7 Reasons to Have More Sex

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    Aug 29, 2014 9:36 AM GMT
    Most of these apply to men and women both. And one they didn't mention, but which I believe: frequent sex helps preserve a more youthful appearance. These are some of the reasons I'm not a supporter of the sexual abstinence concept among gay men. If you don't want sex with other men, fine, but your own hand is always there.

    http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Wellness/health-reasons-sex/story?id=25165117#
  • FRE0

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    Aug 29, 2014 5:16 PM GMT
    I gave up on visiting the site. It's advertising and / or promotional nature got in the way of getting information from it and I lack the patience to deal with such folderol. There are some items which I will not check out since doing so would require watching a video preceded by a lengthy advertisement for something which is of no interest to me followed by a cutsy introduction which consumes additional time. However, I will make some generalizations.

    With some studies, it is difficult or impossible to determine what is cause and what is effect. It may be that having more sex keeps people more youthful, but it may be that those who would be youthful anyway tend to have more sex.

    On the other hand, if one is not in a relationship or has a regular partner, having frequent sex can create health problems which are best avoided. It can be a very difficult situation. I do not claim to have all the answers and do not like the situation in which I find myself.

    Also, one could spend many house every week looking for sex then end up making compromises which are neither satisfactory or constructive. It might be better just to do without.
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    Aug 30, 2014 5:08 AM GMT
    @ FRE0 "On the other hand, if one is not in a relationship or has a regular partner, having frequent sex can create health problems which are best avoided. It can be a very difficult situation. I do not claim to have all the answers and do not like the situation in which I find myself."

    I agree 100%!!!
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    Aug 30, 2014 5:18 AM GMT
    You need 7 more reasons!!!??? icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 30, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
    Using a philosophical approach, would Nature not reward those that had frequent sex, and thus procreated, endowing them with better health and longer life? And not reward those who failed to procreate? Would that not suit Nature's plan best?

    Of course the reward mechanisms, primarily hormonal, work as well with masturbation to orgasm as copulation does. Or having sex with a same-sex lover. The body doesn't know the difference. An orgasm is an orgasm, the hormone release is no different. But the benefits are the same.

    Therefore I would contend that his study does confirm my prior belief that orgasm achieved by any method is therapeutic and beneficial. Nature would not have it any other way.
  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Aug 30, 2014 6:13 AM GMT
    On one hand I know what it is like to be abstinent. I am 35 and have never been with a man before or a woman. I'm a virgin because I wanted to wait for the "right guy". I want to have my first time with someone I love, not just some random stranger or something. Yet on the other hand, isn't everyone a stranger until you get to know them? I don't know what the gay community's stance on sex outside of love is, but from what I hear, it's pretty decadent. I just want to find a nice white man to settle down with and grow old together. icon_smile.gif -JohnnyQHomo7
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    Aug 30, 2014 6:25 AM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 said
    I don't know what the gay community's stance on sex outside of love is, but from what I hear, it's pretty decadent. I just want to find a nice white man to settle down with and grow old together. icon_smile.gif -JohnnyQHomo7

    First, I think you hear wrong. Sex is only as "decadent" as you make it.

    Second, do you masturbate? This study I cited suggests it's good for you. You don't require another man for that.

    Third, why do you specify finding a "nice white man"? Wouldn't any man be OK? Why white? Or any skin color? A nice man is a nice man, no matter what skin he's wearing.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 30, 2014 7:22 AM GMT
    BlackJockTN said@ FRE0 "On the other hand, if one is not in a relationship or has a regular partner, having frequent sex can create health problems which are best avoided. It can be a very difficult situation. I do not claim to have all the answers and do not like the situation in which I find myself."

    I agree 100%!!!


    And that doesn't even include anxiety about possibly contracting STDs.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 30, 2014 7:25 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidUsing a philosophical approach, would Nature not reward those that had frequent sex, and thus procreated, endowing them with better health and longer life? And not reward those who failed to procreate? Would that not suit Nature's plan best?

    Of course the reward mechanisms, primarily hormonal, work as well with masturbation to orgasm as copulation does. Or having sex with a same-sex lover. The body doesn't know the difference. An orgasm is an orgasm, the hormone release is no different. But the benefits are the same.

    Therefore I would contend that his study does confirm my prior belief that orgasm achieved by any method is therapeutic and beneficial. Nature would not have it any other way.


