I do not understand human emotions. Anyone else like me?

  • Inque

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    Aug 28, 2014 12:08 AM GMT
    It has been occurring to me lately I do not understand human thought processes and emotions at all.mlike I pretend I know but I really have no ficking clue. Like my so called romantic life. I have no idea how to deal with people who like me outside of what I want and then throw them away when I'm done. I don't understand why a man would choose to love a woman because there is no point to a woman besides childbirth and the ease of not being discriminated against if you are with one. I don't get why people are sad or happy or annoyed or whatever they are communicating or displaying to me. It's not being self involved. It's like almost if you were trying to explain how to drive to a dog. I mean he can get behind the wheel and hell maybe even step on the gas but he doesn't see the point to driving in the first place. I have no idea how to relate to pople besides faking it and repeating what I heard and seen other people do.

    Anyone else feel like me?
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    Aug 28, 2014 1:43 AM GMT
    Maybe you have this:
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexithymia

    And yes, you are nuts.
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    Aug 28, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
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    Aug 28, 2014 2:40 AM GMT
    Ravensong saidMaybe you have this:
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexithymia

    And yes, you are nuts.



    He is. He's also a nymphomaniac.
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    Aug 28, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
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    Lol this is basically me whenever I'm in a relationship of any sort
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    Aug 28, 2014 6:04 AM GMT
    Perhaps you are somewhere on the very high functioning end of the autistic spectrum (see Wikipedia).

    Interesting that the Wikipedia article on alexithymia lists autistic spectrum disorders as one of the possible causes.

    I have known a few individuals with autistic spectrum disorders, from Asperger's syndrome (high end) in a young adult, to moderate autism in a child, to severe autism in a forty-year-old man who couldn't speak intelligibly or tolerate nearly any type of social interaction.

    In children, there are a variety of play therapies that hold the child's attention while trying to increase verbal interaction, response to verbal and physical cues, and ability to tolerate social interaction.

    Obviously, no one here can diagnose any problem you might have. But if you can afford it, you might want to meet with a psychologist who specializes in autistic spectrum disorders to see if you fit into the spectrum and, if so, if there is any way to increase your ability to understand what other people are thinking and feeling.
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    Aug 28, 2014 8:02 AM GMT
    OMG your responses to this guy are already disgusting. It is called "lust" and it is all you will get in philosophy out of the gay community. I am a-sexual now and use to be bisexual. I understand your philosophy of women but know you can actually fall in love with one without having sex. In the gay community you can't even have that experience and then it is destroyed by sex. It's called "love" my brother. And it IS a very complicated journey when you are like we are. Follow your heart not your hormones... Hormones are a wacked out place to be. Let your heart reach your mind more than your hormones do. Heck, just jerk off to porn if you have to. But don't give your heart away to lust. Lust is EVERYWHERE. It is the only way we can shut off these fucking hormones when we don't want to hurt another person like a woman giving childbirth. There are pros and cons to EVERYTHING in society. But YOUR purpose is to be happy. Love is really though all there is in the end so heed my words in this post.
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    Aug 28, 2014 1:18 PM GMT
    All you need to understand is this

    "All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire."
    -Aristotle
  • Inque

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    Aug 28, 2014 10:33 PM GMT
    RPearson saidPerhaps you are somewhere on the very high functioning end of the autistic spectrum (see Wikipedia).

    Interesting that the Wikipedia article on alexithymia lists autistic spectrum disorders as one of the possible causes.

    I have known a few individuals with autistic spectrum disorders, from Asperger's syndrome (high end) in a young adult, to moderate autism in a child, to severe autism in a forty-year-old man who couldn't speak intelligibly or tolerate nearly any type of social interaction.

    In children, there are a variety of play therapies that hold the child's attention while trying to increase verbal interaction, response to verbal and physical cues, and ability to tolerate social interaction.

    Obviously, no one here can diagnose any problem you might have. But if you can afford it, you might want to meet with a psychologist who specializes in autistic spectrum disorders to see if you fit into the spectrum and, if so, if there is any way to increase your ability to understand what other people are thinking and feeling.


    I think it may be somewhere on the autistic spectrum as well. Another friend I have suggested I may be borderline
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    Aug 28, 2014 11:57 PM GMT
    Sometimes I wonder if you have read/learned about a DSM IV disorder(/s) that particularly intrigues you, and then intensely fantasized that you yourself have the listed symptoms, projecting them into your (online) persona. Whether this is born from a need for attention or to avoid the real issue/s you have, thereby sidestepping the real psychological stress of accepting, and then honestly dealing with, whatever issue/s you are truly avoiding.

    Of course, that's just me wondering.

