How do I get more attention from Hot guys

  • Aidenz

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    Aug 25, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
    This question applies online and in the real world as well. I often find that I do get attention from guys but most of them aren't exactly my type. Then I go after guys that are online and it's extremely rare that they end up responding or even that we have a conversation that goes anywhere. I think might be a bit shallow in that respect. I usually like well kept white guys ideally my age between 18-25 though often guys in there 30's and 40's catch my eye if they take good care of themselves. Ideally I like guys with red hair and green eyes, of course these guys are rare, sometimes I like it long and wavy or if it's short clean cut, I don't like a whole lot of body or facial hair but usually don't mind. For the most part I'm ok with any body type but a good muscular build is very attractive. Of course most people probably find this sort of build attractive especially on a site like this which emphasizes fitness. It may be selfish for me to want hot guys to come to me, especially when I don't have the ideal physic that I like to see in other guys while they have already done the work. Building a nice body takes time and effort and I am putting in the time but it's frustrating that it takes so long while I get to idolize guys who have nice bodies who get their pick and overlook me so often. Moreover, I don't know why but it's very difficult to get guys in my own age group interested. Tell me what you think? Am I too young to be caring so much and should wait a bit longer to start seriously dating. Is this just a distraction for now and should I be focusing on bigger and better things?
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Aug 25, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    Get fit.
    Confidence.
    Self-Esteem.
    Have fashion sense.
    Take care of yourself.

    Shit that takes time.

    And no, you're never too young or too old to start thinking about relationships.
    You can always focus on both.
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    Aug 25, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
    Red hair and green eyes? Move to Ireland, Scotland, or Central Russia.

    http://www.theguardian.com/politics/2013/nov/25/mapping-redheads-which-country-has-the-most
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    Aug 25, 2014 9:00 PM GMT
    We've been over this in plenty of threads.

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  • Rene_Aensland

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    Aug 25, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    I lol'ed ^ ^ ^ ^
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    Aug 25, 2014 9:04 PM GMT
    20 inch biceps are always a crowd pleaser.
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    Aug 25, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    bon_pan said20 inch biceps are always a crowd pleaser.

    I would not like that at all..
  • Aidenz

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    Aug 27, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    I mean i wanna get in shape regardless and I'd say I'm pretty confident but I suppose it's a question of how to approach the guys I like so I'm successful and don't end up with someone I'm either not attracted to or has a bad personality. Confidence doesn't always get you there. Granted I'm too young to go to the club when the night is at its prime, but I don't want the internet and clubs to be my scene anyway
  • Aidenz

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    Aug 27, 2014 10:30 PM GMT
    bon_pan said20 inch biceps are always a crowd pleaser.


    Also which do you think is hotter: Boulder shoulders or a barreled chest?
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    Aug 28, 2014 12:16 AM GMT
    1. It's never to early or too late to think about these things.

    2. Try to find something you and the other guy may relate to. If you see something on their profile that matches your interest try to strike up a conversation. If they don't reply, their lost...move on.

    3. Love yourself first. You said you don't like your body/self-image much. Learn to give yourself the love you deserve. If you can't give yourself love how can you expect anyone else to do it?

    Good luck bud
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    Aug 28, 2014 2:43 AM GMT
    Don't lower your standards. Never date average looking guys, it's not worth it and life is too short. You should also add the requirement that they have a big dick; a good looking guy with a big dick can't be beat.
  • BloodFlame

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    Aug 28, 2014 3:29 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Lumpyoatmeal said[/cite]You should also add the requirement that they have a big dick; a good looking guy with a big dick can't be beat.[/quote]

    If that combo was more prevalent, I doubt he'd want to be single lol.

    To OP: I understand where you're coming from, only difference is I want to keep my smaller build, just continue toning up but yeah, definitely into bigger guys. My advice is that you just have to be patient and keep trying. Sooner or later, you'll run into a guy who will be into you and vice versa but if it were easy, it wouldn't be very fun would it?

    As for guys your age. I sympathize there. I hardly attract anyone my age either and I'm only 22 lol. But again, just keep trying. You'll find someone eventually. And with your specific types, I'm sure there is a ginger haired guy out there somewhere but maybe perhaps put in some more exceptions? Natural gingers are quite rare unless you go to Europe so I'd just probably broadening your mind a bit.

    I just checked your age and your 19. It's not a bad thing that you are wondering about relationships but you're still young, don't sweat it too much and take your time. You'll see.

    Take care and wish you the best.
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    Aug 28, 2014 3:41 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidDon't lower your standards. Never date average looking guys, it's not worth it and life is too short. You should also add the requirement that they have a big dick; a good looking guy with a big dick can't be beat.


    Really? It's hard enough to find an average guy. With that kind of standard, I'll never be with anyone. icon_sad.gif
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Aug 28, 2014 5:11 AM GMT
    Aidenz said
    bon_pan said20 inch biceps are always a crowd pleaser.


    Also which do you think is hotter: Boulder shoulders or a barreled chest?


    They kind of come as a combined package
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 28, 2014 5:48 AM GMT
    It may help to understand that the laws of the dating/mating market apply.

    You are interested in specific guys, and have not been too successful in getting their attention.

    Ask yourself honestly, what is that is your forte in this market?

    If you really have something that makes you stand out, put that best foot forward, and make sure that the guys see your point. If you are just one of many... You are getting the picture...

    SC
  • buddycat

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    Aug 28, 2014 7:47 AM GMT
    You throw things at them. How else do you get a man's attention?
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    Aug 28, 2014 7:51 AM GMT
    Somebody made the comment once of going to a butcher looking for a nice piece of meat and how that compared to the gay dating scene.

    This guy was right all along.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 28, 2014 12:33 PM GMT
    I don't think there is anything wrong with knowing preferences and appreciating those you value in others.
    I would encourage you to talk to everybody, you never know when you might develop a good friendship and above all, be friendly and open to all. That philosophy has yielded me some fantastic RJ friends over the last few years and many are very hot and I appreciate and respect their achievements.

    Don't forget to enjoy life... and don't take it too seriously, meaning have fun along the way. We all wish for some things that we perceive we aren't getting.