it doesn't mean sexual interest it means getting to know each and not to plan on sex?


    Yeah, they want to get to know you or make sure you look like you do in your pics.
    Is there a way to do both? To get to know someone a little before you hookup or is it one or the other?
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:24 PM GMT
    bon_pan saidOne cup can be too much and a thousand not enough...

    that's depressing lol
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:26 PM GMT
    N2Now said
    Is there a way to do both? To get to know someone a little before you hookup or is it one or the other?


    Yeah, get coffee then go back to his place...
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:45 PM GMT
    N2Now said
    bon_pan saidOne cup can be too much and a thousand not enough...

    that's depressing lol


    Nooooo...not depressing unless you choose for it to be...is all a part of being human. And we are all left with this wonderful woman's artistry.
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    Aug 15, 2014 6:51 PM GMT
    N2Now saidNeed advice on meeting for coffee and does hot sex ever happen afterwards? I'm new to all this.

    No problem - in time you'll learn how to have sex DURING coffee. icon_eek.gif

    Seriously, no right or wrong answer. It depends on the other guy, and the chemistry you have with each other. Immediately having sex happens, and it doesn't happen. I'd only become concerned if I NEVER had sex after dating for a while.