What Do Share With Your Friends?

  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 17, 2014 8:02 PM GMT
    This may be a fad or something... But I have noticed that some of my str8 friends grab a drink out of my glass, offer me a smoke from their cigs. A dude recently asked me if I could lend him a pair of boardshorts that he liked very much?

    Are you all relaxed, and go with the flow, or do you have strict lines that you do not cross?

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  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Aug 17, 2014 11:24 PM GMT
    Food, drinks, and sometimes clothes if needed.
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    Aug 17, 2014 11:43 PM GMT
    My close friends are like family. I share everything with them...food, drinks, clothes, bicycles, bed, etc. Yes I said bed...contrary to popular belief, friends can sleep next to each other without sexing, even if the dude's hot.
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    Aug 18, 2014 2:18 PM GMT
    Chairs, drinks, sandwiches, clothes.... Amusingly straight guys seem more inclined to share drinks with me, even if they know. I had one guy grab my fork and start eating with it, and we don't even know each other that well.

    I am a huggy, physical person with guys I know well. We do a lot of bonfires at parties and stuff and I have no issue snuggling up to whoever if it gets chilly. I have also accumulated hoodies from a number of my straight guy friends, which is sort of like a running joke. We have one that has made the rounds between four guys already (my BF stole it from me most recently). One guy (married with kids) told me privately he likes seeing me in his clothes... wonder what's going on there.
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    Aug 18, 2014 4:13 PM GMT
    With my close friends.. Yes I share even cloths. icon_smile.gifNothing wrong in it!!
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    Aug 18, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    okay with sharing everythin except bf, car, toothbrush, and bank account.
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    Aug 18, 2014 4:24 PM GMT
    Okajuurou saidokay with sharing everythin except bf, car, toothbrush, and bank account.


    LOL Those are good ones to remember.
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    Aug 18, 2014 4:37 PM GMT
    In my group--and we've known each other since grade school, some since the playground before that--there's only one guy who's plate you can't pick off from because he's such a germaphobe. I goof on him though, especially for fries that just came out of the kitchen if I didn't get any with my order. Or I might take a sip of his beer and then watch him drink carefully just from the other side of the mug. But even he'd give you the shirt off his back. He's just got that one issue. It can be very entertaining.

    My other friends are not an issue at all. I recently had a bunch of them staying here. My home is theirs. The extent of my hospitality is pointing to the fridge. Help yourself and don't expect me to cook. I've had friends stay with me for months at a time. One time my partner and I moved in with some friends, uninvited of course, and we stayed for about two or three months. It wasn't as if we didn't have our own home about 20 minutes away. But we just went there to pick up the 100 lb dog to move him in with our friends too so he could play with their dog.

    At this age though it's gotten a bit more curious because there are wives involved and we sometimes drive them a little crazy and sometimes we have to add a hotel to a visit because wives only give us spare bedrooms. Without the wives we'd be camped out the living rooms.

    Some people never grow up. Are you going to eat that?
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    Aug 18, 2014 4:44 PM GMT
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    My other friends are not an issue at all. I recently had a bunch of them staying here. My home is theirs. The extent of my hospitality is pointing to the fridge. Help yourself and don't expect me to cook. I've had friends stay with me for months at a time. One time my partner and I moved in with some friends, uninvited of course, and we stayed for about two or three months. It wasn't as if we didn't have our own home about 20 minutes away. But we just went there to pick up the 100 lb dog to move him in with our friends too so he could play with their dog.

    At this age though it's gotten a bit more curious because there are wives involved and we sometimes drive them a little crazy and sometimes we have to add a hotel to a visit because wives only give us spare bedrooms. Without the wives we'd be camped out the living rooms.

    Some people never grow up. Are you going to eat that?


    OMG... what precipitated the spontaneous move-in? You all just couldn't get enough of each other?

    I have often thought it would be fun to buy up a whole multi-unit building (a smallish one) and semi-cohabitate a la Melrose Place, maybe(?) without all the switcheroos and intrigue. My latest thought is to get a handful of guys, preferably some who are hadny, buy a small run-down motor court style motel down the shore and convert it into a handful of summer apartments for us and our friends.
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    Aug 18, 2014 5:38 PM GMT
    ShiftyJK08 said
    OMG... what precipitated the spontaneous move-in? You all just couldn't get enough of each other?

