Hook-Up Etiquette

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    Jan 12, 2009 9:30 PM GMT
    I was about to preface this with a disclaimer, but since I'm asking about this in the first place, it already goes to show that I have very little experience in this department. icon_lol.gif

    What are the terms of etiquette with an internet hook-up?

    Such as...if the dude shows up and (to be polite) he's not what you expected, is it ok to just say, "Dude, this ain't gonna happen" and send him on his way?

  • Timbales

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    Jan 12, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    I find this interesting as well. I'm socially retarded, so I don't even understand how the whole 'meet in a bar, go have sex' thing works.
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    Jan 12, 2009 9:54 PM GMT
    in my long lost past that is when I hooked up with a guy from te net and he didn't look like his photos I certainly rejected him.. unless he was cute or cuter anyway.. The only that really ticked me off is when they say they are 8 inches but really a 6.. then I'll call them on it in a very cruel way.. but thats me being a bitch.

    Etiquette dictates that you set your standards low, very low, that you expect him to be terrible, that he wont look as good as his photos from 9 months ago and that hes a mediocre lay

    The great thing is though when you do that and get a good one its surprising and you can really enjoy it icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 13, 2009 12:11 AM GMT
    When he shows up at your door and he's not what you expected or up to your standards...you have every right to say no thanks. Hopefully by this time your inbox is full of other possibilities. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 13, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
    I found it is best to meet somewhere neutral, like a restaurant for a light meal and/or beer or just a coffee, and see where the conversation goes...

    If the talk is awkward and eyes avoid each other then the disappointment is mutual. Time for a polite departure.

    If the feelings seem one way it requires a little tact by one to another to say "another time, maybe?" or something like that.

    Go into meeting the guy knowing the olds are against you, because face-to-face chemistry is almost always different - better or worse or just plain odd - than internet chemistry.

    Then if you get lucky, well, enjoy!!! icon_surprised.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 13, 2009 12:28 PM GMT
    I put emphasis on not raising too much expectashunz, but I do tell beforehand that he'd cover for my taxi fare --regardless if I make it inside his place or just outside the door.
    Then upon the initial eyeball, I'd go ask if he likes what he sees or if I were what he expects me to see. In most cases, the humility wins them over.
    So far I never turn down sex that is available... with cab fare, of course.

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    Jan 13, 2009 2:20 PM GMT
    Hooking up with dudes on the internet is very hit-or-miss. I've met hot dudes who were great to look at but terrible in bed. I've also met up with others who didn't look like their pics and weren't particulary attractive, but fucked the daylights out of me and ended up being one of my regular fuck buds. You just never know.

    In general, I never reject anyone by their looks. I'm more concerned about how good the dude is in bed. I give them at least one shot at my ass. If they are good, we hook up again. If not, I never respond to them again.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 13, 2009 10:43 PM GMT
    That's why I VERY rarely hook up with guys from the Ethernet
    because that's what it is .... All Air sometimes icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    I think it's best to set expectations up front. Something like

    "Sounds hot! Let's get together! No big deal if we don't click -- we're both adults."

    That's gentle, but raises the possibility that it might not happen.
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    Jan 14, 2009 3:09 PM GMT
    FitExecutive said"Sounds hot! Let's get together! No big deal if we don't click -- we're both adults."


    That's one of those things I would assume is already mutually understood beforehand.

    But then, I also assumed that a guy would at least take a shower, put on some clean clothes, and brush his teeth before coming over, but I was wrong about that too. No, I'm not kidding...yes, I sent him home.

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    Jan 15, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    Good boy Joe!

    Perhaps a disclaimer in your profile about that? "If we're meeting for a hook-up, please shower, brush your teeth, and not have what ever you ate for dinner or lunch splattered on your clothing."
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    Jan 22, 2009 5:44 AM GMT
    C2C with the other person prior to meeting if possible... it saves alot of trouble

    Try to be very open minded and respectful of the other person

  • jhelling

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    Jan 22, 2009 6:11 AM GMT
    You can certainly reject them if they don't look like their pictures... Karma is a bitch!
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    Jan 23, 2009 1:56 PM GMT
    you invite them to your house?

    Where do you live? Mayberry?

    always meet in a public place, and get there early so you can see him coming and pretend to be waiting for someone else if he's fugly.

    "Joe? oh, no...I'm not Joe. Joe was here and he left. I'm, uh...Norman...and I'm uh...waiting for my wife."

    then make a little 'ring ring' sound

    "Oops that's my cell, I gotta take this call."

    pull out your cell phone and pretend to talk to your "wife" but do it loudly enough for him to hear.

    "Ok, honey, I'll just meet you at home...bye...love you...see you in a few and we'll have some nice straight hetero sex...in your vagina...which I love."



    that should do it...
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    Jan 23, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    Someone could easily write a book on this topic, but I'll give you my top 7.

    1. Be who you say you are. Have at least 5 photos of yourself that don't all appear to have been taken at the same time in the same studio. If you show up and you are not what you sold yourself as, be prepared to be rejected.

    2. Have some details in your profile

    3. ALWAYS be on time, but not more than 10 minutes early.

    4. DO NOT ask for directions. Use your GPS or Mapquest.

    5. Be CLEAN- Outside and inside. That means if you are going to bottom, you have used a shower shot to thoroughly clean things out so there will not be a speck of anything. If you are going to top, clean the kitchen and trim the bush.

    6. Discuss rules and limitations BEFORE coming over. Condom or raw? Poppers OK? PNP? Toys? Fisting? Have agreed upon boundaries. Discussing these online beforehand will prevent awkward moments in the sack.

    7. If you change your mind, have the courtesy to call or text message

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    Feb 04, 2009 6:57 AM GMT
    I most certainly agree with BIGSETXJOCK on his Top 7 things! I once arrived at a guy's house to find out he was a "fugly". It was such a twist for me, since I was the guy coming to his house. I was polite and agreed to come in and watch a movie. It was the longest movie of my life. The whole time he was doing stupid top stunts that would normally turn me on but coming from him made me disgusted! It gets better. I called him out on it and he literally pulled up his pictures to show him the "difference". I mean ...f*uck. I rarely do random hook-ups and the one time that I do it turns out be a blow-out.

    Now to curve my appetite. I'll jack off - its fast and I don't need to talk to them!
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    Feb 04, 2009 7:11 AM GMT

    Oh this one! this one! this one!

    I had to say it thrice 'cos recently I got invited to a threesome...

    Bring a fresh bouquet of flowers... no note necessary ...something they can put immediately into a vase... and make it a centrepiece or something... Oh the sex in return varied from tender to hot to wild!!! icon_cool.gif