Hopeless in dating

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    Aug 19, 2014 12:18 AM GMT
    No matter what I do, I can't find an attractive guy that loves me as much as I love him. I've never had sex, never had a boyfriend, and never even kissed anyone. All this is making me anxious about being alone forever. I just really wanna meet an attractive good guy. Any pointers?
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    Aug 19, 2014 12:23 AM GMT
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  • Apparition

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    Aug 19, 2014 12:26 AM GMT
    but all the attractive good guys are with each other. try an ugly good guy and work your way up.
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    Aug 19, 2014 12:27 AM GMT
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    Aug 19, 2014 1:36 AM GMT
    well good looking guys have their own issues too, I mean, I have 3 guys in love with me at the moment and I don't know what to do. icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 19, 2014 3:20 AM GMT
    Varus saidwell good looking guys have their own issues too, I mean, I have 3 guys in love with me at the moment and I don't know what to do. icon_neutral.gif
    4-some! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 19, 2014 5:36 AM GMT
    pazzy saidyou sound like a typical 18 year old. you'll live. you'll get ass one day. until then... enjoy being 18, 19 or whatever because you only get to be 18, 19 once...


    Honestly, I was just about to point that out.
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    Aug 19, 2014 5:37 AM GMT
    Varus saidwell good looking guys have their own issues too, I mean, I have 3 guys in love with me at the moment and I don't know what to do. icon_neutral.gif


    They must be pretty pathetic.
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    Aug 20, 2014 6:53 PM GMT
    Wait it out. Don't stress, ur time will come. Be patient
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    Aug 20, 2014 7:00 PM GMT
    Did you mention "l-o-v-e"...?

    Ewwww....men will run from it like the plague...icon_eek.gif
  • Webster666

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    Aug 20, 2014 9:12 PM GMT
    I've met some really great guys at bars and sex clubs.
    I'm serious.
  • BloodFlame

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    Aug 20, 2014 10:57 PM GMT
    eakchan saidWait it out. Don't stress, ur time will come. Be patient


    This here. OP, you'll be okay. Just try not to think too much about it because you're young and have plenty of time. If you keep a "woe is me" type attitude, you'll only deter potential guys away so snap out of the negative thinking and go out and have fun. Best wishes!
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    Aug 21, 2014 3:35 AM GMT
    Varus saidwell good looking guys have their own issues too, I mean, I have 3 guys in love with me at the moment and I don't know what to do. icon_neutral.gif


    Confidence is key lol
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    Aug 21, 2014 4:04 AM GMT
    I feel you.
  • Shark100

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    Aug 21, 2014 9:42 AM GMT
    I was like u when I was ur age, wait a sec, I'm 32 never had sex with a guy, have no BF and kissed a couple of guys only.... So if these guys tell you the time will come... Maybe not sadly. I guess for me the profile of the right guy is quiet complex, maybe I'm too picky, anyway if you are interested in sex I'm pretty sure there are millions of gay guys out there willing to have a quick one, if you are after a relationship, the numbers are smaller, a LTR o marriage.....much much smaller....
  • thisguy023

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    Aug 21, 2014 10:11 AM GMT
    Don't overthink your life. You'll get it wrong anyway.
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    Aug 21, 2014 3:51 PM GMT
    Yes stop looking for a relationship and start looking for a friend or friend with benefits.So many people in general have an obsession with having someone to call their boyfriend or girlfriend.I did not come out till I was 29 and did not get into a relationship till I was 39!Take things slowly,dont act goofy or fall all over someone about how wonderful and hot they are.You should be seeing someone for months (3-4) before you consider dating them.Just my take on things.
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    Aug 21, 2014 4:04 PM GMT
    allalib96 saidAll this is making me anxious about being alone forever. I just really wanna meet an attractive good guy.

    Unless you are planning to die at a very early age, I wouldn't worry now about being alone forever. Like others said, enjoy your young life - it only comes once, and fades quickly. It's not reasonable to expect to find a long term partner at your age. In the meantime, if you want a romantic fling, take a trip to a gay vacation location, and of the many suitors who will be after you, choose one that that is nice and affectionate. Rinse and repeat.
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    Aug 21, 2014 4:33 PM GMT
    allalib96 saidNo matter what I do, I can't find an attractive guy that loves me as much as I love him. I've never had sex, never had a boyfriend, and never even kissed anyone. All this is making me anxious about being alone forever. I just really wanna meet an attractive good guy. Any pointers?

    Usually the dating, kissing and sex come BEFORE you develop love for someone. Love is the product, not the preliminary. What you think is love may actually be a strong attraction.

    And at 18 you are too young to already be "anxious about being alone forever". That kind of attitude will make you appear desperate to other guys, and trying too hard. Most of them don't want love at your ages, they want buds to hang around with, do guy stuff together (and maybe gay), possibly some casual sex, the classic friends with benefits arrangement.

    (And BTW, since you're a novice, before you have any gay sex make sure you're well versed in safe sex. And know what the different STD risks are for different kinds of activities)

    If guys sense you wanna drag them to the altar on your first date they'll avoid you like the plague. Your goals right now should be simple and modest - find some guys to chill with, little more. And for that they don't have to be physically attractive, which widens the available pool. As you all get to know each other better these relationships may develop into something more meaningful, or maybe not.

    But at least you've got some companionship, to keep you from becoming lonely & depressed. Another thing, like desperation, that will turn guys off to you.
  • raphadutra

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    Aug 21, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    Really, I don't see any reason to complain stuff like that. Enjoy your life, stop being anxious about it, it is not something you should hurry. The right guy appears when he has to appear. You have the experiences in the right moment. I think it is about not closing your eyes for those that may not be the dream of 1st time, and actually no one is (nobody is perfect); but day by day you will create something solid. Everything has a reason, we don't know it yet. P
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    Aug 22, 2014 4:15 AM GMT
    allalib96 saidNo matter what I do, I can't find an attractive guy that loves me as much as I love him. I've never had sex, never had a boyfriend, and never even kissed anyone. All this is making me anxious about being alone forever. I just really wanna meet an attractive good guy. Any pointers?


    Don't stress it bud! You're young. Relationships, sex, love just don't happen when we want it. It works better when it's fluid. Live it up, have fun! Party, have 3 ways, be wild, just enjoy it and it might come when u least expect it. Mine came at 32. Now I'm 41 happily married with a little guy at 1.5 years old.