When you're sick

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    Aug 17, 2014 12:27 AM GMT
    How do you handle it? Are you the type who wants to be coddled and nursed back to health or do you lock yourself away until you feel better? Do people have to convince you to see a doctor or do you go immediately? Do you have a favorite food that's a "treat" when you're under the weather?

    On the flipside, if someone you care about is sick, how do you handle it? Are you the gentle nurse in white or are you the germaphobe who takes him to the doctor but insists that all the windows be rolled down in the car?



    For myself, I like to be taken care of when i'm sick. I do everything myself the rest of the time so if I'm laid up in bed I want someone to help take that load off (I can be a very grumpy guy when i'm suddenly unable to do anything for myself). I can be a bit stubborn about doctors, even though I've got health insurance. Usually I end up going a day or two before I start getting better anyway. My favorite food to eat when I'm sick is this Chicken Udon Noodle soup from a place called Little Tokyo but it doesn't cost enough for them to deliver so i have to con people into getting it for me if I can't go myself.

    When others are sick around me it kind of depends on what they've got but I took care of a friend with Noro once so there, heh. I tend to be really nurturing and empathetic/sympathetic if someone I really care about is sick and there isn't much I can do.
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    Aug 17, 2014 12:46 AM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 said
    Are you the type who wants to be coddled and nursed back to health or do you lock yourself away until you feel better?

    On the flipside, if someone you care about is sick, how do you handle it?

    Neither for myself. First I try to take care of myself, but not locked away. If that fails I see a doctor. But admittedly with reluctance.

    For my husband I take charge. He's slow to recognize & respond to health issues, reluctant to do anything. On 2 occasions I saved his life, when he refused to accept he had a life-threatening problem. I just overrode him.

    A third time he had a stroke. That was too obvious for even him to ignore, totally disabling him, nothing he could do but let me handle it.

    Never let your guy have his way, when you really believe he's having a medical problem. Men are like that, I'm like that myself. Your job is to veto him, and make him get medical help, or bring medical help to him. Whether he wants it or not.
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    Aug 17, 2014 1:29 AM GMT
    I tend to look after myself and just continue as normal. When I'm at home I literally lock myself away but otherwise I continue as normal and go to work etc.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Aug 17, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    Ill*
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    Aug 17, 2014 2:28 AM GMT
    When I'm sick, I want to be taken care of and pampered (preferably by my bf LOL :lolicon_smile.gif. But I'm single, so I'll have to take care of myself. icon_sad.gif

    If I have a bf, I'll take very good care of him, of course. icon_wink.gif
  • Webster666

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    Aug 17, 2014 3:38 AM GMT
    Leave me alone.
    I will get well, sooner or later.

    I don't like being around sick people, but I'll take them to the doctor and get whatever they need.
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    Aug 17, 2014 7:17 AM GMT


    Reminded me of Jonathan from "Diary of a Mad Housewife."

    Dear god don't let me be as impossibly insufferable...
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    Aug 17, 2014 12:59 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidLeave me alone.
    I will get well, sooner or later.

    This.
    I don't want to be fussed over.
    Instinct tells me to curl up in a ball and wait for it to end.

    If someone is hovering over you trying to get you to eat this and drink that, it just reinforces your total disinterest in eating or drinking and reminds you that you feel terrible.
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    Aug 17, 2014 1:17 PM GMT
    When I'm sick with a cold, flu or a sinus infection I try to ignore it as much as I can and continue my normal schedule, just a little slower. I'm happy to counter that shit with OTC meds and before going to see a doctor, I wait a few days to see how things go. Husband knows I don't need anything but some affectionate gestures.

    When he's sick my mothering instincts come out in full force and I have to restrain myself. He's rather miserable than take meds or go see a doc, so sometimes I have to convince him to take pain meds/fever reducers.

    Were both lucky that we haven't been really sick in a long time.
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    Aug 17, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    Well I dont remember when I fell sick last time. I have always taken care of myself when I fell sick. I hate to be inside a room when sick. I need fresh air. So I try to continue my routine along with medication.

    I think I would take care of someone when they fall sick. Being away from family for long and none of my family members were hospitalized for any illness. icon_smile.gif Healthy family icon_smile.gif

    But I hate to be at hospitals. The silence there kills me.

