I've hooked up with a lot of people this year

  • Eli_jah

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    Aug 17, 2014 8:11 PM GMT
    I mean, around five one-night stands, two guys that I haven't slept with but have been hanging out with, and one (semi) regular fuck buddy, who I don't really like, but he's been trying to move me towards boyfriend territory.

    It's also been a really stressful year and I feel I've been using sex as a way to connect. I feel like I'm spreading myself thin.

    HELP!
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    Aug 18, 2014 12:12 AM GMT
    what is a life that is based solely on sex?
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    Aug 18, 2014 12:17 AM GMT
    I'm afraid you might be turning into a nymphomaniac aka hypersexual(not trolling btw) Seek help fast. It can take over your life. icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 18, 2014 12:38 AM GMT
    Dopeamine saidI mean, around five one-night stands, two guys that I haven't slept with but have been hanging out with, and one (semi) regular fuck buddy, who I don't really like, but he's been trying to move me towards boyfriend territory.

    It's also been a really stressful year and I feel I've been using sex as a way to connect. I feel like I'm spreading myself thin.

    HELP!
    Big deal! Most people - straight gay bi or other - have used anonymous/casual sex as an escape from stress.

    You are not alone.

    It seems like you have a handle on the root of the issue, so keep your current mindset. If you firmly believe that your behavior needs to be modified, look into CBT, REBT, and other stuff that you'll find on that same search. I use those techniques to keep my previously-harmful drinking behaviors in check, cause I used to drink way too much due to stress.
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    Aug 18, 2014 11:39 AM GMT
    Really? I thought you said gay black men have very few options and rarely have sex or go on dates? Interesting how none of your theories ever apply to yourself.
  • Eli_jah

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    Aug 18, 2014 4:18 PM GMT
    simonsayswhat saidReally? I thought you said gay black men have very few options and rarely have sex or go on dates? Interesting how none of your theories ever apply to yourself.


    When did I ever say this?
  • Eli_jah

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    Aug 18, 2014 7:07 PM GMT
    pazzy said5 guys????? icon_lol.gif that's number is extremely low compared to others. icon_lol.gif there's guys that average about 100 each year. they lose count.


    Everyone is different. That's a lot to me.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 19, 2014 5:10 AM GMT
    Sure. Everyone is different.

    If 5 dudes in 8 months is too much for you, take action to reduce your promiscuity. Go down to the levels you are comfortable with.

    What would be a good number of hook ups for you?

    SC