Bottoming for boyfriend?

  • BlakeWind

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    Aug 21, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    Well i have been dating this one guy for about 6 months. I love him dearly. Hes a keeper for sure. But to get to the point, he has been talking a lot recently about topping me. I have topped him once or twice during our relationship. But hes been obsessively talking about me bottoming recently. I have never bottomed before. I have told him this. But i want to do it to please him. But I am just so nervous about it. I dont know what to do. I think hes getting impatient waiting for me. I just wanted some advice on what I should do? What do you guys recommend for someone whos never bottomed before? Is there a way to make it painless? Im so nervous icon_neutral.gif
  • Apparition

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    Aug 22, 2014 12:04 AM GMT
    there a many other threads on this. with more information

    you do know what to do though, you have topped. just put yourself in his shoes, what did he like or hate, ASK him.

    1. LUBE, use the whole bottle if need be
    2. Stretch with fingers, dont do anything until he can get 4 up your ass, if he can't do that you cant take his dick unless he is below average width (length doesnt matter)
    3. You should control everything that happens first penetration, put him on his back and cow boy him slowly, he doesnt get to move at all, just be a nice hard cock, the harder the better, it is hard to fuck a marshmallow your first time.
    4. TALK, TALK, TALK start the conversation before you take your clothes off, tell him that he may not get to fuck you this time, but you will try again another day if you have to stop. Your ass, your rules.

    5. If he makes you bleed, it will take a couple weeks to heal, prepare for that.

    6. You are 24 I hope you learn to sex each other more than once every 2 months. Live a little.
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    Aug 22, 2014 12:06 AM GMT
    well if you love him dearly then i guess you should do it icon_smile.gif im also a top and if that were to happen to me then yes id do it for someone i dearly care for.

    besides, nothing can go wrong if he topped you once. it just feels like your pooping back and forth (sorry for the bad comparison but it feels like it lolol) unless your afraid that he might be a top in the future??
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 22, 2014 12:56 PM GMT
    Sex is particularly good if it is pleasing to ALL the guys involvedicon_razz.gif

    There is nothing wrong with going an extra mile to please your BF but it only makes sense to stay on course, and seek the common ground in sex and elsewhere, too.

    If you do something to please someone, you are likely to expect similar sacrifices from the other dude, or your patience will wear thin sooner than expected.

    Communication is good. Timely communication is even bettericon_smile.gif.

    SC
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 22, 2014 3:30 PM GMT
    Slow, slow, slow. Start, stop, start, stop. Lots of lube. Don't be embarrassed. Have fun. Laugh. But even an experienced bottom has to talk his partner through the opening few minutes as he adjusts so don't feel like you're doing anything goofy by directing the action. And the odd sensation more like you're taking a crap will go away and you can differentiate. Don't panic. I don't like the "him on the bottom, me on top" that is recommended above (though most do) so try different positions. I find the easiest to handle is face down with him on my back also face down. Enjoy!
  • BlakeWind

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    Aug 23, 2014 5:56 AM GMT
    Thanks for the reply guys!

    @apparition- so 4 fingers would be a good way to start? I didn't think of that. I might mention that to him. He knows im nervous. He said he bled a bit the first time he bottomed. So that didn't help my anxiety lol.

    @ridingonsurf- haha. Yea thats kind what i expected it to feel like.

    @destinharbor- I will definitely take your advice as well. I did like the laugh and have fun part. I think it will be fun. I'm just so nervous icon_mad.gif. And yea I was actually thinking i dont think i would like the cowboy position either tbh. The one i was really thinking of us the one you described. Me lying on stomach and him on top of my back. Even though that will put him in full control, I trust this man 100%. He would never hurt me.

    We are planning a night for us to do it in a few weeks. We are going to get a hotel room since we both live with parents. I appreciate everyones input. Any extra input is appreciated.

    I will bring plenty of lube for sure. We were also considering doing it bareback. Would that affect the comfort level at all? We have both been tested and came back negative.
  • Apparition

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    Aug 25, 2014 4:35 AM GMT
    BlakeWind saidThanks for the reply guys!

    @apparition- so 4 fingers would be a good way to start? I didn't think of that. I might mention that to him. He knows im nervous. He said he bled a bit the first time he bottomed. So that didn't help my anxiety lol.



    I will bring plenty of lube for sure. We were also considering doing it bareback. Would that affect the comfort level at all? We have both been tested and came back negative.



    um start with ONE finger and then 2, 3, 4 not just jam all 4 up there lol.

    even though you have gotten tested, at your age, I would really think about getting used to condoms before barebacking, or you will never be able to go back, this wont be your last boy to ride, and you should get used to them now as standard, before you rush off barebacking. boys lie. especially young ones. they really dont affect the bottom, another half a millimetre wont be noticed.
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    Aug 27, 2014 5:46 AM GMT
    I'm always on top. But I respect my partner to give great lube and slow sex. He always knows that I care for his body and I give him pleasure.

    Tommy