Bath houses/ saunas

  • Aidenz

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    Aug 27, 2014 11:34 PM GMT
    What's your opinion of going to bath houses. Not objectively to go and have sex but the experience in general. Is it something you could do with friends or with your partner? Is it at all recommended alone and what are the best times for it. Or is it just flat out taboo

    I've been to one in Paris. Sun city. It was Indian themed. I didn't like the lighting so much but they gave free condoms, reduced price for young people, private rooms, a sauna, bar, and a nice pool plus private showers. Unfortunately I wasn't there for very long

    tell me what you think
  • Aidenz

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    Aug 28, 2014 3:11 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]silver_phoenix said



    Saunas are awesome, you get to face the brutal truth of just how physically attractive you are. Some guys are terribly disappointed and leave in tears - just kidding - actually they go home and start an enraged thread on realjock about the need for more acceptance in the gay community and how much masc4masc sucks.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Lol. I think I understand you on that. I like to think of myself as a good looking guy, but it might be a good humbling experience.

    I don't know the dynamics of bathouses but I'd imagine week ends are good and there are some places where young men or certain ethnicities get reduced price or come in free certain days
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 28, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    I've done a few. My guy and I have done a few together. Not something I want to do regularly but it does get the blood pumping. Just be careful, health-wise. Live. Enjoy.
  • GayWhispers

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    Aug 28, 2014 5:47 PM GMT
    Apparently bathhouses are having a difficult time.

    http://abcnews.go.com/Health/wireStory/gay-bathhouses-nationwide-face-uncertain-future-25096917

    Younger people are not interested in going anymore.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 28, 2014 6:48 PM GMT
    GayWhispers saidApparently bathhouses are having a difficult time.

    http://abcnews.go.com/Health/wireStory/gay-bathhouses-nationwide-face-uncertain-future-25096917

    Younger people are not interested in going anymore.


    You can see their point to some degree. Even if reduced rates may apply, there is some expense involved. The Grindr & Co. are basically for free.

    You may hit the place that is either empty or full of people whom you may or may not like.

    The society is more accepting of being gay. Many dudes can take their hook-ups home,regardless of what their living arrangements may be.

    A growing number of guys want to make some personal contact before hitting the hay. Saunas and clubs are not really meant to be dating venues.

    SC
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    Aug 28, 2014 8:25 PM GMT
    On the other hand, if you are using hook-up aps, it is safer to say "meet you at the sauna" than to deliver yourself to some strangers house. And much cheaper than a motel.

  • Aug 28, 2014 9:16 PM GMT
    What are your thoughts on a young guy going into a steamroom knowing only older guys are there after a workout? Would u cover or show your hard?
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 28, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    YesIWantOne saidWhat are your thoughts on a young guy going into a steamroom knowing only older guys are there after a workout? Would u cover or show your hard?

    I'm sure you'd be most welcome. Show. You'll have fun. Stay safe.

  • Aug 28, 2014 9:31 PM GMT
    Thank u
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    Aug 28, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    YesIWantOne saidWhat are your thoughts on a young guy going into a steamroom knowing only older guys are there after a workout? Would u cover or show your hard?

    I agree, be respectful of the others there and be safe and sane! I'm sure not everyone would be there to see you naked but if some enjoy it…so be it.
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    Aug 28, 2014 10:57 PM GMT
    To the OP: Bath houses are viewed differently by different guys at different times. Let's face it, they're places to meet guys for sex. If you're uncomfortable with being naked, being with a bunch of guys you don't know or getting hit on by a stranger then it's probably not for you. If you're paranoid about STDs or other diseases, then again, probably not the place for you. But if you're interested in seeing what there, experiencing it and you understand the risk, know how to protect yourself and like the adrenaline rush of guys groping you, then I'm sure it can be fun.

    Identify your expectations, do your homework, know how to be safe and don't let anyone take advantage of you. Most of all…..go and have fun.


  • Aug 28, 2014 11:34 PM GMT
    I agree with your advice. I don't mind the groping. As for a guy putting his cock in me or me sucking a cock that would be a decision I would make at another time. I believe what I am trying to say is being in the surrounding of a group of hot gay older men as I take a steamboat and showering. If my cock is hard that would be normal. Eye contact might lead to conversation. Conversations lead to friendships. Friendships lead to relationships. Relationships may possible lead to sex which two individuals want. Far as STD's I would definitely make sure about that during the getting to know stage and of course condoms will be in my wallet should that occur.