    What you have typed in your OP, like in many you have posted before in the past, in one way or another, sounds like you'd benefit from real professional attention and help to get to the bottom of this. Which has been suggested to you many times before, by many different people with good intentions.

    You never seem to (want? to) take it though (as far as I know/can remember).

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    Do you feel like what you describe in the OP is a problem for you?
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    Aug 29, 2014 1:59 AM GMT
    _SAGE_ saidSometimes I wonder if you have read/learned about a DSM IV disorder(/s) that particularly intrigues you, and then intensely fantasized that you yourself have the listed symptoms, projecting them into your (online) persona. Whether this is born from a need for attention or to avoid the real issue/s you have, thereby sidestepping the real psychological stress of accepting, and then honestly dealing with, whatever issue/s you are truly avoiding.

    Of course, that's just me wondering.

    What you have typed in your OP, like in many you have posted before in the past, in one way or another, sounds like you'd benefit from real professional attention and help to get to the bottom of this. Which has been suggested to you many times before, by many different people with good intentions.

    You never seem to (want? to) take it though (as far as I know/can remember).

    but-thats-none-of-my2.jpg

    Do you feel like what you describe in the OP is a problem for you?


    Well yeah I do feel like it's a problem. It's hard to get help though when you have no insurance
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    Aug 29, 2014 2:47 AM GMT
    Inque said
    _SAGE_ saidSometimes I wonder if you have read/learned about a DSM IV disorder(/s) that particularly intrigues you, and then intensely fantasized that you yourself have the listed symptoms, projecting them into your (online) persona. Whether this is born from a need for attention or to avoid the real issue/s you have, thereby sidestepping the real psychological stress of accepting, and then honestly dealing with, whatever issue/s you are truly avoiding.

    Of course, that's just me wondering.

    What you have typed in your OP, like in many you have posted before in the past, in one way or another, sounds like you'd benefit from real professional attention and help to get to the bottom of this. Which has been suggested to you many times before, by many different people with good intentions.

    You never seem to (want? to) take it though (as far as I know/can remember).

    but-thats-none-of-my2.jpg

    Do you feel like what you describe in the OP is a problem for you?


    Well yeah I do feel like it's a problem. It's hard to get help though when you have no insurance


    Ah, that's a bitch. No community programs that will cover it for free?

    Sucks that the quality and accessibility of an effective medical system is seemingly so disparate in different US states, and towns.

    Have you tried to imagine yourself and what you might feel if you were in somebody else's shoes, in interpersonal conflict situations that involve yourself and others? Could you see how they could think and feel differently to you in that scenario, based on the factors that influence/affect them? How so?

    I have to admit, i'm usually so wrapped up in my own thoughts, theories, feelings, personal experience and inner world that I don't always naturally do so myself, in some more intricate, subtle, complicated scenarios and character types, unless I specifically and intentionally will myself to, which takes effort, or I naturally find it important/interesting enough to dedicate focused conscious thought to it.
  • Inque

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    Aug 29, 2014 5:19 AM GMT
    _SAGE_ said
    Inque said
    _SAGE_ saidSometimes I wonder if you have read/learned about a DSM IV disorder(/s) that particularly intrigues you, and then intensely fantasized that you yourself have the listed symptoms, projecting them into your (online) persona. Whether this is born from a need for attention or to avoid the real issue/s you have, thereby sidestepping the real psychological stress of accepting, and then honestly dealing with, whatever issue/s you are truly avoiding.

    Of course, that's just me wondering.

    What you have typed in your OP, like in many you have posted before in the past, in one way or another, sounds like you'd benefit from real professional attention and help to get to the bottom of this. Which has been suggested to you many times before, by many different people with good intentions.

    You never seem to (want? to) take it though (as far as I know/can remember).

    but-thats-none-of-my2.jpg

    Do you feel like what you describe in the OP is a problem for you?


    Well yeah I do feel like it's a problem. It's hard to get help though when you have no insurance


    Ah, that's a bitch. No community programs that will cover it for free?

    Sucks that the quality and accessibility of an effective medical system is seemingly so disparate in different US states, and towns.

    Have you tried to imagine yourself and what you might feel if you were in somebody else's shoes, in interpersonal conflict situations that involve yourself and others? Could you see how they could think and feel differently to you in that scenario, based on the factors that influence/affect them? How so?

    I have to admit, i'm usually so wrapped up in my own thoughts, theories, feelings, personal experience and inner world that I don't always naturally do so myself, in some more intricate, subtle, complicated scenarios and character types, unless I specifically and intentionally will myself to, which takes effort, or I naturally find it important/interesting enough to dedicate focused conscious thought to it.


    I mean I try but that's where the breakdown is. It's like if you told me to build a bomb and you knew how but I didn't. I can stumble my way through it but I don't know exactly how to get from point a to point b