Opinions vary But what is the difference between close friends 'with benefits' and having boyfriend for you??

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    Aug 25, 2014 3:43 AM GMT
    For your own standards and how you view others what is the difference between best mates or buddies with benefits (sex) and boyfriends given the Can be very similar as both can be in effect monogamous and open so must be something else or are they the same thing?
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    Aug 25, 2014 3:55 AM GMT
    Butt buddy is a term used in homophobic societies to define a couple of guys who have sex together, regardless of whether or not the relationship is romantic or purely sexual.

    A boyfriend is a guy you're romantically involved with, whether or not sex is involved.

    A fiancee is someone you're romantically involved with, with the intent to marry.

    A husband is a butt buddy for someone else, butt you just don't know it till you see the divorce papers on the kitchen table when you get home from work.
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    Aug 25, 2014 3:57 AM GMT
    BTW, I just asked my straight roommate this same question.

    He said "well you doin't have to listen to one of'em bitch all the time...I can tell ya that."

    LMAO! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 25, 2014 4:26 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    A husband is a butt buddy for someone else, but you just don't know it till you see the divorce papers on the kitchen table when you get home from work.

    How very cynical - and funny!

    More seriously, to me a boyfriend means a guy I'm serious about, seeing him exclusively, having sex with him, but we haven't taken the partnership or marriage steps yet. Though we may live together.

    Partner means we own stuff together, most likely live together. We've made things legal between us with documents as our State may require. It's monogamous (at least for me), or open with rules.

    Husband of course means a legal marriage, where permitted. But I choose to call my partner my husband, anyway, as he does with me. Having the marriage license wouldn't change our relationship and how we live together, but it would give us considerably more legal benefits & protections we don't have now.
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    Aug 26, 2014 3:12 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    paulflexes said
    A husband is a butt buddy for someone else, but you just don't know it till you see the divorce papers on the kitchen table when you get home from work.

    How very cynical - and funny!

    More seriously, to me a boyfriend means a guy I'm serious about, seeing him exclusively, having sex with him, but we haven't taken the partnership or marriage steps yet. Though we may live together.

    Partner means we own stuff together, most likely live together. We've made things legal between us with documents as our State may require. It's monogamous (at least for me), or open with rules.

    Husband of course means a legal marriage, where permitted. But I choose to call my partner my husband, anyway, as he does with me. Having the marriage license wouldn't change our relationship and how we live together, but it would give us considerably more legal benefits & protections we don't have now.


    So you say a boyfriend is someone your seeing exclusively??? While I may agree I am asking this because I know of so many so callled relationships which call each other boyfriends but are not exclusive. I must add I am not judging either just poining out the difference and seeing if Their are contrasting views