    I have often thought it would be fun to buy up a whole multi-unit building (a smallish one) and semi-cohabitate a la Melrose Place, maybe(?) without all the switcheroos and intrigue. My latest thought is to get a handful of guys, preferably some who are hadny, buy a small run-down motor court style motel down the shore and convert it into a handful of summer apartments for us and our friends.


    Yeah, I've caught a number of your posts and it sounds like we've some similar approaches to life.

    That stay probably started off with crashing there after a summer party and just never leaving. Before you know it's winter and time to head down to Florida where your parents had the boat fueled and ready to leave them on the dock. We were nutz. Too crazy. My bud wound up dead. So we probably could have shown a bit more restraint.

    He was more crazy than me but that's just how we lived. And he lived on the absolute edge. A seriously fun guy; I'll never stop missing him.

    From when I was very young, my parents sent me to sleep away summer camp so I'm comfortable with communal living and not just relate to your notion of living with friends but my friends and I have discussed ageing together, especially those of us without kids. I have a property where we could do that and it's a nice dream but for practical purposes it would probably never happen as we all age differently with regard to needs and timing.

    But until we're all dead there's still fun to be had. My friends have already put in for vacation timed to descend on my place again next year and more have found out about our gathering thru facebook so are also thinking about joining if they can get away.

    I was brought up with a saying for when unexpected company drops in during dinner. FHB. Family Hold Back. There's always plenty at our table for a friend.
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    Aug 18, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
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    In the early nineties back when I was reading way too much Armistead Maupin I wanted to buy a brownstone in Chelsea back when you could own a floor for $60K. But I was young and didn't have enough friends with money. icon_sad.gif It might've been live living a perpetual "Three's Company" where the neighbors would drop in to borrow a cup of condoms. Though with my luck I'd have been Mrs. Roper.
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    Aug 18, 2014 5:55 PM GMT
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    ShiftyJK08 said
    OMG... what precipitated the spontaneous move-in? You all just couldn't get enough of each other?

    I have often thought it would be fun to buy up a whole multi-unit building (a smallish one) and semi-cohabitate a la Melrose Place, maybe(?) without all the switcheroos and intrigue. My latest thought is to get a handful of guys, preferably some who are hadny, buy a small run-down motor court style motel down the shore and convert it into a handful of summer apartments for us and our friends.


    Yeah, I've caught a number of your posts and it sounds like we've some similar approaches to life.

    That stay probably started off with crashing there after a summer party and just never leaving. Before you know it's winter and time to head down to Florida where your parents had the boat fueled and ready to leave them on the dock. We were nutz. Too crazy. My bud wound up dead. So we probably could have shown a bit more restraint.

    He was more crazy than me but that's just how we lived. And he lived on the absolute edge. A seriously fun guy; I'll never stop missing him.

    From when I was very young, my parents sent me to sleep away summer camp so I'm comfortable with communal living and not just relate to your notion of living with friends but my friends and I have discussed ageing together, especially those of us without kids. I have a property where we could do that and it's a nice dream but for practical purposes it would probably never happen as we all age differently with regard to needs and timing.

    But until we're all dead there's still fun to be had. My friends have already put in for vacation timed to descend on my place again next year and more have found out about our gathering thru facebook so are also thinking about joining if they can get away.

    I was brought up with a saying for when unexpected company drops in during dinner. FHB. Family Hold Back. There's always plenty at our table for a friend.


    I go back and forth... I love to be social and don't have a lot of boundaries, and feel like there is never enough time with friends, but I also do love quiet sometimes, especially when I need to concentrate. Thus I like the Melrose Place idea because there would be common space (preferably with a pool, common kitchen & bar) but you would also have your own quarters for when you need it.

    My BF is nowhere near as social as I am, and as such right now we almost never have anybody over, but he is slowly starting to appreciate it, largely because he's making his own friends who have been hosting us quite a bit. Hopefully we will keep moving in that direction.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 18, 2014 5:55 PM GMT
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    Aug 18, 2014 7:06 PM GMT
    You know he's your bro for life if he snags your Aquafina bottle before you can finish it, gripping at your chest hair and pushing you away from him as the cool water snakes its way through two days chin scuff, soaking the muscle-t you've been hoping to steel when he gives in and lets you do his laundry.

