Boys can be so ungrateful these days...

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    Aug 20, 2014 6:42 PM GMT
    It seems like every time I do something nice or go out of my way to accommodate a guy, they turn right around and fucking stab you in the back. Case in point the most recent scenarios:

    ASSHOLE #1:

    Met a guy out of state. I was traveling, he was traveling. We met at a bar having not known each other. Well the next day, we plan to meet again. I get a hotel for myself at the Marriott. I invite him over. I'm having wine at my hotel, and then we went to dinner. We're looking at drinks, and he says he don't want to drink today because he was hungover from last night. We went back to hotel, and he wanted to smoke, I had my drink. I also let him spend the night, so he didn't have to pay for a hotel. We had fun also. Next morning, I offer Him breakfast 3 times as I was eating the hotel buffet, but he didn't want to pay for breakfast and went ahead and took off. I offered to put it on the room, I even came out to his car with breakfast to go. He declines.

    Well hear this shit, I send him a note 2 days later saying "the best guys are always far away :-)", this mother fucker had the nerve to say to me: "just a little advice, next time you meet a guy you like, offer a glass of wine instead of drinking the whole (750 ML) bottle to yourself, especially after smoking 2 blunts of kush with you".

    I was like holdup BITCH, you fucking told me you didn't want anything to drink mother fucker. PLUS, I offered and always do offer, PLUS 2, I took time out my day to spend with your fucking ass and let you stay the night AND offered breakfast. I was the one who fucking paid for the hotel room so your ass wouldn't have to, and you fucking complain to me about some fucking petty ass shit mother fucker?

    To be continued.....
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    Aug 20, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    ASSHOLE #2:

    My friend I've known in Denver for 2 years. It was my birthday weekend a couple weeks ago. We went walking on the downtown mall strip. Afterwards, I take him to my place in the suburbs and make lamb steak and sirloin dinner with Cabernet wine. Then, I drive him back to his car downtown. This mother fucker locks his keys in the car after I dropped him off and he drove his car to the nightclub.

    Now hear this shit, he calls me after I'm already in the club with my date, saying he locked his keys in the car. This mother fucker has a brand new 2014 ford focus, full coverage insurance yet has no lockout service. I tell him that my triple A (which just renewed and I can use up to 4 service calls per year, I have an older car and travel 30,000 miles a year easily I can and have been stranded hundreds of miles from home. Never once do I call these bitch ass friends because they wouldn't do shit anyway) MIGHT be able to allow me to use a service call for him, but to just wait a minute, come up to the club and we can figure it out. I wasn't even sure if I would be able to do it.

    This mother fucker hangs up on me, and then has been ignoring me for 2 weeks, even on the day of my birthday. We have a mutual friend, and I have to hear from her how he's mad at ME because HE locked his keys in HIS car and is too stupid to get roadside assistance. When I see him, I'm going to fucking kill him (with kindness)

    I just hate and can't stand these fucking ungrateful ass MEN who just act like they can't even take care of themselves or speak the fuck up, until after the fact. I just don't know who raised these kids, but they need to be beat down 1 day. Domestic violence, abused, and used. So they see how it fucking feels.
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    Aug 20, 2014 7:09 PM GMT
    I feel like you aren't really objective.
    You choose to hookup with a stranger, you deal with the consequences.
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    Aug 20, 2014 7:13 PM GMT
    In my experience with people in general, the more you accommodate, the more you get walked all over. So I decided I'm not going to accommodate people's whims.
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    Aug 20, 2014 7:27 PM GMT
    U mad huh
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    Aug 20, 2014 7:39 PM GMT
    I'm so fucking tired of fucking saying the fucking word fuck!
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    Aug 20, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
    he obviously didn't like you and judging by your arrogant attitude, I can see why

    nobody cares what you paid or offered, he possibly thought you are trying to be superior and in the end he has a right for his own opinion, just because you paid does not mean tou own the person
  • Apparition

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    Aug 20, 2014 8:46 PM GMT
    put a door key in your wallet and problem never happens.
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    Aug 20, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
    You talk like a 13-year old girl who is mad at her parents.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 20, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    My first impression is that you're angry, all the time.
    BUT, I've certainly attracted my share of needy men and men who are takers.
    I'm independent, and wouldn't think of calling my friends for help.
    And, I always pay my own way.

    You might do well to change your habits.
    You seem to be giving WAY too much to total strangers.
    Then, you get angry when they accept.

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    Aug 20, 2014 9:47 PM GMT
    Never offer a drink to someone if he has a hungover or in a bad/sick mood. Guy 1 didn't feel like eating. You should respect his wishes. Offering breakfast three times - No No. Guy 2 needed help from you, you declined to help. SO he's mad at you, simple as that. Dating is about communications and having a good vibe with someone. It's not about who PAID or who can DO things for you. They both were probably turned off by your attitudes or the way you treated them. Move on and don't be angry, try to have good zen karma.
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    Aug 20, 2014 11:09 PM GMT
    Ravensong saidIn my experience with people in general, the more you accommodate, the more you get walked all over. So I decided I'm not going to accommodate people's whims.


    This here. I'm all for being nice and polite but some people can see that as a way to take advantage of someone. So next time, don't try to be too accommodating. Try to have the guys meet you halfway unless you know or feel the guy will be genuine.

    atlanticshore saidhe obviously didn't like you and judging by your arrogant attitude, I can see why

    nobody cares what you paid or offered, he possibly thought you are trying to be superior and in the end he has a right for his own opinion, just because you paid does not mean tou own the person


    This too. It's nice that you paid for them and it's kind of rude that they are treating you this way but at the same time, you might have came off as a "holier than thou" personality and that in turn, probably turned them off from you.