    It may well be that in prehistoric times, nature did reward people for having frequent sex. However, that far back, it may be that there were no STDs. People didn't generally travel very far so if a STD developed, it would not have been likely to affect many people. The situation now is very different.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 30, 2014 7:31 AM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidOn one hand I know what it is like to be abstinent. I am 35 and have never been with a man before or a woman. I'm a virgin because I wanted to wait for the "right guy". I want to have my first time with someone I love, not just some random stranger or something. Yet on the other hand, isn't everyone a stranger until you get to know them? I don't know what the gay community's stance on sex outside of love is, but from what I hear, it's pretty decadent. I just want to find a nice white man to settle down with and grow old together. icon_smile.gif -JohnnyQHomo7


    To a considerable degree, the "gay community" is fiction. There are many different outlooks and opinions ranging from your opinion to opinions which support having frequent sex with many different partners.

    Guys used to tell me that having sex with someone is a good way to get to know him. Actually, it isn't; one can have sex with someone and afterword still know nothing about him. Or afterword, one may learn that he is a bigot with a bad sense of values.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 30, 2014 7:32 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    johnnyqhomo7 said
    I don't know what the gay community's stance on sex outside of love is, but from what I hear, it's pretty decadent. I just want to find a nice white man to settle down with and grow old together. icon_smile.gif -JohnnyQHomo7

    First, I think you hear wrong. Sex is only as "decadent" as you make it.

    Second, do you masturbate? This study I cited suggests it's good for you. You don't require another man for that.

    Third, why do you specify finding a "nice white man"? Wouldn't any man be OK? Why white? Or any skin color? A nice man is a nice man, no matter what skin he's wearing.


    Good point.
  • Shark100

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    Aug 30, 2014 12:04 PM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidOn one hand I know what it is like to be abstinent. I am 35 and have never been with a man before or a woman. I'm a virgin because I wanted to wait for the "right guy". I want to have my first time with someone I love, not just some random stranger or something. Yet on the other hand, isn't everyone a stranger until you get to know them? I don't know what the gay community's stance on sex outside of love is, but from what I hear, it's pretty decadent. I just want to find a nice white man to settle down with and grow old together. icon_smile.gif -JohnnyQHomo7


    I'm in the same boat, when I was a teen I always pictured myself living with guy in a normal couple relationship, sad to see how people refer to sex as "it's just sex", and sadly in the gay scene sex is like changing sox every day
  • roadbikeRob

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    Aug 31, 2014 4:54 PM GMT

    To buy a new mattress and springs more often which helps the economyicon_biggrin.gificon_lol.gif
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 04, 2015 3:43 AM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidOn one hand I know what it is like to be abstinent. I am 35 and have never been with a man before or a woman. I'm a virgin because I wanted to wait for the "right guy". I want to have my first time with someone I love, not just some random stranger or something. Yet on the other hand, isn't everyone a stranger until you get to know them? I don't know what the gay community's stance on sex outside of love is, but from what I hear, it's pretty decadent. I just want to find a nice white man to settle down with and grow old together. icon_smile.gif -JohnnyQHomo7


    OMG! icon_lol.gif

    Where would one even begin with this?
  • judemc

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    Jan 04, 2015 5:52 AM GMT
    Kalifornication saidYou need 7 more reasons!!!??? icon_smile.gif


    The real question y'all
  • Noeton

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    Jan 21, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidOn one hand I know what it is like to be abstinent. I am 35 and have never been with a man before or a woman. I'm a virgin because I wanted to wait for the "right guy". I want to have my first time with someone I love, not just some random stranger or something. Yet on the other hand, isn't everyone a stranger until you get to know them? I don't know what the gay community's stance on sex outside of love is, but from what I hear, it's pretty decadent. I just want to find a nice white man to settle down with and grow old together. icon_smile.gif -JohnnyQHomo7


    Is it just me or did I not see a number of posts with essentially the same information? Would somebody please sleep with this dude already?!

    But, seriously, you're probably not going to know if you love someone until after you have slept with him many times. Also, there is a big variety of sexual vibes out there... You need to find someone with whom the vibe is right for both of you, so, hopefully, that's the first guy you sleep with, but it's not exactly likely. I bet there are tons of nice white guys -- one might say "bears" perhaps -- who are just waiting for your tender, or not so tender, affections... so get to work sorting them out!