Is being vain a turn off for you?

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    Aug 23, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
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    Aug 23, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    yea
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    Aug 23, 2014 5:56 PM GMT
    Sure, but there is a minimum required....self care...
    You'd be so surprised, those who do not it stereotypes of being vain can be VERY vain.
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    Aug 23, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    I dont mean people who really take care of themselves, I mean people who have an extremly high opinion of themselves regardless of how well they take care of themselves.

    vain
    vān/
    adjective
    adjective: vain; comparative adjective: vainer; superlative adjective: vainest

    1. having or showing an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth.
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    Aug 23, 2014 6:01 PM GMT
    I thought this thread was about me.icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 23, 2014 6:25 PM GMT
    ^^^

    Your're so vain!!!
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    Aug 23, 2014 6:40 PM GMT
    to me it is
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    Aug 23, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    why don't you use the word arrogant then? vain is mostly about appearance
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    Aug 23, 2014 7:35 PM GMT
    no not at all, after all I am gay.
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    Aug 23, 2014 7:52 PM GMT
    Which is worse, having an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth or having an excessively low opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth?
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    Aug 23, 2014 8:09 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidWhich is worse, having an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth or having an excessively low opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth?


    definitely first
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    Aug 23, 2014 8:25 PM GMT
    To a certain extent yes but it's ok to keep up a nice appearance. If you carry a mirror in your pocket or stop and check yourself at every car window lol we have a problem.
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    Aug 23, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidWhich is worse, having an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth or having an excessively low opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth?

    Sounds like a co-dependent relationship. icon_lol.gif


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    Aug 23, 2014 8:43 PM GMT
    This is so bad but I find vain narcissistic men very hot for some reason.

    In a purely sexual context of course icon_lol.gif- outside of that it would be infuriating !
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    Aug 23, 2014 8:49 PM GMT
    I'm kind of vain. icon_lol.gif

    But too much of anything is usually bad.
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    Aug 23, 2014 9:13 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI thought this thread was about me.icon_confused.gif

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    Vain, no. But I find a man with a healthy amount of self-confidence very attractive.
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    Aug 23, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    I think that word is used too loosely. True vanity, yes it would be a turn off but I find confidence, even a little cockiness very sexy. If I had to choose between someone who is vain and someone with extreme self esteem or self pity issue, I would go with the later.
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    Aug 24, 2014 12:35 AM GMT
    I like veiny arms. Does that count?
  • buddycat

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    Aug 24, 2014 12:54 AM GMT
    Nope, as long as they aren't an asshole. Nothing wrong taking pride in your appearance. Some industries depend on it too.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Aug 24, 2014 1:01 AM GMT
    Not at all...confidence and dominance is sexy!
  • rac727

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    Aug 24, 2014 4:51 AM GMT
    Ohh hell yeah! I mean taking care of yourself and having confidence in your looks is one thing but I have seen a few guys that were just ridiculous! I met one guy who so into him self it was annoying. And he would only date a guy that was a stylish dresser that would look good with him and dressed well enough to impress his friends. No matter how great the guy was the way he dressed was a deal breaker for him. He was such a moron. Lol
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Aug 24, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    Not a problem for me everyone is individual?
    But I don't want anyone in my life who looks in the mirror more than I do? Joke.
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    Aug 24, 2014 6:11 AM GMT
    The whole notion of the concept of "vain" in people has always bewildered me. It seems from my experience that the tag of "vain" tends to come from people who are intimidated by someone else that they think is somehow better than them in some way. But Ralph Waldo Emerson warned against such foolishness when he wrote, "There comes a time in every man's education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance and imitation is suicide and every man must accept himself for better or worse as is his portion."
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    Aug 24, 2014 6:19 AM GMT
    No I prefer a buff guy into himself
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    Aug 24, 2014 11:57 AM GMT
    mikeyslc saidI dont mean people who really take care of themselves, I mean people who have an extremly high opinion of themselves regardless of how well they take care of themselves.

    vain
    vān/
    adjective
    adjective: vain; comparative adjective: vainer; superlative adjective: vainest

    1. having or showing an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth.


    This ties into the conversation we had a while back about narcissistic personalities... no thanks! I know people like this, who choose friends who basically reinforce their high opinion of themselves. I don't need to be your accessory. I can look at you for free from over here without having to listen to your crowing.