Any married guys (guy+guy) out there?

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    Aug 26, 2014 11:40 PM GMT
    Since you've been married, do you feel like it has changed
    the dynamics of your relationship? Can you tell any difference
    from when you were just a couple "living in sin"? (he said jokingly)
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    Aug 26, 2014 11:41 PM GMT
    Used to be married with a guy on the side, but both collapsed.

    Only go for guys now.

    Tommy
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    Aug 27, 2014 12:21 AM GMT
    Living in sin is a stupid statement. Men need women and vice versa. There is no stigma.

    Tommy
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    Aug 27, 2014 12:26 AM GMT
    Fuck religion. There's no such thing as sin. That's just a concept made up by leaders/kings to make people follow rules.
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    Aug 27, 2014 12:27 AM GMT
    BTW, "FUCK" = Fornication Under Consent of King
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    Aug 27, 2014 1:05 AM GMT
    In less than 2 months I plan to say I do to the man I love. To all the couples that I've seen marry, most say, they just feel closer somehow. I want to marry Jack for many reasons, but mostly because I love him above all others.
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    Aug 27, 2014 1:36 AM GMT
    Just celebrated 1 year in holy matrimony (jk, jk and almost 21 together) Internally nothing changed at all, same old domestic bliss. To the outside things have changed a lot. Got my Green-card in February, filed federal taxes together, just got a drivers license that's good for 8 effing years (I only got 1 year licenses until now here in olde-tyme-Florid'uh.


    I love saying "my husband" talking to other people.
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    Aug 27, 2014 1:44 AM GMT
    HydesOut2 saidSince you've been married, do you feel like it has changed
    the dynamics of your relationship? Can you tell any difference
    from when you were just a couple "living in sin"? (he said jokingly)


    All the married guys I see "seem" very happy!!

    What's a SIN?

    Is it a sin to smoke, eat candy, drink and gamble?

    From my perspective I am not sure!

    I am usually asked over for desert. I am not the one doing the asking either. Seems like I am the desert.. Sin OH NO! lol
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    Aug 27, 2014 1:50 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidIn less than 2 months I plan to say I do to the man I love. To all the couples that I've seen marry, most say, they just feel closer somehow. I want to marry Jack for many reasons, but mostly because I love him above all others.



    Is he the Lebanese guy? icon_lol.gif If he is, I'm jelly. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 27, 2014 2:15 AM GMT
    OK guys, I used the term "living in sin" as a joke...I'm from the
    Deep South, Bible Thumping Central...All the religious wackos
    think we're going to Hell anyway and the thought of us marrying one
    another really sets them to spinning in their pews...so I used
    the term tongue in cheek...I had no idea it would be taken
    literally!
    My reason for asking the question, which I now wish I hadn't, was
    that my man and I got hitched 5 days ago after being together
    for 17 years. I was just curious if anyone else out there had
    taken the plunge and if so, did they notice a difference...
    Peace brothers! Hallelujah!
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    Aug 27, 2014 3:23 AM GMT
    Congratulations!
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    Aug 27, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
    I live in Vegas... I am a living sin..lol
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    Aug 27, 2014 12:58 PM GMT
    congrats man!!

    we'd been together for almost five years when we got hitched a few months ago. it was a little strange to say "husband" , but now i enjoy it. i also refer to him as "husbear" LOL.
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    Aug 27, 2014 1:49 PM GMT
    Don't think I could / would use the word "husband". Likely a reflection of my upbringing, age, and own hang-ups. When and if it ever happens, I think I would simply say "this is my partner, we are married"....."we are married"....."this is my spouse"..."he is my spouse".
    To each his own.
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    Aug 27, 2014 4:57 PM GMT
    We have been together for 8 years and were married July 3, 2013 in Santa Barbara. Nothing really changed other than my last name. I took my husbands name so all three of us could have the same last name. Our son was adopted 15 months ago. All is golden!
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    Aug 27, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    As far as what to call my spouse, I'm toying with several
    possibilities..."my bitch" is the winner so far.
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    Aug 28, 2014 12:14 AM GMT
    HydesOut2 saidAs far as what to call my spouse, I'm toying with several
    possibilities..."my bitch" is the winner so far.