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    Aug 17, 2014 4:20 PM GMT
    I always have been independant , so i don't really fancy to have someone around while i am sick ..
    But i do love to care for someone sick , cooking , helping with chores , caring for their pets ..etc ..
  • toastvenom

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    Aug 17, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    just leave me the fuck alone and close the door behind u so I can ride out the bug in quiet solitude
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    Aug 17, 2014 5:48 PM GMT
    *sigh* My dog has an inner ear infection, so she is too dizzy to walk or eat. I got her morning meds into her, and as soon as they took effect, she sneaked off into the woods somewhere to hide. I guess we know her answer.

    I have an hour to find her before the next meds are due icon_neutral.gif
  • Nakedman1969

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    Aug 17, 2014 7:00 PM GMT
    When I get sick and I know it I go to the doctor I don't wait around. I hate being sick, I want to get better fast.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 17, 2014 11:23 PM GMT
    The last time I was sick, it was an attack of vertigo. My next door neighbor drove me to UNM Urgent Care. After waiting TWO HOURS the vertigo went away and I walked home, about two miles. If I have another attack of vertigo, I'll just lie in bed for a few hours and see whether it goes away.

    The one time I had kidney stones and the two times I had broken bones, I obviously needed assistance.

    Here in Albuquerque, it can take weeks to get an appointment to see one's primary care physician. Waits at emergency often exceed SIX HOURS because people are directed to go to emergency if they cannot get an appointment to see their physicians. Therefore, unless something seems almost life threatening, I'll probably just hope for spontaneous recovery.
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    Aug 17, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    Toastvenom saidjust leave me the fuck alone and close the door behind u so I can ride out the bug in quiet solitude


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    I'm the same way
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    Aug 17, 2014 11:38 PM GMT
    I AM SICK RIGHT NOW I WOKE UP SICK THIS MORNING AND LET me tell you something, ok?


    I like to be coddled. icon_redface.gif
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    Aug 18, 2014 12:10 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidI AM SICK RIGHT NOW I WOKE UP SICK THIS MORNING AND LET me tell you something, ok?


    I like to be coddled. icon_redface.gif

    Nothing to be embarrassed about. I do too. I never ask for any help, ..... till I'm sick. Then it's time for a little chicken soup and Kleenex lovin'. I just got over a summer cold and those are a real bitch.
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    Aug 18, 2014 12:31 AM GMT
    Let's just say I never made a habit of posting my chemo infusions on Facebook.
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    Aug 18, 2014 2:52 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidI AM SICK RIGHT NOW I WOKE UP SICK THIS MORNING AND LET me tell you something, ok?

    I like to be coddled. icon_redface.gif


    But then you'll make the other person sick too. icon_confused.gif
  • Beeftastic

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    Aug 18, 2014 4:42 AM GMT
    My bad habit, I call my mom and complain. And I don't do it for coddling. My mom is one of the least nurturing people you will meet. But she will make me laugh and insult me in a way that makes me feel better ;)
  • lvzhi

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    Aug 18, 2014 5:25 AM GMT
    I don't get sick often. When i catch a cold, i usually go to the countryside to dig some herbs and make tea. I refuse to take any western pills.
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    Aug 18, 2014 5:28 AM GMT
    Beeftastic saidMy bad habit, I call my mom and complain. And I don't do it for coddling. My mom is one of the least nurturing people you will meet. But she will make me laugh and insult me in a way that makes me feel better ;)


    at least yours makes you laugh. When I'm sick I avoid my mother like the plague since that's when she thinks its appropriate to criticize all of my most recently "bad life choices". The woman once pulled this crap on me while i was in the hospital for appendicitis!
  • basnik

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    Aug 18, 2014 9:47 PM GMT
    great thread. thanks for sharing and allowing us to self-chec with others..i do not handle mine too well...
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 18, 2014 10:00 PM GMT
    I pretty much like to be left alone. I won't die. But I'm good with taking care of someone else when they are sick unless they get demanding or bitchy. Or whine. I seldom get sick so I'll wait 3-4 days before seeing a doctor and only then if it is something I think he can really do anything about. I keep a small section of the pantry reserved for "sick food." Cans of soup and crackers and such. Stuff that I normally wouldn't eat but make me feel good. But for the most part, I just keep going. Dog still need to be taken out. Groceries still need to be bought.