    -not a fad
    In fact I think it happens less and less in this day and age--people more conscious of how illness can be spread.
    I know some freak out when I tell them me and mine share a toothbrush.
    I've always drawn the line at sharing underwear.
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    Aug 18, 2014 7:13 PM GMT
    eagermuscle said^
    In the early nineties back when I was reading way too much Armistead Maupin I wanted to buy a brownstone in Chelsea back when you could own a floor for $60K. But I was young and didn't have enough friends with money. icon_sad.gif It might've been live living a perpetual "Three's Company" where the neighbors would drop in to borrow a cup of condoms. Though with my luck I'd have been Mrs. Roper.


    With yer sense of savoir faire? Mrs. Madrigal fer sure. And those dogs...


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    Aug 18, 2014 7:38 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidYou know he's your bro for life if he snags your Aquafina bottle before you can finish it, gripping at your chest hair and pushing you away from him as the cool water snakes its way through two days chin scuff, soaking the muscle-t you've been hoping to steel when he gives in and lets you do his laundry.


    ROWR that's what I'm talkin about. icon_surprised.gif

    fuck doing his laundry though, I just tell him I'm taking it. My buddy lent me his hoodie and saw me in it six months later. "I'm not getting that back, am I?" "Nope" He probably has one of mine too, somewhere.
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    Aug 18, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidMy close friends are like family. I share everything with them...food, drinks, clothes, bicycles, bed, etc. Yes I said bed...contrary to popular belief, friends can sleep next to each other without sexing, even if the dude's hot.
    Hey, but you said my friend might be bisexual since he invites me for sleepovers icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 19, 2014 3:57 AM GMT
    Nothing new for me with that fad ..
    My straight mates and i have shared drinks ,foods , forks , spoons ,
    We also have shared bed when necessary ...
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    Aug 19, 2014 5:10 AM GMT
    If we are on a tongue swabbing basis or have rimmed each other I might consider eating and drinking after you; however, under no circumstances are you borrowing my clothes!
  • Apparition

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    Aug 19, 2014 5:28 AM GMT
    I'm more of a Polonius kinda guy.
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    Aug 19, 2014 5:34 AM GMT
    A joint or alcoholic beverage.
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    Aug 19, 2014 3:56 PM GMT
    ShiftyJK08 saidI go back and forth... I love to be social and don't have a lot of boundaries, and feel like there is never enough time with friends, but I also do love quiet sometimes, especially when I need to concentrate. Thus I like the Melrose Place idea because there would be common space (preferably with a pool, common kitchen & bar) but you would also have your own quarters for when you need it.

    My BF is nowhere near as social as I am, and as such right now we almost never have anybody over, but he is slowly starting to appreciate it, largely because he's making his own friends who have been hosting us quite a bit. Hopefully we will keep moving in that direction.


    When I was a latchkey kid throwing parties, and sometimes it seemed like half the town in the house, I'd leave mid party for some down time to recharge. I enjoy socializing, love my friends, but definitely also need my time alone.

    On communal living, another option we've considered is overseas where we could build a cluster of houses with central facilities and bring in local help at very reasonable cost. We'd have each other to make sure we're not abused in our older ages and then leave a bottle of cyanide for the sole survivor. Problem solved.

    ShiftyJK08 said... My buddy lent me his hoodie and saw me in it six months later. "I'm not getting that back, am I?" "Nope"...


    There really is something about wearing the clothing of someone you enjoy. I've still got a few pieces of clothing from my first bud that I still wear and he's been dead for decades. Ratty as some of the shirts might by now be, I still love wearing them.
  • metta

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    Aug 19, 2014 4:54 PM GMT
    It is a rare thing for me. Most of my friends eat meat...I don't. However, I do often share dessert with friends....I guess that can count.

    The clothes thing...I think we are all different sizes and I don't know anyone that would want to wear my clothes. I don't smoke or drink alcohol. The only thing that people ask to borrow are my keys to the community lodge/pool/bathroom and occasionally stay in the extra bedroom.
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    Aug 19, 2014 4:59 PM GMT
    clothes and food lol
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    Aug 19, 2014 5:16 PM GMT
    theantijock said

    There really is something about wearing the clothing of someone you enjoy. I've still got a few pieces of clothing from my first bud that I still wear and he's been dead for decades. Ratty as some of the shirts might by now be, I still love wearing them.




    Perfectly understandable. I got left with my college guy's itchy Pendleton shirt that smelled so wonderfully of him and, as the years went by, the scent eventually went away as did he but the shirt will always remain with me.