    Haha,,, you're a hot mess and we need those types to keep things interesting around here.
    First off, congrats on your nuptials after all this time!
    Now, since you know I'm about to take the big plunge in October, please tell Grasshoppa what it feels like for you two.
    Are you glad you did it? Do you feel any closer. What was your wedding like?
    Give us some juicy details other than your house slave is named Bitch.
    I'm dying to know...icon_cool.gif

    btw... feel free to change you status from Monogamous to Married anytime you feel like. If I could choose the term Engaged, I would, but it's not an option.
    YET.
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    Aug 28, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    HydesOut2 saidAs far as what to call my spouse, I'm toying with several
    possibilities..."my bitch" is the winner so far.

    Haha,,, you're a hot mess and we need those types to keep things interesting around here.
    First off, congrats on your nuptials after all this time!
    Now, since you know I'm about to take the big plunge in October, please tell Grasshoppa what it feels like for you two.
    Are you glad you did it? Do you feel any closer. What was your wedding like?
    Give us some juicy details other than your house slave is named Bitch.
    I'm dying to know...icon_cool.gif

    btw... feel free to change you status from Monogamous to Married anytime you feel like. If I could choose the term Engaged, I would, but it's not an option.
    YET.


    First let me say, your profile pic looks remarkably like Pierce
    Brosnan...you're both great looking guys!

    Thank you for your good wishes...
    I must admit, I do feel a little different...like I'm suffocating...
    just kidding. We mainly did it for practical reasons like if one of us got
    hospitalized for being seriously injured or ill, the other would be able to
    visit in a "family only" situation...also, we own a house together,
    and if one of us died, without being legally married, the survivor
    would lose the house because of inheritance taxes and the like,
    whereas spouses don't have to worry about that. I'm sure other
    perks will arise. But yes, in an odd way, after 17 years, I think we
    do feel closer.
    It happened very spur of the moment...he picked me up after work,
    we went to the county courthouse and got a license, called one of
    our best friends who went online and got ordained, met him and
    his wife and two kids at their place which is an incredible
    property of rolling fields overlooking the Pacific Ocean. So, on a cliff
    with whales spouting in the distance below us, coyotes in the brush
    and horses in the field, we said our vows as the sun was setting over
    the water. We then had champaigne, and back to their house
    for a lovely home cooked dinner (she's a professional-chef).
    It was so cool that their kids were there...the boy is six
    (we're his godfathers), and the girl is eight, and they were great...
    not phased or weirded out by it at all, but really excited to be a
    part of it. It was quick, simple, and beautiful.
    I'm sure your wedding will have better planning, and I hope that
    it's a gorgeous day for you both!




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    Aug 28, 2014 10:16 AM GMT
    Awesome, very happy for you mate, wish you the best!!!, I wish I could have a relationship like that, 17 years is a long time and I feel happy to see guys together like any other couple, and even when marriage can be just a legal process, I find exciting the fact to see two people who love each other to commit their lives as a married couple. Good on you guys!!!!
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    Aug 28, 2014 11:42 AM GMT
    Thank you all for your kind wishes!
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    Aug 28, 2014 2:26 PM GMT
    I'd think it could make all the difference in the world.

    My last guy and I were in a long distance relationship for about a decade while he was winding down his career and I was caring for my mom, doing everything we could to keep her in her home for as long as possible, creating the illusion of independence for her, and then my brother and I placed her in a facility when that became necessary so we selected a place near us where mom would get lots of visits from her children and grandchildren.

    So I wasn't then living with my bud though we had more contact with each other than we did with anyone else in our lives and we were planning to merge our lives together upon my mother's passing. We had spent the last few years making all these plans.

    But then he died first, while I was watching my mom die.

    While I wasn't there to have been able to help him.

    And I can't help but to feel so guilty that maybe I could have saved him and so angry that I was not allowed marriage. That likely I'd have been living with my bud and we'd have placed mom in a home nearer to us than to my brother and his spouse. And I could have been there for both my mother and for him and for me, so that instead of marriage, all I have is death of my departed.

    It would have made all the difference in my world.

    For the overdue dignity we are about to receive, never take it for granted.
  • ndbilly

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    Aug 29, 2014 9:32 AM GMT
    My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years and together for almost 10. When we got married the only thing that really changed was that I called my my husband and we had a kick ass party to celebrate us!

    We haven't changed our names. We have agreed that if we decide to have kids, we will double barrel the kid's surname. We do have some friends that have just married and have joined their names.

    I think that if you expect the essence of the relationship to change because you are married, you are probably getting married for the wrong reasons... I have seen that a couple of times (straight couples) where getting married was almost an attempt to fix something that wasn't right in the relationship. Needless to say, that marriage didn't last.

    Congrats on your wedding! Hope you also had a great time celebrating with your nearest and dearest.