    I'm pretty sure you're not an angry person in real life all the time so just try and keep a level head when it comes to meeting guy. Don't give too much either as that might lead to a repeat of what happened.
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    Aug 20, 2014 11:39 PM GMT
    Want to go for a beer?

    It's on me!

    Cheers


    P.S.

    I have AAA
    Chevron Travel club
    Road side assistance with my insurance co.

    :-)
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    Aug 21, 2014 12:01 AM GMT
    Oh, the humanity!
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    Aug 21, 2014 12:31 AM GMT
    Sorry you attracted these people.

    Take me. I'm always nice and grateful. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 21, 2014 12:40 AM GMT
    polfsky saidSorry you attracted these people.

    Take me. I'm always nice and grateful. icon_lol.gif


    You spelt 'desperate' wrong.
  • Eli_jah

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    Aug 21, 2014 1:24 AM GMT
    MesS.

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    Aug 21, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    Pizza sounds good right about now.
  • Eli_jah

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    Aug 21, 2014 1:48 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs I LIVE for your posts. Moar pleez.
  • buddycat

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    Aug 21, 2014 2:46 AM GMT
    First off, I don't understand the issue here when you say ". I also let him spend the night, so he didn't have to pay for a hotel. We had fun also.". You paid for the hotel room whether you had company or not and more was expected than just sleeping. If you wanted him to chip in for the room you should have offered to split the room. Second off, never do things for people with expectations. Do them because you want to do them, period. If you can't help someone with a lock-out nothing you can do. If doesn't have a family member with a spare or a service to help him with his warranty, then it is his issue, let him be mad.
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    Aug 21, 2014 3:15 AM GMT
    buddycat saidFirst off, I don't understand the issue here when you say ". I also let him spend the night, so he didn't have to pay for a hotel. We had fun also.". You paid for the hotel room whether you had company or not and more was expected than just sleeping. If you wanted him to chip in for the room you should have offered to split the room. Second off, never do things for people with expectations. Do them because you want to do them, period. If you can't help someone with a lock-out nothing you can do. If doesn't have a family member with a spare or a service to help him with his warranty, then it is his issue, let him be mad.


    Yes, exactly!
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    Aug 21, 2014 4:26 AM GMT
    atlanticshore saidhe obviously didn't like you and judging by your arrogant attitude, I can see why . nobody cares what you paid or offered, he possibly thought you are trying to be superior and in the end he has a right for his own opinion, just because you paid does not mean tou own the person

    He liked me enough to come over to spend 12+ hours with me and then some. So not sure what deranged reason has you thinking that.

    Let me correct you, because you got it twisted like a pretzel, honey. Let's be clear on something honty, I fucking care what I paid for or offered. Because this fucking bitch made it seem like I wasn't being a good host, when I was being a damn good host. Yeah, I was going to get the hotel ANYWAY for ME. I could have sent him home like most guys do after a hookup. I could have not offered him breakfast, like most guys do too.

    If the mother fucker wanted a damn drink, he could have got damn ASKED for some or helped himself. That's some grade a bullshit...and he's fucked up, and I'm fed up with people putting guilt trips on me like I don't do enough for their fucking ass than the average ASS would ever do for them. Fuck these bitches, fuck all these ungrateful ass American bitches!
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    Aug 21, 2014 4:32 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    you need help.

    I admit I do. When dealing with these pieces of work, anyone would. I just don't know why I meet such horrible people, when I'm nothing but nice, giving and accommodating myself. I may sound angry, but I'm angry at the outcome, not the person. They will be held accountable by higher powers. Or maybe, someone less nice than me will beat the shit out of them, and it won't be because of a gay bashing.
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    Aug 21, 2014 4:47 AM GMT
    I hate to sound so angry on here....I'm not really an angry type of person. Unlike some people, I'm not on meds or anything either (nor should be, but then again...these guys are pushing it lol).

    It just blows my mind the things people say and how the act. It's like people make an issue out of no issue. Everything seems to be going fine, and then out of nowhere, they have to come out with some stupid shit to fuck everything we had going up. Like they too pussy to talk about it the moment it happens. All the fucking rampant passive aggressive bullshit behavior in the gay community is SICKENING. That's why I'm reading this book:

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    Aug 21, 2014 4:59 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs27 said
    atlanticshore saidhe obviously didn't like you and judging by your arrogant attitude, I can see why . nobody cares what you paid or offered, he possibly thought you are trying to be superior and in the end he has a right for his own opinion, just because you paid does not mean tou own the person

    He liked me enough to come over to spend 12+ hours with me and then some. So not sure what deranged reason has you thinking that.

    Let me correct you, because you got it twisted like a pretzel, honey. Let's be clear on something honty, I fucking care what I paid for or offered. Because this fucking bitch made it seem like I wasn't being a good host, when I was being a damn good host. Yeah, I was going to get the hotel ANYWAY for ME. I could have sent him home like most guys do after a hookup. I could have not offered him breakfast, like most guys do too.

    If the mother fucker wanted a damn drink, he could have got damn ASKED for some or helped himself. That's some grade a bullshit...and he's fucked up, and I'm fed up with people putting guilt trips on me like I don't do enough for their fucking ass than the average ASS would ever do for them. Fuck these bitches, fuck all these ungrateful ass American bitches!


    You are so manly, generous and great, You are like a God and everybody should admire everything you do. You are perfect