  • Aug 28, 2014 11:36 PM GMT
    What is wrong with showing a hard cock and looking at beautiful clocks if u r gay?
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    Aug 28, 2014 11:38 PM GMT
    Since finding out we have these in the uk too and discovering there's 1 in my city I have thought about going but I have no idea what to expect like do you have to be naked? And what if I'm the only one there? If you do anything sexual there do the staff watch or do you get privacy?

    I don't know if I'd have the nerve to go but I can't deny being totally curious about it.
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    Aug 28, 2014 11:50 PM GMT
    My first bathhouse experience in Florida, 1996, when I was single:

    I found it online, so I drove over. Nondescript entrance door, barely marked. Inside I found a bare, stark rectangular room. At the far end was a single little opening on a wall with a counter extension, like a ticket window. Quite a bit intimidating. When I answered that I'm not a member but wanted to join, the guy sitting there shoved me a bunch of papers to fill out on the little window counter extension.

    Which were basically confirming I'm gay, and not law enforcement and undercover. And asked for a pretty hefty 6-month membership fee. But OK, I can afford it.

    He also asked if, for another varying daily fee, I wanted a small or big locker, or a full private changing room. For this first time I asked for small, and got a plastic coil wristband with a key. I later learned the wristband color matched the kind of locker or room you have, a private room color making you especially desirable.

    Completing the process, the attendant pressed a button and a loud thunk drew my attention to a windowless, solid metal green fire door to my left. I held my breath, not knowing what to expect on the other side: immediate rape, orgy, dirty old men, what? I pushed it open, and found... Heaven.

    I entered directly into the full gym. Completely naked and half-naked guys in jocks, underwear and tight gym shorts were working out in a very extensive & competent facility, with first-rate equipment. One wall was all glass, with a view beyond of the outdoor swimming pool, where everyone was naked or wearing towels. WOW! Good decision, Bob!

    I found my way to the locker room, where I stripped and draped a provided white towel around my waist, the standard attire, when attired at all. I checked out the elegant TV room showing gay pornos, with leather armchairs & sofas, and walked past the open gang shower, with a half-wall of glass blocks. I saw the entrances for the steam room and sauna.

    Outside under the palms I found a recliner that I spread my towel on. I watched the naked guys swimming and drifting on floats, and saw the other nude guys sunning all around me. Does it get any better than this?

    After a while I went back inside, to try the steam room. An elaborate multi-room maze, made to resemble a cave, the walls all curving and irregular, painted like rock. With bench setbacks built into the walls, for couples to have personal encounters, and low faux stone tables set in the floor, for more play, and irregular "window" openings in the walls so you could see into the other rooms. It was sorta like the homes in the Flintstones cartoons.

    And all around me guys were openly having sex, on the tables, on the recessed benches, standing up, everywhere. I was growing dizzy with the rush. My own sexual adventures there are another story.

    Around 1 PM I was sunning naked back outside, after having a little swim in the pool. A weekend buffet had been set up. Not some mere hors d'oeuvres, but a complete meal, with a meat carver in full chef's whites. Announced over the PA system: "Gentlemen, the buffet is now open. The buffet is now open. Please wear at least a towel in the serving line."

    Once again I was in Heaven. I couldn't believe how glorious this was. I came back almost every day for weeks. Those daily adventures make for many stories. Eventually I had to return to Seattle, but came back in 1997, and did it all over again.

    Today my husband says I can't visit a bathhouse, nor will he go with me. OK, he's more important, and I'm not lacking for anything. But at that time in my life, when I was single and still new to being gay, I was delirious with the bathhouse experience. I suppose that hits a lot of us at some point, and I hope bathhouses, or something comparable (done safely), will remain available for new generations. But damn it was great!
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    Aug 29, 2014 10:43 AM GMT
    dannyboyUK saidSince finding out we have these in the uk too and discovering there's 1 in my city I have thought about going but I have no idea what to expect like do you have to be naked? And what if I'm the only one there? If you do anything sexual there do the staff watch or do you get privacy?

