Sympathy Sex - Yup or Nope?

  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 25, 2014 12:34 PM GMT
    U guys into this, and when?

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  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 25, 2014 6:52 PM GMT
    Nope. But it is tempting. I had a working dinner one evening with my lawyer (this is decades ago before I was out) who also happened, with his wife, to be great friends with my sister and her husband. When we finished the work and food, he invited me to his house for a drink. Sure. We walked in and his wife had apparently left him abruptly but managed to take most of the furniture. He boo-hoo'ed into my arms and ended up hitting on me. Eventually getting me into bed. The next day he called to apologize and I told him that I was fine, not to worry. I understood. It took him about two months before he just couldn't contain himself and he just felt compelled to tell my sister and her husband that I was gay.

    Point: Sex with guys in emotional turmoil can lead to unpredictable outcomes. Even if your true intent is to be loving and kind. When they get themselves together, you are now forever conjoined with whatever was going on and whatever rationalizations they manufacture to convince themselves they were faultless in the mess. You become part of the "other."
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    Aug 26, 2014 1:05 AM GMT
    I've never had sympathy sex but it sounds kinda patronising.
  • smegnificient

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    Aug 26, 2014 1:38 AM GMT
    Once had some older guy in a bar approach me with a sob story about how he's all alone and that it's his birthday, and then asked if I wanted a blowjob. Not sure how making me pity him would change anything, but some people will try anything icon_lol.gif
  • Sunny_x9

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    Aug 26, 2014 4:36 PM GMT
    I don't like to get it
    I don't like to give it
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    Aug 26, 2014 4:40 PM GMT
    Its the first time I am coming across such thing. I never heard that before. Who would do btw?
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    Aug 26, 2014 4:52 PM GMT
    If he's hot...ride that trail of tears

  • Aug 26, 2014 11:52 PM GMT
    I have had sympathy sex and I will tell you first hand, you feel like a dirty whore afterwards and not in a good way. It is a terrible feeling not only to you but the other person afterwards.
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    Aug 26, 2014 11:57 PM GMT
    I prefer symphony sex. It's like sympathy sex, but less phony.
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    Aug 27, 2014 7:40 PM GMT
    Pity fucks? Lol no, I became a little picky as I got older.
  • jaroslav123

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    Aug 27, 2014 8:52 PM GMT
    vanquishedangel saidI have had sympathy sex and I will tell you first hand, you feel like a dirty whore afterwards and not in a good way. It is a terrible feeling not only to you but the other person afterwards.


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    Aug 28, 2014 1:13 AM GMT
    Nope. Been there, done that....on both sides. Not a good feeling and don't want to go through that again.icon_sad.gif