Is marriage necessary or even a relationship?

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    Aug 16, 2014 9:10 AM GMT
    I am 29 now and my parents have started asking for marriage. In India it is mandatory to get married. Parents feel it is their responsibility to get their kids married.

    What some of my friends tell me is, I will need someone in life when I get old. Someone to take care when I fall sick. Etc..

    But I have been staying alone for over 5 years now. During weekends I am all alone at home. Except for a call from my mom in the evening, I never even talk to anyone the whole day.

    I am used to being alone.

    Only time when I feel like having someone with me is when I go shopping, movie or eat out once in a while.

    Now here what I want to know is... Does one feel like having someone when one gets old? I have never been to any relationship too. How does one feel to be single even when getting old..

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  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 16, 2014 6:34 PM GMT
    Traditional societies tend to perpetuate the old notion that you need someone in your old age. So, being single is really not an option.

    First off, you are only 29. Unless you develop a serious condition, you have 30-35 years of life ahead of you that would require absolutely no assistance.

    Second off, even very traditional societies are becoming more open towards the challenges of modernity. It would be almost insane to speculate about the mores of the society you live in 20-35 years. Besides, who says that you would be there at that time? Who knows?

    Third off, judging by what the advanced societies of the west have experienced in their march to modernity, the notion that someone will be there for you to provide you with support of any kind in your advanced age regardless of their own interest, is fading away. You want to create wealth to the best of your abilities, so that those who may be around to help you in your moments of need can be rewarded for their efforts.

    I guess, you want to embrace the notion of self-reliance as much as you possibly can.

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    Aug 17, 2014 2:38 AM GMT
    Nope. At the end of the day, you'll die alone anyway. And once you're dead, you wont care because you're dead.
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    Aug 17, 2014 3:40 AM GMT
    RajivSingh said... I am used to being alone ...
    is that because we are gay?
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    Aug 17, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidTraditional societies tend to perpetuate the old notion that you need someone in your old age. So, being single is really not an option.

    First off, you are only 29. Unless you develop a serious condition, you have 30-35 years of life ahead of you that would require absolutely no assistance.

    Second off, even very traditional societies are becoming more open towards the challenges of modernity. It would be almost insane to speculate about the mores of the society you live in 20-35 years. Besides, who says that you would be there at that time? Who knows?

    Third off, judging by what the advanced societies of the west have experienced in their march to modernity, the notion that someone will be there for you to provide you with support of any kind in your advanced age regardless of their own interest, is fading away. You want to create wealth to the best of your abilities, so that those who may be around to help you in your moments of need can be rewarded for their efforts.

    I guess, you want to embrace the notion of self-reliance as much as you possibly can.

    SC


    Thank You SC icon_smile.gif That is a different perspective. I never thought about the society I would be in after 30 years. Now I get some real direction.
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    Aug 17, 2014 3:49 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    RajivSingh said... I am used to being alone ...
    is that because we are gay?


    Haha... I never met a straight guy loving loneliness as much as I do. ;)
  • Danskerb

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    Aug 17, 2014 5:42 PM GMT
    I don't believe marriage is necessary.

    I've been with my partner for 5 years though, so maybe I am practically married at this point. But the actual act of being married doesn't interest me. It's just a show... in my opinion at least.

    Now I do believe in having people in your life. Being with my partner, coming home to someone, sharing dinners together is an amazing thing that can't be taken for granted.
    But we all have different families, and maybe you can have that connection with someone who isn't a partner (family, friends).

    I also like to have time to my self. I like cooking alone, and I like having only my mess to have. But I'm thankful that I know someone will always have my back as well.