Straight Friends & Gay Friends.

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    Aug 28, 2014 6:23 PM GMT
    What do you think about this? Is anyone in the same situation?

    I have moved around a lot, traveled a lot, and lived and seen many places. I am always able to establish friendships. But all the friends are straight.

    For some reason I feel more comfortable with my hetero friends and make stronger bonds than with most gay guy; even after coming out 3 years ago. When it comes to most gay men I sometimes have a wall up but it comes down and when there's a sign of becoming close friends, it fades.

    I don't consider myself to be self loathing or anything and it's not that I don't like gay guys, I have met some pleasant people but the friendship doesn't quite ever last.
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    Aug 28, 2014 6:32 PM GMT
    same as a straight guy find it difficult to have a girl friend as just a friend.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 28, 2014 6:41 PM GMT
    Despite all the progress in recent decades, being gay is still not an easy thing for many men. Like it or not, you are a minority, recognized and accepted or not. Living a good gay life requires a bit or two of extra effort.

    A straight dude settles down sooner or later, and has time for maintaining friendships. Gay dudes are possibly having more fun in the processicon_lol.gif but it sure takes both time and energy. Some of this added cost goes at the expense of the friendship maintenance.

    Another bit has to do with the fact that straight dudes do not see you as possible competition. Not so the gay guys.

    SC

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    Aug 29, 2014 7:30 PM GMT
    This makes me wonder because for me all of my closest friends in the past and even now have always been women.
    The only males that I'm close to are some of my relatives but that's it.
    I actually have no gay friends at all, not even one.

    I can't help but feel there's probably something wrong with me or that it's not normal.

    At the end of the day though, as long as the friends you have are good ones then I personally wouldn't care if they were straight or gay.
  • secondstartot...

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    Aug 29, 2014 7:42 PM GMT
    well statistically there are wayy more straight people than gay people in most places ....so stands to reason that you would be meeting more straight people - unless you only hang around gay night clubs or something and its quite hard to make actual friends whilst everyone is intoxicated and its dark
    I have some very good gay friends and some exceptionally close straight friends - sometimes I look at my friend list on Facebook and I am quite amazed at all the amazing people I know and get to call friend !
  • anketa

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    Aug 29, 2014 7:44 PM GMT
    My best friend is hetero. He is amazing and I really love him. Seriously, if he needed a liver, I'd give him mine!
    We talk about everything, we make jokes and laugh all the time when we are together. However, I avoid talking about relationships [with guys]. Not that he is homophobic or something. Not at all! I just know he cannot understand me in that sense, he doesn't know the gay world the same way my gay friends know it.
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    Aug 29, 2014 7:52 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with having the majority of friends as hetero. All of my high school friends whom I'm still in contact with are straight including my best friend. It was only within the past decade that I started having gay friends and they are like family now. I really like having a mixture of straight and gay friends.
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    Aug 30, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
    Guys, we really have to man up to the fact that we are both gay and straight.

    Some men love the men. Go for it!

    Some men go for the cunt. Go for it!

    Some men are in the middle and love both. I think that's just the way modern men work.

    So go for what ever works for you.

    Tommy