    I don't know if I'd have the nerve to go but I can't deny being totally curious about it.

    Just do it, if you are so curious. Stop thinking, no one wil eat you alive or rape you. Just be safe!
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    dannyboyUK saidSince finding out we have these in the uk too and discovering there's 1 in my city I have thought about going but I have no idea what to expect like do you have to be naked? And what if I'm the only one there? If you do anything sexual there do the staff watch or do you get privacy?

    I don't know if I'd have the nerve to go but I can't deny being totally curious about it.

    Just do it, if you are so curious. Stop thinking, no one wil eat you alive or rape you. Just be safe!


    I don't feel comfortable enough with my body atm or feel comfortable with sex stuff so I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable going even though I previously mentioned being curious.
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    Aug 30, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    dannyboyUK saidI don't feel comfortable enough with my body atm or feel comfortable with sex stuff so I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable going even though I previously mentioned being curious.

    I think the thing you must remember is that you don't have to do anything. If you get really freaked out, you can leave. So you lose $20 or $30 bucks or whatever, you must be comfortable. If anyone tries to do things you don't want to do, tell them no. If the persist, tell them louder so others can hear. It's your body, it's your time, it's your visit, it all goes the way YOU want it to go. Also, wrap a towel around you, I've never been to one where you HAD to be naked. I've always had a towel around me!
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    Aug 30, 2014 11:08 PM GMT
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    dannyboyUK saidI don't feel comfortable enough with my body atm or feel comfortable with sex stuff so I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable going even though I previously mentioned being curious.

    I think the thing you must remember is that you don't have to do anything. If you get really freaked out, you can leave. So you lose $20 or $30 bucks or whatever, you must be comfortable. If anyone tries to do things you don't want to do, tell them no. If the persist, tell them louder so others can hear. It's your body, it's your time, it's your visit, it all goes the way YOU want it to go. Also, wrap a towel around you, I've never been to one where you HAD to be naked. I've always had a towel around me!

    All true in my own experience. Although I would drop the towel in the steam room, and of course the shower, swimming pool and hot tub. But nobody says you have to use those, either.

    And the wonderful thing was, I didn't have to fight my hardon in the shower anymore. I'd walk out of the steam room for the group shower, my bobbing boner leading the way, completely at ease.

    And stay there hard the whole time, knowing naked guys were all around and watching me, loving it, no longer the curse it was for me in the Army or in straight gyms. Not quite a full exhibitionist, but at least losing my inhibitions & fears. It was a glorious feeling being completely liberated as a man, who could get a jutting stiffie if I wanted without fear of reproach or punishment, because I was a gay man excited to be where I was, doing what I was doing.

    And with the unexpected secondary result that when I returned to straight locker room showers, like at the Y, I didn't have to fight getting hardons anymore. Turns out the gay bathhouse was some kind of therapy for me, I guess, and for once in my life I was completely relaxed and at ease showering and taking the sauna with other naked men.

    I'm still not sure why the struggle to stay unaroused was banished, but it was. Maybe because I'd "gotten it out of my system", I dunno. But back at a gay bathhouse or resort I can still get hard in a flash in those same situations.

    Improved self-confidence? Removal of the fear factor? Who knows. But I do know if I were to try to promote gay bathhouses for their psychological value it probably wouldn't gain much traction in most quarters.
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    dannyboyUK saidI don't feel comfortable enough with my body atm or feel comfortable with sex stuff so I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable going even though I previously mentioned being curious.

    I think the thing you must remember is that you don't have to do anything. If you get really freaked out, you can leave. So you lose $20 or $30 bucks or whatever, you must be comfortable. If anyone tries to do things you don't want to do, tell them no. If the persist, tell them louder so others can hear. It's your body, it's your time, it's your visit, it all goes the way YOU want it to go. Also, wrap a towel around you, I've never been to one where you HAD to be naked. I've always had a towel around me!


    Yeah I know I don't have to do anything and I wouldn't any way because I haven't even done any of that stuff with the guy I'm seeing yet. For me though being around people even wearing a towel sounds seriously awkward and like something I wouldn't do.
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    Aug 31, 2014 12:44 AM GMT
    dannyboyUK said
    For me though being around people even wearing a towel sounds seriously awkward and like something I wouldn't do.

    Then don't. No one is suggesting you do something you don't want to do. Maybe you will in a few years. Maybe you never will.

    The question the OP originally posed was:

    "What's your opinion of going to bath houses."

    And some of us have expressed them, including you. There's no right or wrong answer, we're offering personal opinions, as asked.

    I found bathhouses incredibly liberating at that time in my life. You appear to be apprehensive and reluctant. Both answers are, by definition of "opinion", correct. You need not apologize or defend yourself, nor should I. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 31, 2014 12:57 AM GMT
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    dannyboyUK said
    For me though being around people even wearing a towel sounds seriously awkward and like something I wouldn't do.

    Then don't. No one is suggesting you do something you don't want to do. Maybe you will in a few years. Maybe you never will.

    The question the OP originally posed was:

    "What's your opinion of going to bath houses."

    And some of us have expressed them, including you. There's no right or wrong answer, we're offering personal opinions, as asked.

    I found bathhouses incredibly liberating at that time in my life. You appear to be apprehensive and reluctant. Both answers are, by definition of "opinion", correct. You need not apologize or defend yourself, nor should I. icon_biggrin.gif


    It wasn't a judgement or anything I perhaps didn't explain myself well. What I meant is I do want to try it I just would struggle with it atm is all.
  • whytehot

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    Aug 31, 2014 12:58 AM GMT
    ^^Pfft no need to tiptoe around these queens. Western society doesn't need bathhouses anymore... now they're only for desperate old men, or a novelty experience - not unlike a haunted house - for the curious.
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    Aug 31, 2014 1:40 AM GMT
    dannyboyUK said
    Art_Deco said
    dannyboyUK said
    For me though being around people even wearing a towel sounds seriously awkward and like something I wouldn't do.

    Then don't. No one is suggesting you do something you don't want to do. Maybe you will in a few years. Maybe you never will.

    The question the OP originally posed was:

    "What's your opinion of going to bath houses."

    And some of us have expressed them, including you. There's no right or wrong answer, we're offering personal opinions, as asked.

    I found bathhouses incredibly liberating at that time in my life. You appear to be apprehensive and reluctant. Both answers are, by definition of "opinion", correct. You need not apologize or defend yourself, nor should I. icon_biggrin.gif

    It wasn't a judgement or anything I perhaps didn't explain myself well. What I meant is I do want to try it I just would struggle with it atm is all.

    I understand it wasn't a judgment. You told us your opinion and feeling, as we were asked to provide. That's good.

    As far as struggling, I struggled, too. I was kinda scared, actually. I didn't know that was behind that green metal door that clanged open, as I entered the bathhouse. I had barely come out, had no idea what to expect. Nobody with me to advise.

    But I was older, retired Army Officer, familiar with danger, capable of taking care of myself. I was telling myself: "It's gay guys in there. What are they gonna do to you that you can't handle? If you don't like this scene, you leave."

    And of course, as I said, my fears were unfounded. It was really wonderful, just what I was looking to find. Sex everywhere, eye candy all around me, guys throwing themselves at me.

    I was 47 but honestly looked 35 as everyone told me, 150 pounds with a 31" waist, and a huge cock, my body still ripped from my recent Army retirement. I wasn't raped, but I almost had to pass out numbers to keep the guys in order. I'd never had such attention in my life, and by guys who were lovely themselves, no gross trolls among them.

    And they were all well-off or they couldn't have afforded to get in there. No bums or deadbeats. I knew that from the admission price I had to pay myself, and from the ultra-expensive luxury cars I saw outside in the parking lot.

    I've heard an expression about being in a candy store, and I really was. Naturally I know not every bathhouse is gonna be like that. Times change, and areas differ. But I researched beforehand, and apparently chose wisely. You do the same, when you feel you're ready to take the plunge.
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    Aug 31, 2014 4:38 AM GMT
    whytehot said^^Pfft no need to tiptoe around these queens. Western society doesn't need bathhouses anymore... now they're only for desperate old men, or a novelty experience - not unlike a haunted house - for the curious.


    ROFL icon_lol.gif